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A quick question about toilets?

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QuickQuesti0n · 07/01/2022 14:13

So much of the trans debate seems to come back to toilets and people using toilets and changing rooms of their birth gender, how would this work for people who have undergone full gender reassignment surgery? Would you want a ftm trans person to use female changing rooms with their surgically added penis and mtf trans people to use mens changing rooms while outwardly looking female? I am aware I am over simplifying matters but it’s so often what it comes back too.

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Goatsaregreat · 08/01/2022 15:03

If we're launching squirrels on this thread, here are examples of actual weapons being used in in women's toilets by men self identifying as women along with direct threats made against women:

twitter.com/ripx4nutmeg/status/1169574509827022848?lang=en

Datun · 08/01/2022 15:01

I’ve worked with many genuine trans people over the years all of whom have had top surgery not all have gone on to have bottom surgery mainly due to cost or feeling comfortable enough now the pass day to day.

But you are in absolutely no doubt whatsoever of the sex of the very people you use as an example of who should be able to use women's toilets!

So these very people, who everyone knows are men, should be able to use the ladies toilets, because...?

Floisme · 08/01/2022 14:54

To be fair, I can understand trying to focus the discussion on a divisive figure like Posie, and on what she might or might not have said. I guess I might do the same if I was trying to ignore the basic point that decent men stay out of women's spaces without being coerced.

MorkandMandy · 08/01/2022 14:53

For whatever reason, trans women who have had gender reassignment surgery (from what I’ve seen/ heard/ read) tend to understand that a person can never truly change their biological sex and feel that recent TRA voices have absolutely fucked their position. It used to be a tacit understanding between women and transsexuals (as then known) then the TRAs made it aggressive - they started demanding the transgression of women’s safe space and boundaries and suddenly, that voice started to sound very male indeed. It was ironically the very angry assertion that trans women are women that made so many people realise they are definitely not.

Helleofabore · 08/01/2022 14:50

Ask her. Ask her yourself. She may even answer you. But she is easy to find.

MargaritaPie · 08/01/2022 14:46

@Helleofabore

It was a call for males to play the game to identify as women to show how easy it is for males to access women’s toilets. And how powerless women were against those males.

Are you sure you want to highlight that in particular?

Or are you just stuck on regurgitating a bad faith interpretation.

Are you also telling us that transitioned males cannot respect the needs of females and stay out of women’s single sex spaces?

And you are an authority on transpeople how?

So why was she addressing "men who carry[guns]"?
Floisme · 08/01/2022 14:41

I'm always bemused by the argument that we said nothing because we hadn't noticed or didn't mind. I don't know how anyone who understands women's lives can believe that.

SirVixofVixHall · 08/01/2022 14:27

@rabbitwoman

You see, 15yeats ago, or 12,or 10 or maybe even only 5 years ago, it's not something many people would have minded or bothered about.

Yes, I think trans people have quietly and without comment been using their preferred loos for decades; I have never noticed any, or been disturbed by any.... Until recently.

A lot has changed. That's not what is being asked any more. So a big, big conversion has to happen now about what is best for everyone, making sure women and girls have everything they need before anything else.

The whole debate became aggressive and demanding and unfair. That was not the fault of women....

I have noticed a few over the years, and I have minded. I have heard the “we’ve been using your spaces for years an nobody noticed as we completely pass as female” line trotted out fairly often, but i really don’t believe it. A male not being challenged is not the same as a male not being registered.
TInkyWlnky · 08/01/2022 14:26

@ScreamingMeMe

Let's not let MP derail anothet thread to argue the toss about someone they have an obsessive dislike for, eh (see also: Marikn Millar)?

The Posie thing has been argued to death already, and really the men filming themselves wanking in toilets and smearing substances around seem more of a credible threat.

Yeah you're right. It's just another attempt to derail. I will ignore.
RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 08/01/2022 14:21
Thats the source for Posie

Thats not the source for fwr posters saying they want guards, armed or otherwise, in the bogs

Helleofabore · 08/01/2022 14:20

It was a call for males to play the game to identify as women to show how easy it is for males to access women’s toilets. And how powerless women were against those males.

Are you sure you want to highlight that in particular?

Or are you just stuck on regurgitating a bad faith interpretation.

Are you also telling us that transitioned males cannot respect the needs of females and stay out of women’s single sex spaces?

And you are an authority on transpeople how?

ScreamingMeMe · 08/01/2022 14:19

Let's not let MP derail anothet thread to argue the toss about someone they have an obsessive dislike for, eh (see also: Marikn Millar)?

The Posie thing has been argued to death already, and really the men filming themselves wanking in toilets and smearing substances around seem more of a credible threat.

TooWicked · 08/01/2022 14:19

Do you want the toilet guards to be armed too? (This is what Posie Parker suggested I understand.)

I've watched that video 5 times now and I don't see Posie suggesting armed toilet guards.

Could you perhaps transcribe it for us and maybe put in bold the bit where she says that.

TInkyWlnky · 08/01/2022 14:16

Do you want the toilet guards to be armed too? (This is what Posie Parker suggested I understand.)

This is what you said Pie. So where did she say this.

TInkyWlnky · 08/01/2022 14:14

@MargaritaPie

The PinkNews article links to this video
The video doesn't say what you think it does. Did you actually listen to it?
TInkyWlnky · 08/01/2022 14:13

Re Posie Parker there is a video here where she mentions women's toilets and guns.

Yes it's identical to the one you posted in pink news. Still no evidence there I'm afraid. Do you have the actual wording of her saying there should be armed guards? Or did you just cherry pick certain words and just make the rest up?

Helleofabore · 08/01/2022 14:13

I also love the fact that you post one of the most aggressive trans extremists interpretation of what was said.

It shows just how little critical thinking you do for yourself. And explains the nonsense you come out with.

MargaritaPie · 08/01/2022 14:10

The PinkNews article links to this video

MargaritaPie · 08/01/2022 14:09

"And you are wanting to add to the list! Seems hypocritical really"

Just to clarify I don't agree that we should have sex-checking-guards to look at everyone entering a toilet. As well as causing delays it does sound a big weird.

Re Posie Parker there is a video here where she mentions women's toilets and guns.
twitter.com/notCursedE/status/1354777558844383235

TInkyWlnky · 08/01/2022 14:06

I love the links to pricknews as though it was a credible source

But, but, but... It identifies as a credible news source. Wahhhh.

TInkyWlnky · 08/01/2022 14:04

Indeed. Men using women's toilets is without a doubt going to increase the queues. Aside from the fact they are not wanted or welcome. But let's not allow the issue of consent get in the way of male jollys eh.

TurquoiseBaubles · 08/01/2022 14:03

I love the links to pricknews as though it was a credible source Hmm

Were transwomen always legally allowed in women's toilets? If so presumably all men were - the decent ones had the decency to keep out.

Helleofabore · 08/01/2022 14:01

And aren't women's toilet queues long enough without any extra hold-ups?

And you are wanting to add to the list! Seems hypocritical really.

You don’t see the connection between those long queues and supporting an extra group of the population adding to those queues?

That is no surprise, really.

TInkyWlnky · 08/01/2022 14:01

And to have them armed with guns? That does sound complete insanity, yes.

It's not as insane as the penis people abusing women's spaces just because they can. Not that you've provided evidence that she said there should be armed guards anyway. Although even if she did, (still no evidence) I don't care that much anyway. Men should not be in women's spaces. End of. And she is free to speak how she wants.

HoardingSamphireSaurus · 08/01/2022 13:59

@MargaritaPie

"She did call for males to use those spaces in order to highlight the insanity"

And to have them armed with guns? That does sound complete insanity, yes.

Are you American then Marg ?

Cos everyone here reading that can hear the sarcasm dripping from every word.

It's supposed to sound insane. It's deliberate, challenging, ridiculous. Intended to highlight the stupidity of the issue.

Even kids understand sarcasm.