The thing is that rarely is the identity of the child thought about in this.
Fuck the adult involved. This has repercussions that go beyond 'being nice'. Its not nice for the kids.
Basically biology comes into play here.
Humans can only be made by a male and a female. And they will produce either a male or a female.
Our identities are not just about ourselves as individuals who are disconnected to everyone else.
We understand ourselves on the basis of family too. So who your mother and father are matters - even if you fucking hate their guts or even if you were adopted as a child. Its still relevant to how we see ourselves.
If you have a child who is male who has a father who transitions it will be natural for them to wonder why, and to think 'is this genetic?' or 'did I have some kind of influence?' cos this is human nature to think.
You can tell someone they are now your mother, but they fucking know they aren't. Indeed the whole thing of telling a child they no longer have a father but have another mother is precisely the issue here. Because only females give birth and they can only get pregnant with the aid of a male - cos thats how genetics work.
Attempts to gaslight, miss the point here about how a child will process their own identity at some stage. You can not merely pretend that you have a mother who was a sperm donor - because biology.
The maleness of the father doesn't disappear because of a proclaimation of gender identity.
We KNOW that people who have been adopted can go through identity crisis of their own because this matters. Its the whole understanding of self identity being relational as part of a group (father/son, as a family unit, order of birth, mother/son etc). These are fundamentals that matter.
In this notion of 'being kind' a child is gaslight that this doesn't matter. When everything we know about relational identity means this absoluetely does matter. All you do, when you tell a child they must call their father their mother is set them up for a point in the future where this comes to a head and they have to deal with it - and they are more likely to have to do this alone and without support if everyone around them and all these organisation are effectively telling them they aren't allowed to or they must put their parent before themselves.
I mean what fucking parent does that? Put their own needs before their child's?
If you want to 'live life as a woman', crack on if you must. But for the love of god don't force it on your kids and your partner by saying they must now only ever refer to you as female and must condition yourself to think they are a actually a woman. Kids need to retain the ability to make a difference between Mum and their biology father - they are NOT the same. Kids should have the RIGHT to call their father Dad, even if Daddy hates it. Cos its not all about Dad's feelings is it? Its also about the identity of a child too.
What gets me, is how the children are NEVER thought of. Never centred. Instead they have to play second fiddle to someone elses identity - or if its a mental illness, have to put that first forever.
There is no balance to this - no real thought as to the mental impact of this long term. And this can't be studied because of political correctness and these children cant speak up because of their age / understanding at present and because of the stigma of 'being a bad person who has failed to be a ally' if they do.
The whole thing is horrific. I'm sorry but it is and we should be making more of a point about the impact of this because it matters to minors who are innocent bystanders to it all.