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Woman on ward - complains about male patient. Is discharged.

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KittenKong · 27/01/2022 11:01

Going on twitter. She was in a Women’s ward (signage says ‘women’ but later this was disputed by staff).

Another patient on ward ‘Annie’ (not real name). Visitor comes in ‘Hello Fred’.

Woman patient complains that there is a male in the ward. Staff come on handed and tell her that there isn’t (and that there were no single sec wards) - and treated as if she is a troublemaker.

Woman mysteriously discharged PDQ, although not quite feeling well enough in herself.

twitter.com/gillyism/status/1486596070096478209?s=21

Baroness is on the case.

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barleybadminton · 03/02/2022 18:42

@TurquoiseBaubles

Though I do agree that not knowing whether a ward is mixed sex or not is going to increase women's anxiety, and is going to result in more misunderstandings (at a minimum).

It's a bit like the gotcha of "this butch lesbian friend of mine was challenged in the toilets" - well, she probably wouldn't have been back in the days when so many men didn't feel they had a right to go into the women's loos Hmm

Oh yes, those heady days before trans people were visible when no butch lesbian ever got challenged in a woman's space ever. You're living in a fantasy world.
Rheopecticfluid · 03/02/2022 18:41

@EeeICouldRipATissue

So the poor woman wasn't trans at all?! She was just being judged on her looks?! What happened to the usual mantra of we can always tell?! Hmm It's not people who are trans that are a problem. It's the self appointed gate keepers to womanhood that I find alarming.
Your concern for this woman is touching. Maybe you could extend that concern to the women who are victims of male violence, harassement and sexual assault as a direct consequence of males being allowed to infiltrate women's sex segregated spaces.
barleybadminton · 03/02/2022 18:39

@MrsSteveMcDonald

Semanya is male and from all accounts, prefers to be seen as a man everywhere apart from running so should be fine and dandy on a male ward.
So you want people born with vaginas placed on male wards?

And if they are unconscious or uncommunicative on admission then how are staff supposed to tell? Your model doesn't work in practice, especially in hospitals, that's the simple truth.

EeeICouldRipATissue · 03/02/2022 18:33

So the poor woman wasn't trans at all?!
She was just being judged on her looks?!
What happened to the usual mantra of we can always tell?! Hmm
It's not people who are trans that are a problem.
It's the self appointed gate keepers to womanhood that I find alarming.

TurquoiseBaubles · 03/02/2022 18:31

Though I do agree that not knowing whether a ward is mixed sex or not is going to increase women's anxiety, and is going to result in more misunderstandings (at a minimum).

It's a bit like the gotcha of "this butch lesbian friend of mine was challenged in the toilets" - well, she probably wouldn't have been back in the days when so many men didn't feel they had a right to go into the women's loos Hmm

ShrillSiren · 03/02/2022 18:30

If mixed-sex wards are so great for everyone why isn't it publicised rather than hidden?

Why not have signs at the entrance saying 'Mixed Sex Ward' so everyone knows where they stand?

Is it because most people don't like the idea of them and still assume they are single-sex?

There would be uproar if the truth was actually said out loud.

TurquoiseBaubles · 03/02/2022 18:29

The thread seems to have been deleted, but I read some of it before it went.

It was the most bizarre thread I've ever seen. I find it very strange to see that although she was discharged, there was a follow up where someone (I have no idea who) gave irrefutable proof that the person on the ward was a definite, natal, female, woman.

The reason I find it so bizarre isn't whether or not the woman in question was confused, misled, treated well or badly, but that someone from the hospital would release another patient's information in order to prove/disprove their sex.

Whatever happened here, the outcome is very, very strange.

Rheopecticfluid · 03/02/2022 18:29

And should hospital staff be checking people's genitals when not medically necessary to ensure they are placed in the ward which aligns with their birth sex?

What, you're saying men are likely to lie about their sex so they can be placed on a female ward?
No really? 😲
Well you could have knocked me down with a feather.

FFSFFSFFS · 03/02/2022 18:27

@barleybadminton “masculine looking women” - so you’re staying that there ARE biological differences between men and women and how they look. How very transphobic of you.

Rheopecticfluid · 03/02/2022 18:26

What about intersex women, where does someone like Castor Semanya go?

Castor is a biological male. Also, stop dragging intersex people into this. They aren't your support horse.

Rheopecticfluid · 03/02/2022 18:25

Its not just simple as just genitals, as the activists like to frame it in order to minimise the impact. But it's not just about that is it. It's about what men do with those genitals. It's about male aggression, and sexual offending. It's about male ability to overpower women. It's about the desire of males to breakdown those safeguards to enable easy access to women. The length males go to in order to achieve this is well documented. A cock is just a cock. It's the male attached to the cock that's the problem. And women do not want the cock, or the male attached to it, in women's sex segregated spaces.
But if it really is just about genitals, then there is no reason why the cocks don't just use the segregated spaces designated for cock owners. Is there....
After all, it's just genitals. Right?

MrsSteveMcDonald · 03/02/2022 18:21

Semanya is male and from all accounts, prefers to be seen as a man everywhere apart from running so should be fine and dandy on a male ward.

barleybadminton · 03/02/2022 18:18

@Hasselhoffsheadband

Oh don't worry, I knew it would be trans people's fault somehow.

I'm not blaming trans people. I am saying that when you go forward with a policy that says that a 'female only single sex' space is actually open to males as well, and women know that the space that is supposed to be female only is potentially open to males as well, they are going to be scared and suspicious.

If the woman in question knew that no male could ever be in the single sex ward she was in, she wouldn't have been suspicious of anyone being male would she? And that would include trans men.

So if someone is brought in who is not communicative and has fully medically transitioned and has no ID how are medical staff supposed to know where to place them?

What about intersex women, where does someone like Castor Semanya go?

And should hospital staff be checking people's genitals when not medically necessary to ensure they are placed in the ward which aligns with their birth sex?

The truth is trans women exist, intersex women exist, masculine appearing women exist, and any attempt to rigidly police single sex spaces whether based on genital inspections or chromosone tests would be intrusive and impact on those born biologically female. And I don't see any other way to do it, because as this incident reveals, women can't actually always tell.

frazzled1 · 03/02/2022 18:11

obssessively policing single sex spaces on the grounds of the genitals someone possessed at birth

Never understood 'the policing the genitals' argument - it's sex class: 'gestates young' vs 'impregnates' and knowing one is oppressed by the other.

Rheopecticfluid · 03/02/2022 17:58

Oh don't worry, I knew it would be trans people's fault somehow.

What it actually illustrates is that obssessively policing single sex spaces on the grounds of the genitals someone possessed at birth leads to biologically born women being abused.

What a bizarre argument. Unless women's spaces are protected from males, then biological women will be, and have been, abused. By some men identifying as women. And occasionally women may get it wrong. So what? This situation wouldn't have happened in the first place if trans rights activists, like yourself, hadn't been pushing this harmful ideology at the expense of women's safety.

And don't pretend for a moment that you are concerned about women being abused. Because I have never seen any evidence of those concerns, unless you can harness it for your own agenda.

Hasselhoffsheadband · 03/02/2022 17:54

I believe the head of nursing at the hospital was crowing about trans rights, so he was happy to imply that the other patient was a transwoman.

Reminds me of the bloke in the WiSpa video who had no idea who the male in question was, but was happy to tell the women that if it was a transwoman it was all fine and dandy so what's the problem?

Hasselhoffsheadband · 03/02/2022 17:53

Oh don't worry, I knew it would be trans people's fault somehow.

I'm not blaming trans people. I am saying that when you go forward with a policy that says that a 'female only single sex' space is actually open to males as well, and women know that the space that is supposed to be female only is potentially open to males as well, they are going to be scared and suspicious.

If the woman in question knew that no male could ever be in the single sex ward she was in, she wouldn't have been suspicious of anyone being male would she? And that would include trans men.

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 03/02/2022 17:26

What it actually illustrates is that obssessively policing single sex spaces on the grounds of the genitals someone possessed at birth leads to biologically born women being abused.

It demonstrates that the destruction of trust in healthcare has consequences. I believe the head of nursing at the hospital was crowing about trans rights, so he was happy to imply that the other patient was a transwoman.

KittenKong · 03/02/2022 17:16

No one blames trans women here. Just those who are demanding the right for people (anyone) to say that they are ‘who they say they are’ without question. You do know that some trans women don’t actually believe in a divine right to access single sex facilities?

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barleybadminton · 03/02/2022 17:03

@Hasselhoffsheadband

This really isn't the gotcha you think it is. It illustrates how important it is for women to know for certain that everyone in their vulnerable space is female.
Oh don't worry, I knew it would be trans people's fault somehow.

What it actually illustrates is that obssessively policing single sex spaces on the grounds of the genitals someone possessed at birth leads to biologically born women being abused.

Hasselhoffsheadband · 03/02/2022 17:00

This really isn't the gotcha you think it is. It illustrates how important it is for women to know for certain that everyone in their vulnerable space is female.

Hasselhoffsheadband · 03/02/2022 16:58

@barleybadminton

Ooops! Not turning out be a great week for the integrity of the gender critical movement.

twitter.com/Gillyism/status/1489201390341791759

"This is incredibly hard to say and I couldn’t feel more foolish, embarrassed, awkward and dumbfounded as I do now, but it’s been confirmed that the person I believed to be male on the hospital all female bay I was on, was indeed in fact, a female. This has been 100% verified."

Guess you can't always tell. Wonder how many more women will end up being harassed by gender critical activists because they are not sufficiently feminine.

If women knew that their spaces were guaranteed to be single sex, then this wouldn't be an issue would it?

It's because women have been told that males can be in their spaces if they so wish, and tough shit if they don't like it, whatever their previous trauma around males, that this is a problem.

hedgehogger1 · 03/02/2022 16:57

If single sex wards were very definitely single sex wards she wouldn't have had to question it.

KittenKong · 03/02/2022 16:52

Happy are we? So a scared, sleep deprived and drugged up woman is basically thrown off a ward because she suspected a man was on there. She was called a bigot for suggesting this.

Why didn’t the staff attend to this rather than treat her like a criminal? Maybe is someone people weren’t so adamant that wards be mixed sex (in all but name) this could not have happened.

Glad you are so happy that a distressed woman was sent home from hospital early. (You forgot to ‘be kind’)

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barleybadminton · 03/02/2022 16:42

Ooops! Not turning out be a great week for the integrity of the gender critical movement.

twitter.com/Gillyism/status/1489201390341791759

"This is incredibly hard to say and I couldn’t feel more foolish, embarrassed, awkward and dumbfounded as I do now, but it’s been confirmed that the person I believed to be male on the hospital all female bay I was on, was indeed in fact, a female. This has been 100% verified."

Guess you can't always tell. Wonder how many more women will end up being harassed by gender critical activists because they are not sufficiently feminine.