During an argument my partner told me to go be an independent modern woman and get a full time job , put our son in nursery and we should split the bills 50/50. I was shocked by this statement . The argument started off because everytime he comes home from work he literally has his dinner and then he’s gone into the room, watching YouTube , playing x box . I don’t see him till bedtime after I’ve put our son to sleep . Even on the weekends when he’s not working it’s the same . I don’t see him. He doesn’t do any parental role , only thing I can get him to do is watch our son for 10-15 minutes so I can maybe tidy up or go use the bathroom.
I told him how is he expecting me to get a full time job then come home to look after our toddler and cook and clean etc . I would end up over exhausted. I told him if he wants me to contribute to the bills 50/50 then he will need to contribute to the house hold and our son 50/50 too. Take turns on the chores , this whole him coming home from work and doing nothing can’t happen, he will also need to contribute towards nursery, I also mentioned he would need to hire a cleaner then. Overall he didn’t like what I was saying and went quite . I know he’s telling his family that I’m lazy and I don’t want to work but that is not the case . I have always worked before I had my baby, but my circumstances right now don’t allow me to work. I hate how I am being shamed for not being a strong independent modern woman. It’s like I need to prove a point and show that i can do it all but my mental health won’t cope with working full time then having everything at home be my responsibility. What are you opinions ? And for mums who do work full time what is your home life like ? Do you share household responsibility