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EarlyModernEnglish · 23/12/2021 08:33

I’d really appreciate some practical advice.

There is a trans girl at my daughter’s school who is sometimes present in the girls’ changing room when my daughter and her friends are getting changed. My daughter is 11; trans girl is 16. Daughter says she and some of her friends feel uncomfortable with this but don’t dare say anything for fear of being called transphobic.

I know this isn’t a new issue and has probably been discussed on here many times, but I’d really some tips for an effective, calm approach to follow in the current climate. I am so cross at the thought of these young girls being made to feel uncomfortable. My daughter is anxious about any action because she desperately fears being called transphobic.

Thank you.

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BlueberryCheezecake · 23/12/2021 20:13

@NancyDrawed

Blueberry, I read it as more about the wording of the EHRC guidance. AEA argued that being written as 'should' (as in 'organisations should treat transsexual people according to the gender role in which they present' was being read and advise as 'must'.

Also, transsexual and transgender are not the same thing, are they?

The below is from legalfeminist.org.uk/2021/05/10/aea-v-ehrc-an-explanation/

The Defendant, EHRC, said that

the COP said “should,” not “must,”
that exceptions were available, and
that the bodies which had adopted the “must” position had not expressly said that they had had regard to the COP. On that basis, the EHRC said that those bodies cannot have been led, or misled, by the COP, as none of them mentioned it.
In fact, the EHRC said, a policy that said a service provider ‘must’ treat people according to the role in which they present would be “directly inconsistent” with the COP.

In other words – other bodies may well be making this unlawful assertion, but it ain’t us guv.

also

The decision

The Judge decided that AEA’s question about the lawfulness of the EHRC’s guidance should not be put in front of the courts. His job was not to decide what the correct interpretation of the law was at this stage. All he had to do was decide if AEA’s claim was “arguable” – that is, was it arguable that the EHRC’s guidance was so wrong as to be unlawful.

He decided it was not, for the following reasons:

On the first argument, he agreed that the COP said “should,” not “must.” He pointed out that the guidance extends to just four paragraphs and is intended to be a brief summary not a detailed legal analysis. After “should” comes the disclaimer “However,” followed by an explanation of where exclusion will be reasonable. Although it is not detailed, it is not intended to be an exhaustive guide.
He also agreed that if there are public bodies which have understood a ‘should’ as a ‘must,’ these are capable of challenge by individual service users to individual service providers, whether inclusive or exclusive. We look at this below.
On the second argument, he agreed with the EHRC that even if a service has met the first requirement by showing it needs to be a single or separate sex service in order to exclude men, nevertheless, it must also meet the second requirement to exclude transwomen where necessary.
It may well be that a service needs to be female only, but the variation in presentations of transwomen from someone who is ‘visually indistinguishable’ to someone who has only just announced an intention to transition, and the variation in needs of the service users from a rape crisis centre to a changing room with partitioned cubicles, mean that there cannot be the certainty advanced by the Claimant.
In respect of the third argument, the judge agreed that physical appearance is relevant. This is unfortunate. Someone who is genuinely visually indistinguishable will be unlikely to cause challenge or consternation on accessing a SSS, even if they should choose to do so. Focus on a person’s physical appearance is likely to be experienced as demeaning by both the subject and the person required to make the assessment.

Yes, that's exactly what I said, only in more words. Single sex spaces can legally be trans inclusive and indeed if they want to exclude trans people they need to be be able to justify it, in court if necessary. There is no requirement for single sex spaces to exclude trans people, so again, the people on this thread saying it's against the law for a trans girl to be in the girl's changing rooms are quite simply wrong.

The Judge decided that AEA’s question about the lawfulness of the EHRC’s guidance should not be put in front of the courts. His job was not to decide what the correct interpretation of the law was at this stage. All he had to do was decide if AEA’s claim was “arguable” – that is, was it arguable that the EHRC’s guidance was so wrong as to be unlawful.

The judge explicitly said AEA's challenge was not arguable because it was "wrong in law". Again, this is a direct quote from the judgement. AEA's interpretation of the law could not have been proved more resoundingly incorrect, and yet mumsnetters continue to assert it as fact.

You might also wish to see the recent High Court verdict on trans women in women's prisons which concluded it is perfectly legal under the EA2010 for the MoJ as a service provider to choose to make their single sex provision trans inclusive.

Ultimately it's up to OP, but the fact is it will weaken her case if she quotes demonstrably false legal advice from organisations with an obvious anti-trans bias.

Ionlydomassiveones · 23/12/2021 19:59

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NancyDrawed · 23/12/2021 19:52

So, as with most things gender ideology related, there is no clear cut answer, it is open to interpretation

NancyDrawed · 23/12/2021 19:51

Blueberry, I read it as more about the wording of the EHRC guidance. AEA argued that being written as 'should' (as in 'organisations should treat transsexual people according to the gender role in which they present' was being read and advise as 'must'.

Also, transsexual and transgender are not the same thing, are they?

The below is from legalfeminist.org.uk/2021/05/10/aea-v-ehrc-an-explanation/

The Defendant, EHRC, said that

the COP said “should,” not “must,”
that exceptions were available, and
that the bodies which had adopted the “must” position had not expressly said that they had had regard to the COP. On that basis, the EHRC said that those bodies cannot have been led, or misled, by the COP, as none of them mentioned it.
In fact, the EHRC said, a policy that said a service provider ‘must’ treat people according to the role in which they present would be “directly inconsistent” with the COP.

In other words – other bodies may well be making this unlawful assertion, but it ain’t us guv.

also

The decision

The Judge decided that AEA’s question about the lawfulness of the EHRC’s guidance should not be put in front of the courts. His job was not to decide what the correct interpretation of the law was at this stage. All he had to do was decide if AEA’s claim was “arguable” – that is, was it arguable that the EHRC’s guidance was so wrong as to be unlawful.

He decided it was not, for the following reasons:

On the first argument, he agreed that the COP said “should,” not “must.” He pointed out that the guidance extends to just four paragraphs and is intended to be a brief summary not a detailed legal analysis. After “should” comes the disclaimer “However,” followed by an explanation of where exclusion will be reasonable. Although it is not detailed, it is not intended to be an exhaustive guide.
He also agreed that if there are public bodies which have understood a ‘should’ as a ‘must,’ these are capable of challenge by individual service users to individual service providers, whether inclusive or exclusive. We look at this below.
On the second argument, he agreed with the EHRC that even if a service has met the first requirement by showing it needs to be a single or separate sex service in order to exclude men, nevertheless, it must also meet the second requirement to exclude transwomen where necessary.
It may well be that a service needs to be female only, but the variation in presentations of transwomen from someone who is ‘visually indistinguishable’ to someone who has only just announced an intention to transition, and the variation in needs of the service users from a rape crisis centre to a changing room with partitioned cubicles, mean that there cannot be the certainty advanced by the Claimant.
In respect of the third argument, the judge agreed that physical appearance is relevant. This is unfortunate. Someone who is genuinely visually indistinguishable will be unlikely to cause challenge or consternation on accessing a SSS, even if they should choose to do so. Focus on a person’s physical appearance is likely to be experienced as demeaning by both the subject and the person required to make the assessment.

BlueberryCheezecake · 23/12/2021 19:41

@WarriorN

Notable that posters saying it's against the law post links and facts and the one who says it's well within just asserts it with no evidence.

Seems to be the theme with all things gender.

I cited the recent legal case which proves conclusively it's within the law, AEA vs EHRC. If you're unfamiliar with the case, it's easy to google - the gist is AEA tried to challenge the EHRC's advice that under Equality Act 2010 single sex spaces should usually be trans inclusive, their challenge was rejected as "wrong in law" (direct quote from the judge). Organisations like SSA and TT who've chosen to ignore this ruling because they don't like it are giving out demonstrably incorrect advice.
MrsOvertonsWindow · 23/12/2021 18:42

@lanadelgrey

I was thinking that all the girls queuing to use a single toilet would mean the PE lesson would not happen as it would be over before they’d assembled enough in kit and on the pitch/in the gym to do anything meaningful. And then reverse would ruin whatever lesson came next - chaos ensues and perhaps the school realises the error of its ways.
This is what the dreadful trans guidelines that the Crown Prosecution Service devised actually said. Girls who were unhappy undressing in front of a random boy should be excluded from their changing rooms . The contempt for girls that was embedded in those guidelines was very telling. Sadly they withdrew them rather than subject them to judicial scrutiny. Such a shame as it would have been glorious to see them try to justify them - and the publicity would have alerted parents to precisely how this ideology views the rights of girls to privacy and boundaries.
lanadelgrey · 23/12/2021 18:30

I was thinking that all the girls queuing to use a single toilet would mean the PE lesson would not happen as it would be over before they’d assembled enough in kit and on the pitch/in the gym to do anything meaningful. And then reverse would ruin whatever lesson came next - chaos ensues and perhaps the school realises the error of its ways.

Soontobe60 · 23/12/2021 18:13

@BlueberryCheezecake

I'm sure you don't want to hear this, but the people on this thread telling you the law is obliged to provide single sex spaces in the sense of "no trans allowed" are flat out wrong - this is a misreading of the Equality Act, as demonstrated recently by the AEA's failed challenge to the EHRC's guidance. Single sex spaces can legally be trans inclusive, and in fact are obliged to be trans inclusive unless there is a justifiable reason why they shouldn't be (and service providers can still choose to be trans inclusive regardless of what anyone else thinks is justifiable or not). So if you go in there all guns blazing saying "This is illegal", you're quite simply wrong and the school will tell you so.
The justification is that females do not have to be placed in any situation where they may be undressed, being examined or receiving any other intimate procedure in the presence of males - which is what transwomen are as well you know. THAT is the law. Why are you trying to justify males being allowed in females changing rooms? Don’t you believe in safeguarding?
FrancescaContini · 23/12/2021 18:02

@Shedmistress

So if you go in there all guns blazing saying "This is illegal", you're quite simply wrong and the school will tell you so.

Another who is desperate to allow 16 year old boys to change with 11 year old girls.

What is wrong with these people and why are they so keen on this?

Yes, I was wondering about this too.

I mean, why would you actually SUPPORT a 17-year-old male being in the same changing room as 11-year-old girls? I asked my DS for his opinion and he was aghast at the idea and said it was “very weird, why would a boy want to do that?”

titchy · 23/12/2021 17:54

@WarriorN

Notable that posters saying it's against the law post links and facts and the one who says it's well within just asserts it with no evidence.

Seems to be the theme with all things gender.

Indeed. It's almost as if they're telling lies.
WarriorN · 23/12/2021 17:50

Notable that posters saying it's against the law post links and facts and the one who says it's well within just asserts it with no evidence.

Seems to be the theme with all things gender.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 23/12/2021 15:41

No matter how often I see it I am always Shock when I see adults arrive on these threads and insist that girls must be compelled to undress in front of a 17 year old male identifying as the opposite sex.

Despite the hopes of one poster, the EHRC technical guidance for schools does not state that children self identifying as the opposite sex must be allowed access into the opposite single-sex space. It suggests that a suitable alternative might be to allow the pupil to use private changing facilities, such as the staff changing room or another suitable space.

fairplayforwomen.com/equality-act-2010_womens-rights/

This is an open attack on the rights of girls to have privacy, safety and to establish boundaries. It's a disgrace.

Mybalconyiscracking · 23/12/2021 14:48

Poor little 11year old, how absolutely grim for them.

YouSetTheTone · 23/12/2021 14:46

@ANameChangeAgain

One of my dd's friends is a trans girl. She changes in a single cubicle toilet. Simple. I told my dd that if she (the transgirl) came into the girls' changing rooms then my dd and her friends were to queue to change in the toilet. The school are sensible about it and the transgirl is respectful, so there is no issue. This is exactly how it should be.
If the trans child is changing in a single toilet cubicle why are you telling your DD and her friends that they should queue to use the loo? Why change a situation that already has a solution?

Your DD and her friends should remind the trans child to use the toilet if they come into the changing room. The girls should not have to vacate their single sex space.

Or maybe the boys should be educated to accept gender non-conforming boys in their changing room?

Thelnebriati · 23/12/2021 14:45

Single sex services such as changing rooms are protected by the Equality Act;

(6)The condition is that—
(a)the service is provided for, or is likely to be used by, two or more persons at the same time, and
(b)the circumstances are such that a person of one sex might reasonably object to the presence of a person of the opposite sex.

www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2010/15/schedule/3/part/7/crossheading/singlesex-services

Leafstamp · 23/12/2021 14:41

The bottom line is girls and women should be able to say no to males being in their spaces when they are in a state of undress.

The fact that in 2021 Britain there are people too scared to speak up about this is shocking. (Not a criticism of you OP, I just can’t believe it’s got to this point).

Beamur · 23/12/2021 14:14

Tbh. I wouldn't go all guns blazing either. I would say precisely what your specific concerns are and ask the school why students of different ages and different sexes are changing in the same area. Your DD is uncomfortable with this arrangement. Her dignity and privacy are as important as anyone else's.

Shedmistress · 23/12/2021 14:12

So if you go in there all guns blazing saying "This is illegal", you're quite simply wrong and the school will tell you so.

Another who is desperate to allow 16 year old boys to change with 11 year old girls.

What is wrong with these people and why are they so keen on this?

Beamur · 23/12/2021 14:09

But they still need to show that they have deliberately made that choice and assessed the risks involved to all concerned.

nauticant · 23/12/2021 13:58

Just so you know OP, the poster of the immediately preceding post is not above spreading misinformation to support their activism.

BlueberryCheezecake · 23/12/2021 13:54

I'm sure you don't want to hear this, but the people on this thread telling you the law is obliged to provide single sex spaces in the sense of "no trans allowed" are flat out wrong - this is a misreading of the Equality Act, as demonstrated recently by the AEA's failed challenge to the EHRC's guidance. Single sex spaces can legally be trans inclusive, and in fact are obliged to be trans inclusive unless there is a justifiable reason why they shouldn't be (and service providers can still choose to be trans inclusive regardless of what anyone else thinks is justifiable or not). So if you go in there all guns blazing saying "This is illegal", you're quite simply wrong and the school will tell you so.

FrancescaContini · 23/12/2021 12:09

@ANameChangeAgain

One of my dd's friends is a trans girl. She changes in a single cubicle toilet. Simple. I told my dd that if she (the transgirl) came into the girls' changing rooms then my dd and her friends were to queue to change in the toilet. The school are sensible about it and the transgirl is respectful, so there is no issue. This is exactly how it should be.
Why should the girls get changed in the TOILET? They should be able to get changed in the girls’ changing room itself and not cramped up inside a toilet cubicle.

I don’t understand why you think this is okay for all those girls.

DazzlePaintedBattlePants · 23/12/2021 11:48

Follow the school’s complaint policy, which must be on their website, and articulate everything that is laid out on this thread. If you don’t follow the complaints policy, the school won’t care, or be obliged to do anything.

ItsDinah · 23/12/2021 11:35

Would your husband complain ? Men often have very robust ideas about their young daughters being around teenage boys.

FrancescaContini · 23/12/2021 10:56

@oldwomanwhoruns

And when you talk to the school. OP, don't use their language! He is a boy (or preferably, say young man). DON'T use 'trans' anything. That's their batsh*t language.
Yes. Stick to biological truth.
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