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Never forget how much they fucking hate us

37 replies

JustcameoutGC · 06/01/2022 06:55

Apologies for the guardian link, but this is such a distressing read.
I had no idea of how bad revenge porn was and no clue that the vast majority of it is totally legal.
Until men stop behaving like this, no men in our spaces.

www.theguardian.com/world/2022/jan/06/i-have-moments-of-shame-i-cant-control-the-lives-ruined-by-explicit-collector-culture

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FannyCann · 06/01/2022 10:43

Also shocked at this twitter thread - apparently women are meant to take it as a compliment when men ask if they have an only fans site, or suggest they get one.

"The best ones are the ones who say they want to help out by giving you money on OnlyFans. Perhaps they could just send you money without getting to look at your tits? Just a thought."

"And then they pretend that they asked to help YOU out if you get upset. I was at work, a mad asked and I told him it was an inappropriate question and to please leave me alone. He started yelling that he just wanted to support young women in his community. I hate it."

twitter.com/somethingterfy/status/1475853816922783747?s=21

FannyCann · 06/01/2022 10:37

The site is surely a massive doxxing site with details of addresses and other information? How can it possibly be legal? Apart from anything else it puts these women at huge risk, it's terrible.

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 06/01/2022 10:26

Instead, we get vague noises about "de-stigmatising" porn and selling sex. (Excuse me while I vomit.)

It’s so clever isn’t it?

Those of us who oppose women and girls being degraded and abused in this way are the ones causing the issue. If we’d just shut up, the women and girls wouldn’t feel any negative feelings about men speaking about them in this way and using their images in this way. They wouldn’t feel afraid because their personal and identifiable details are shared online if women would just shut up.

It’s a very clever way of shutting down any opposition, so long as you don’t delve beyond taglines like “empowerment” and “shaming”

RayonSunrise · 06/01/2022 10:19

Yes, it should be. It's so widespread there should be an escalating series of fines leading (if offenders refuse to get the message) to a criminal record, the sex offenders' register, and finally to jail time.

Instead, we get vague noises about "de-stigmatising" porn and selling sex. (Excuse me while I vomit.)

WomanStillNotAFeeling · 06/01/2022 10:11

That’s grim Shock I never let my DH take intimate pictures of me but I do worry about hidden cameras in changing rooms and toilets. Plenty of companies have had hidden cameras in their toilets but they mostly ensure the info doesn’t go public.
Sharing of any intimate pictures without permission needs to be illegal

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 06/01/2022 09:59

@AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken

The site is still up and the comments are absolutely disgusting.
This is apparently a girl he went to school with. Who he likes. Who was “lovely”

But still doesn’t deserve any respect.

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 06/01/2022 09:57

The site is still up and the comments are absolutely disgusting.

Never forget how much they fucking hate us
NotBadConsidering · 06/01/2022 09:47

It’s so utterly grim. I have implored my DDs to never ever let anyone take a photo of them this way no matter what, but I am still fearful for them. And those poor women whose pictures are there forever 😔.

This is also why I can’t abide people defending sites like OnlyFans, and the naivety of those who post there. The site has images stolen all the time, millions apparently, and shared in places like this, so those women who think they’re doing something empowering are being exploited without their knowledge and long after they’ve decided they don’t want or need to do it anymore.

ScrollingLeaves · 06/01/2022 09:29

It is so odd that the law and the police are failing to see the link between their attitude to women being treated this way on these sites and how that also permeates into a more general tolerance and blindness to offences against women.

FOJN · 06/01/2022 08:33

I'm not sure it hatred, I think it's worse than that. I think they see us as a utility; not even human. We exist solely to service their every need and any suggestion we might have needs of our own is a hate crime against men.

I really fear what the future holds for women.

EishetChayil · 06/01/2022 07:37

It was recently brought home to me just how much men hate us when I read about the first public toilet facilities for women, and now men trashed them and set fire to them because they couldn't stand the idea of it.

Strikemepink · 06/01/2022 07:08

I had no idea this was happening, disgusting.