Omnisexual 11 year old

Omnisexual means you feel attracted to all of the sexes that exist.

Which is two.

OR this stuff gets talked about at school! Plus it's on BBC, and plenty schools added all sorts to phse. It's everywhere.

It's always blame the parents, I personally think because it's easier than looking at the actual problem.

So here it is:

Pansexuality
Omnisexuality is often compared to pansexuality as they both describe an attraction to all genders, however they can also be distinguished from one another, often being used to indicate a specific and personal experience of one's attraction to all genders.

The most commonly cited difference is that omnisexuals factor gender into their attraction to a individual, whereas pansexuals generally do not feel any internal difference between genders, or that any difference felt between genders is irrelevant, it does not factor into their attraction. This is what is meant when pansexuals are referred to as “gender blind”.

Omnisexuals may also feel a difference in attraction between genders. This can manifest in having a preference for certain gender(s). It can also feel that attraction to a certain gender feels different to the attraction to another. (for example: they may feel like the act of being attracted to a woman feels different then being attracted to a man). Omnisexuals may be attracted to entirely different traits for different genders, or may find certain traits more attractive in some genders than in others. Some individuals may choose to identify with both terms simultaneously, while others may feel that one describes them more accurately than the other. As such the distinction between pansexual and omnisexual often comes down to individual preference.

I'm sure she knows her feelings are for both boys and girls, not sure about omni, pan is the term I've heard ... my dd calls herself bi though

It is a teen thing - I don't think kids are 'confused', but they are overthinking it a tad and it is largely harmless!

I have said this to oldest (13) who identifies as non-binary and is pondering whether they are bisexual or pansexual etc and I have said to them they really don't have to worry about that yet, or what gender they 'feel'. I've said that they and a lot of their friends are likely not really 'sexual' at all yet and they don't have to expend energy on considering where they might fall. I expect it'll all even out in the next few years as kids realise actually, they're just attracted to the opposite sex really and/or maybe labels will just fall away and people will feel comfortable being attracted to whichever sex (or non-gender identifying type!)

As you see I am respecting their pronouns as I think the best approach is to keep the conversation going and not making it an issue. The important thing is they've told me they're happy with their body and the one thing they're pretty sure they're not is male - dysmorphia is not something I want to have to deal with and I have reinforced the importance of loving and accepting your body (not in terms of gender per se, but generally, and I think it's sunk in!)

My first thought about any child of that age declaring that they are omnisexual, pan, or obscure gender identities etc is that they are spending too much time unsupervised on the Internet.

Or was there a bit of a grown up news panic about goth making teens depressed and dire consequences? Think maybe.

However. Parents who said why always black? Just a bit of colour would be nice sometimes! Weren't accused of literally wanting their children to die...

It's a teen thing. No more no less.

This one is so worrying because it's being driven by adults, outrageous stats and statements, in mainstream politics, undermining women and girls etc etc etc.

I dont remember anything like that with blur, the pixies, the smiths etc.

Dd1 now yr 9 girls school. Group of about 7 girls. All have a gender id. They call each other by names not their actual ones. All of them. No hint of wanting to actually do anything else.

It really is just the thing in some groups of children, tribal. They are all cheerful and close. I try to keep up with the name changes when taking DD but have defaulted to 'they' for all of them. Explained to DD I am older and memory not do good. I'll just say they and she said no it's fine.

I mean. Unless child is unhappy/ depressed etc then I wouldn't worry at all.

Incidentally this sort of post in other circles response is YOU WANT CHILDREN TO DIE.
Yeah mums just so many aok with their children/ other children dying. Mothers are known for having zero interest in looking after their children. Trufact.

My DD is constantly telling me that 98% of the pupils at her (single sex) school are not straight.

It's much cooler to say you're bi even when you've only ever liked boys.

TBF it was similar in goth circles in the 80s and 90s. Oh crap, maybe we started it.

@MrsTerryPratchett he was so beautiful!

Although my younger friend is a lesbian and said at a young age fantasised about being best friends with Cordelia from Buffy!

I suppose you only realise when you are older

Op don't worry.

It's the current tribes thing.

I remember year 6 dd1 had watsapp group with 3 school friends. (Rule was she had to let me check it. I would skim just to check nothing dodgy.)

This 4 yr6 group though was eh? So read a bit.

It was to me aww bless.

They were all saying are you going to come out? Do you want to come out? How do you think they'll react?

They each had both a gender identity and new label sexuality they were considering revealing. All 4? Probability? They also all had posting names different to actual name.

Like. Bigender greysexual. That sort of thing.

And the agonising! I know the parents and the reaction I'm sure would have been eg that's nice, what would you like for tea? Would be a certainty.

It's the thing now for those who would have been 'alternative' in my day. Indie, goth, etc.

Don't worry and don't make a fuss about it.

They're 11!

My DD is constantly telling me that 98% of the pupils at her (single sex) school are not straight. This seems to defy the "usual" stats in adults so it seems to me that the majority of these girls are bowing to pressure to define themselves at a very young age. Sadly as soon as they start senior school the school seems to spend an inordinate amount of time talking about LGBT issues and TikTok etc don't help (don't get me wrong I have no problem with schools teaching about sexuality however it seems to have become an all-consuming topic).

At 11? Come on

The thought of being straight or "cis" is too much for many young people to cope with. They can't believe that they could possibly be so dull, so there are an array of labels they can assign themselves, most of which have no meaning whatsoever.

Don’t know what that is. Surprised an 11 year old does, tbh.

Not heard that one before!

Pansexual yes although what's wrong with bisexual I don't know.
(I do know. Bisexual is about sex not gender. Iirc pansexual specifically says yes trans people. Bisexual outdated and bigoted. Also doesn't SPECIFICALLY mentions trans people and I think it's illegal now to say anything without mentioning trans people).

Omni sexual? Omni as in everything? I think that's what it means. So includes... Everything? Scallops, sand dunes, bingo cards and ... EVERYTHING?

Lolol.

Words eh. Who cares what they actually mean?

I knew I 'liked' Han Solo when I was about 10 so I don't think children that age don't know. BUT I hate that sexuality is viewed as the only identity at the moment. There is so much more to life (especially when you are 11)

It's because there are no tribes anymore.

They listen to their parents' music and all look the same. Where do they go if they feel different? I was able to show my parents how old they were, and how individual I was, by dressing like Courtney love, listening to sweary music and setting the curtains on fire with joss sticks.

One of my children told me he was bisexual when he was 11. I was pretty sure he wasn't - he was just at an age where he had very few sexual feelings and got on better with boys than girls. I just told him that was lovely and great.

Now he's 15 he's completely heterosexual (although still finds it difficult to talk to girls).

I don't know why he felt he needed to declare his sexuality at such a young age but I suspect peer pressure had a huge part to play in it.

Our poor children are being sexualised before they're barely out of dolls and teddies.

I really don't see what the big deal with. I experimented with many a label: lesbian at 11, non binary for a bit of my teens, bisexual for a bit... I'm now a well adjusted adult lesbian in a long-term relationship with an adult female, and I think all the different labels were helpful because I got to try out different things and figure out where I'm at.

As long as it's not 11 year olds experimenting sexually, and it's in the same vein as having a boyfriend in Y7 and having a bit of holding hands and then ignoring them, there's nothing wrong with it.