I had a horrible night on Friday and feel really sad and disappointed in myself.
I go to the pub monthly as part of a meet-up for a hobby group. Trans issues have never come up in conversation before.
I'm not neurotypical and find it very hard to verbally debate/discuss things. I didn't engage in a conversation or automatically agree with something, and the person leading the conversation noticed this and started questioning me, very loudly and directly.
I'd love to be tough enough to state my feelings and have a conversation but I find it really difficult to process fast speech or frame responses and in this situation I was basically monologued at by this person very loudly, calling me a transphobe and various other things, I kept trying to get a word in, but then got upset because the manner of the person speaking was very aggressive. Basically left in tears.
I don't think I'll go back. She didn't want to hear what I had to say because I didn't immediately agree that all TWAW. I'm disappointed in myself for not being able to speak up, but I find myself completely crumbling in these situations.
I'm sure many others have felt unable to speak up and say how they feel. It's awful.
She made me feel like I was basically an evil disgusting bitch for not agreeing.
Does anyone else just completely fall apart when discussing these things with very vocally dominant and shouty people?