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FloralBunting · 23/11/2021 11:43

Well, sort of. I've come to the end of my time on MN. I've been here under various names for the best part of two decades, and it's been transformational. I've met some of my best friends, received great advice about raising my kids, dealing with abuse, and most of all, shifted from being a mousey submissive wife Christian into a complete gobshite feminist lesbian.

I haven't been a regular for quite some time. I'm active and busy doing other things tbh. But I do occasionally pop in to see what's what. The past few times reminded me why I stopped visiting that much in the first place. I am often deleted now, and the feeling of walking on eggshells in case I'm reported by TRAs is no less unpleasant now than it was when this was the only platform available to talk about women's rights, albeit in a highly controlled manner.

It's not the only platform anymore, not by a very long way, so I'm making the decision to not submit to that feeling ever again. So, sort of flounce, yes, but mostly it's a fond farewell to the many women whom I've been helped by on MN and FWR whom I don't know offline. Keep speaking up in your own sphere, be more JKR, be more Magdalen, be anonymous and know that whatever you do makes a difference.

Women and girls matter, including you, so take good care of yourself.

Sincerely wims, go well.

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vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 26/11/2021 22:27

Dammit, no I didn't! Will go and find the strike thread, though, thank you!

MistandMud · 25/11/2021 10:49

Ah, possibly not -- it's from the Strike fans thread but I'll ask MNHQ to take it down (hoping VVV has made a note of it first)

Thelnebriati · 25/11/2021 10:22

Is Floral OK with that info being linked to her?

MistandMud · 24/11/2021 20:43

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MarieIVanArkleStinks · 24/11/2021 18:56

I'm sorry you've made this decision, because I've enjoyed your posts. I also completely understand why you've made it. I can't be a regular contributor to this board. I have to step back from it from time to time, sometimes for a lot of time. It's an important discussion but the entire subject scares, angers and exhausts me in equal measure. I'm at high risk of being in the direct firing line, and sometimes (as with #MeToo) I freely admit I get obsessed with it. My history makes discussions of things like 'reframe your trauma' very difficult, and the censorship and loss of so many posters is frustrating.

With thanks. Go well.

Jux · 24/11/2021 18:38

I'm sorry to see you go. Don't deregister! Please leave the door open. You'll be missed.

2319inprogress · 24/11/2021 18:20

Well I've surprised myself & been a bit teary to read this. I've watched you blossom Floral

Much love 💚🤍💜 (you have all the strength already 💐

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 24/11/2021 18:19

FLORAL HAS A PODCAST?

Why do I not know this? Anyone able to signpost me to this vital resource?

Phobiaphobic · 24/11/2021 18:13

And yes, I'll really miss your posts. Good luck out there!

Phobiaphobic · 24/11/2021 18:12

I understand your reasoning, OP, but I'm here for the innocent bystanders and those with a modicum of curiosity. MN has peaked an awful lot of people who would never find the other places where GC peeps hang out.

ARoombaOfOnesOwn · 24/11/2021 13:40

Your posts have been brilliant and you write so clearly, you will be missed hugely.

RadicalFern · 24/11/2021 13:35

Floral I realise that as so many others have said it already, I'm not adding anything much to say that I'll miss your posts, but I'm saying it anyway! I will miss your posts, and hope to read more of them on whatever media you continue to post on.

Flowers
KaycePollard · 24/11/2021 13:21

@FloralBunting I’m sorry you’re leaving. Your posts are brilliant - you put so succinctly what I struggle to articulate sometimes!

I’ll miss your posts. Please drop in every now and again to keep us on the straight Grin and narrow Flowers

Fariha31 · 24/11/2021 10:39

I will miss you Sad

CeratopsofthePharoahs · 24/11/2021 10:23

I too have some Ovarit invite codes, pm me if needed.

We'll miss you Floral.

thinkingaboutLangCleg · 24/11/2021 00:18

We’ll miss you, Floral. Thanks for your patience and wisdom over the years. I’ve learnt a lot from you and other wonderful vipers.

What other platforms do you recommend? Mumsnet’s speech monitoring can be a nuisance, but I like the ethos here, and it’s easy to use.

Very best wishes to you IRL. Flowers

Doyouthinkeirsaurus · 23/11/2021 23:58

Oh Floral, I have been here for about 6 years, often silent, frequently name changed. You have been a constant on here, one of the names I searched for to explain, to drill down, to sense check whatever misogynistic/gender nonsense had raised its ugly head. You have done so with fairness, intelligence and insight. I will miss you , and wish you well.

Clymene · 23/11/2021 23:01

The scent of your flowers will never leave FWR Floral

Thamesis · 23/11/2021 23:00

Another de-lurking to say thank you Floral. I've learned so much from your posts and wish you well for future endeavours. You will be missed Flowers

HeddaAga · 23/11/2021 22:49

Farewell Floral. Bon voyage and thank you. We've learnt so much from you x

FreeBritnee · 23/11/2021 21:31

@anotherchocolate

Have you thought about joining Ovarit? It's full of fabulous GC women and you're free to speak your mind over there.

If anyone would like an invite code, please drop me a message.

Yes please
ScreamingBeans · 23/11/2021 21:30

Sorry to see you go Floral.

Blibbyblobby · 23/11/2021 21:04

I’ll miss you Floral. Your posts are always so well thought out and worth reading.

anotherchocolate · 23/11/2021 20:35

Have you thought about joining Ovarit? It's full of fabulous GC women and you're free to speak your mind over there.

If anyone would like an invite code, please drop me a message.

RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 23/11/2021 20:33

Name change 😥