How to tackle school

Also, why are you teaching your daughter to move out of the way of a male comes into a female space?

If your DD’s friend comes into the female changing room your daughter should be telling a teacher straight away, not inconveniencing herself.

One of my dd's friends is a trans girl. She changes in a single cubicle toilet. Simple. I told my dd that if she (the transgirl) came into the girls' changing rooms then my dd and her friends were to queue to change in the toilet. The school are sensible about it and the transgirl is respectful, so there is no issue. This is exactly how it should be.

Huge safeguarding issue right there. I’d be livid.

So pleased to see this question raised. PE is an area where mixed age changing rooms often happens, eg timetable reasons, sports clubs.
So if the sport is swimming then that's every 11 year old having to strip naked in front of a 17 year old male who identifies as a girl .
Hopefully OP you've got enough advice from here to make a strong complaint. The Safe Schools templates and checklists are brilliant to help parents navigate this safeguarding disaster.

You’ve had some good advice here. From my experience I would go straight to the Head, he/she can always delegate it, but then it’s still Head’s responsibility if that makes sense.

Might be some useful info here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4423700-Boy-in-girls-changing-rooms

Ask whether they'd let Mr Jones the PE teacher supervise girls changing? Then ask if Mr Jones decided to bring his authentic self to work and wanted to be known as Miss Sarah Jones, would they then let him supervise the girls changing rooms. Because Mr Jones would then be Miss Jones the woman teacher. So why not?

Girls being made to feel uncomfortable in changing rooms, then being made to feel bad for feeling uncomfortable. Absolute insanity.

As well as the Equality Act details mentioned above, I would also quote the recent depressing stats on sexual attacks on girls in schools, and ask them how they plan to deal with this if girls are being taught that expressing concern is "phobic".

The other point which I haven't got clear in my head yet is:

If a male pupil who says he feels like a girl is allowed into the girl's changing room, then it follows that all male pupils should be allowed into the girls changing room. The male who feels like a girl is no less male than any of the others!

Then we're back to language and pronouns and how:

'The girls don't want Alex to change with them, but she feels that she should be allowed in with the other girls'

gives a totally different picture to:

'The girls don't want Alex to change with them, but he feels that he should be allowed in with the girls'

I avoid confrontation and am nervous about tacking the school where my children go, but I can't just stand by and let the slow erosion of the rights of the girls happen.

And when you talk to the school. OP, don't use their language!
He is a boy (or preferably, say young man). DON'T use 'trans' anything. That's their batsh*t language.

Get all the information you need and book a meeting with the head. Focus on your daughter’s need of a single sex spaces and how young girls are uncomfortable with their bodies even without a person with a penis in their changing rooms.

Also, try to talk to other mums. We have an incredibly diverse community in our school and many of DDs friends are Middle Eastern, Indian or Pakistani . They actually wet other mums even before a play date and are very careful with whom they trust with their children even for an afternoon. We have single sex schools but the trans teachings (new provider against guidelines) went down extremely badly and the school is revisiting provider and content. Any bepenised person in their daughters’ changing room and there would be an uproar

Have a look at your school's policies.

I will have to tackle our school after the holidays as they have a gender recognition policy which misrepresents the law in the usual way (ie trans pupils can use the facilities they feel most comfortable in). It may be that your school has a similar policy, which can be challenged on a legal basis. Our school is all rainbow logos, though so I think they are very much under Stonewall's thumb.

I haven't looked at the safeguarding policy yet, but I imagine there will be conflict between the two.

I intend to go very factual, as in 'your policy says this but the law (quote relevant part of EA) states this'

I also imagine I'll end up talking about Maya's case and point out that while teaching about acceptance is good, gender identity ideology is a belief system and therefore lack of belief in it is protected in law. (My children are fully aware of sex vs gender)

And yy to risk assessment/impact assessment

Link:

go.mumsnet.com/?xs=1&id=470X1554755&url=safeschoolsallianceuk.net/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/singlesextoiletsfactsheet.pdf

Ugh I lost my post but the gist of it was use this fact sheet to quote the relevant bits of the law in an email as well as talking about privacy, dignity and safeguarding of the girls. (Allowing a 16/17 bio male to change with age 11/12 girls is a massive failure on the schools part - wtf are they thinking.). Ask for a meeting to discuss this with the Head. Depending on the schools response, you can escalate by getting more parents on board (I would begin to do this already), going through the schools complaint procedure and contacting the governors.

Check Dept of Ed guidelines online.

And tell your DD that it’s not remotely transphobic to demand no males are present - it’s basic safeguarding.

The school has to provide single sex spaces - it’s the law.

I’d go straight to the head. This is a very important issue and all those 11year old girls should be provided with privacy when getting changed.

Also try Safe Schools Alliance

You might find key info and letter templates here:

safeschoolsallianceuk.net/

Google Safe Schools Alliance. You will find lots of advice there.

There are some really good posts on this thread containing the information you might want to arm yourself with.

Legal rights of gender dysphoric yr 8 boy to be placed in a girls dorm www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4372780-Legal-rights-of-gender-dysphoric-yr-8-boy-to-be-placed-in-a-girls-dorm

You could also contact the Sex Matters organisation...they are excellent at replying. I know the need to feel informed & equipped with the right info before going to to complain!

Well the school has to follow the equality act and they also have a duty of care.

Your dd has a legal right to a single sex place to change, the trans girl does not have a right to a single gender space.

I'd be stating the law and asking for their risk assessments.

Then both of you need to step up and contact the school and make sure your daughter and her class mates are not in the same changing rooms as a 17 year old male.