Dad taking daughters into the ladies or disabled toilets

Do baby changing rooms have a toilet and wash basin?

Yes Hoover, I am another who has had to have the pram stuck in the open door, all while dealing with period flooding. Any person who has had to take a baby out by themselves in a pram when there is no family toilet will have had the door jammed open.

I have had to take my mother in a wheelchair into normal toilets with the wheelchair jammed in the door as I had my hands full keeping her steady. Because there was no accessible toilets. It does happen.

People who push the ‘they just want to pee’ agenda tend to either never have experienced dealing with other uses for toilets before, and the issues of prams etc.

Personally I wouldn't have an issue with it - he's not identifying as a woman or posing a threat

And the other women and little girls know this how?

You don't think husbands and fathers can pose a threat?

Don't you think the fact he even thinks it OK is a huge red flag with regards to whether he poses a threat?

Please let us all know the give away this man is safe please. You could save so many people witg this gift

Personally I wouldn't have an issue with it - he's not identifying as a woman or posing a threat.

I think it'd be more damaging for the young girls to walk past a row of penises at eye level at urinals than it is damaging for women to have a polite father in the female loos for a legitimate reason.

Men should get positive comments from other men on what great dads they are.

I find this infuriating.

One of my communities refused to put potties in the men's but was puzzled as to why men kept nipping into the ladies and they couldn't fanthom why they found potties in the men's. Dads being dads is a good thing and the more they do it the less willies get dangled and flashed. Not that many like to swing them around anyway!

BlueberryCheezecake

Have you ever taken a child to the toilet?

I have not seen a male take their daughter into a female toilet. I have also not seen an opposite sex carer take their charge into the toilet when they are the opposite sex.

Next you will be telling us these are very common occurrences. They are not.

You have your very own agenda to push here.

No. Males take their girls to the male toilet, complete with wipes to clean the seat. When the child is old enough they send her in by herself and stand outside. They may ask for a woman going in to keep an eye out, I have been asked this numerous times.

This is a dilemma, I said earlier that in my view if there is no alternative then the disabled toilets would be the most appropriate. In an ideal world this is not the first answer. I understand the objections to this but they are not always used and we are not talking about the toilets being occupied for a lengthy time period.

@Bakewelltart987 no women don't pee openly in urinals. But they do sometimes leave cubicle doors open or come out with bloody hands.

I'd have absolutely no problem with this. Better that than he send them in alone or take them into the gents.

One of my neighbours who's a single dad to a 3yo daughter, actually asked me this question a short while ago and I gave him the answer above.

So far no one has had an issue, in fact he mentioned he's had a few positive comments from women saying what a lovely dad to take her in.

Nope. If they're old enough he waits outside the toilet for them, otherwise he takes them into the men's.

@Goldbar "On the privacy/dignity point, as a society we do not consider that young children have the same requirements for single-sex spaces to preserve their dignity as grown adults. Neither is it considered that the presence of young children of the opposite sex infringes the dignity of adults."

Exactly, it's having adults of the opposite sex together that is the problem and violation of privacy, not adults and small children.

I really don't see how people can have an issue with it he can't see you through a locked cubic door

What about all the unaccompanied girls now then? The ones who can't rely on a female only space because instead of factoring in some time and a fiver to grab a coffee somewhere with nore suitable facilities, a dad decided he was too special to do what the mums do, and turned a women's loo into a mixed sex space.

I used to have the cubicle door open or slightly open when I had a sleeping baby in a pram. Sometimes there was no accessible loo (I used the ones with baby change), sometimes I just really needed to go urgently as my bladder wasn’t that strong after giving birth.

I would have been mortified if a strange man came in and saw me. And I wouldn’t have had the time to finish, wipe myself and get out if he “called out”.

He really shouldn’t be there.

I would be fine with this he has young girls and I wouldn't want them seeing grown men peeing in the fellas toilets.
I really don't see how people can have an issue with it he can't see you through a locked cubic door.

Fathers often send their little girls from 5/6 onwards into the female toilets and the reason they usually feel comfortable doing this is because there are no men in there.
Yes, and the OP's dh will never ever be able to do that now. Even when his dd is 13 she won't be able to go to the toilet as he will know that there could be a man in there. The sort of man who thinks it's ok to go in women's toilets.

Fathers often send their little girls from 5/6 onwards into the female toilets and the reason they usually feel comfortable doing this is because there are no men in there.

No he really shouldn’t go in to the Ladies.

Nellodee, my mum used to do that to me too hahahah

Goldbar - I suppose if the carer/parent is going to the loo themselves/distracted/occupied with washing their hands or something, making the child briefly vulnerable. I don't personally see an issue with any of it as where I live the majority of public bathrooms are mixed sex anyway and there are rarely any issues, so mainly just commenting on the logic but I can see that the risk is lessened as the child would be accompanied, thanks 😊

Completely missing the point, but am I the only person whose parents suspended them an inch over public toilets so they didn’t have to sit on pissy seats?