Page 2 | How rude! Her girlfriends won't participate in her spouse's kink.

Fimofriend · 2022-02-04T18:09:13+00:00

A woman complaining on Reddit because her girlfriends and the 8-year-old daughter of one of her girlfriends won't participate in fetishist role-play with her the transwoman she is married to. [[https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/sjyfid/aita_for_excluding_my_wife_and_hanging_out_w_my/]]

loveyouradvice · 05/02/2022 23:49

Yup had lots of pillow fights as a teen - didn't see it as a girl thing, just young teens fun.... and no clothes fell off! Strange that...

TinselAngel · 05/02/2022 23:21

Lol! 😲🤪

It's really not funny when you're going through it.

TinselAngel · 05/02/2022 23:19

I don't think this is true, but if it was I'd suggest considering the gaslighting and pressure that the trans widow would be under and judge the husband, not her.

WorkHardPlayHard1 · 05/02/2022 22:44

@Fimofriend

I don't know if it is made up, obviously, but if you read the Transwidow Escape committee threads here on Mumsnet a lot of the posters talk about their former husbands expecting to get a lot of girlfriends as soon as they have transitioned, and that their life will start to consist of lunches with the girlfriends, shopping with girlfriends and swapping clothes with girlfriends etc.

Funnily, they never find their lives should start to include doing more of the emotional load or more of the household chores.

Lol! 😲🤪

GAHgamel · 05/02/2022 21:45

@Isthatthebestyoucando

What’s with the pillow fights? I’ve seen that mentioned a few times. Is that even a specifically female thing?

It's from porn. It's ALWAYS from porn.

SwissBall · 05/02/2022 07:49

There was a Twitter post that said you shouldn’t judge TW for doing teenage girl things because they didn’t get to go through a female puberty so missed out. Obviously this was things like sleepovers, dressing “slutty” (their words) and not getting periods or trying to hide your growing body obvs.

DdraigGoch · 05/02/2022 01:02

@Isthatthebestyoucando

What’s with the pillow fights? I’ve seen that mentioned a few times. Is that even a specifically female thing?

It's a male fantasy. Women in their underwear...

MichelleScarn · 04/02/2022 21:16

Most of the responses (while acknowledging it's probably bollocks) are at least saying how ridiculous it is, especially the involvement of a child, sadly there's still the "your poor 'wife' you need to go to LGBTQIA+ support groups to learn how to meet her needs...."

SelfPortraitWithPterodactyl · 04/02/2022 21:08

If most women are like me, the only experience of pillow fights they’ll have is begrudgingly putting up with being repeatedly hit in the face with cushions by a toddler who thinks it’s hilarious until they have to hide all the cushions forever else blow a gasket.

FannyCann · 04/02/2022 20:58

*her wife

Though "He wife" might fit some situations

MrsTerryPratchett · 04/02/2022 20:58

There's a great bit in one of the Pitch Perfect's where the women are having a pillow fight and Becca says they're setting women back 30 years.

FannyCann · 04/02/2022 20:57

Weird how history is rewritten:

"which my wife (who back then identified as my husband)"

Surely it's the case that her husband now identifies as he wife? 🤷‍♀️

Deliriumoftheendless · 04/02/2022 20:49

If most women are like me, the only experience of pillow fights they’ll have is begrudgingly putting up with being repeatedly hit in the face with cushions by a toddler who thinks it’s hilarious until they have to hide all the cushions forever else blow a gasket.

GingerAndTheBiscuits · 04/02/2022 19:41

The responses are telling though.

ErrolTheDragon · 04/02/2022 19:32

I read through some of the replies and they seemed fairly unanimously YTA. Which is somewhat surprising but reassuring to see on a platform which has demonstrated such misogyny.

PonyPatter44 · 04/02/2022 19:28

Someone identified the pillow fight thing in one of the comments. Its what women do in porn or horror films (and suddenly ALL THEIR CLOTHES FELL OFF!!)...its fetishism again.

Joolsin · 04/02/2022 19:17

Wow, that relationship is a whole forest of red flags. Good for the child's mother for setting firm boundaries after the one creepy "playdate".

Hasselhoffsheadband · 04/02/2022 19:15

I have to say, I quite like 'you're the asshole' as an alternative to 'you are being unreasonable'

SunnyDelite · 04/02/2022 19:06

Aww! I've never had that (American) High School girls in a dorm experience. Or had a pillow fight, or yet a food fight (who cleans up after, let me guess) So much stupidity.

NutsOhHazelnuts · 04/02/2022 19:04

Getting grown women to do age play to validate his feelings.

Why does it always seem to be that TW are pretending to be teenage girls or very young girls? At least the ones on Twitter and other sm platforms. I've seen too many bios/posts not to believe this. It would surprise me more if isnt true, tbh.

PearPickingPorky · 04/02/2022 19:03

The part about the 8 year old girl makes me hope to holy god that's made up.

lapasion · 04/02/2022 19:00

@Isthatthebestyoucando

What’s with the pillow fights? I’ve seen that mentioned a few times. Is that even a specifically female thing?

It’s what men seem to think young women do a when they get together. Like a softcore lesbian porno. I went to a girls school, had endless sleepovers, and have never had a pillow fight. Didn’t do each other’s hair either.

QueenSue · 04/02/2022 18:57

What makes me hope it's made up it's how the poster refuses to see anything weird or inappropriate about this, including her partner wanting to play with an 8 year old girl as a little girl.

OnlyTheTitosaurusOfTheIceberg · 04/02/2022 18:57

I completely agree some late male transitioners behave like teenage girls and want a pornified teen experience. No argument there.

I just don’t believe that thread is real.

Original poster

Fimofriend · 04/02/2022 18:50

I don't know if it is made up, obviously, but if you read the Transwidow Escape committee threads here on Mumsnet a lot of the posters talk about their former husbands expecting to get a lot of girlfriends as soon as they have transitioned, and that their life will start to consist of lunches with the girlfriends, shopping with girlfriends and swapping clothes with girlfriends etc.

Funnily, they never find their lives should start to include doing more of the emotional load or more of the household chores.

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