Boy in a skirt in girl's toilets

*must

Oh! This is great news! Watching the Loudoun, Virginia case where a boy raped two girls at different times (one in a bathroom), we as parents just push schools to do all they can to protect girls.

@NiceTwin Yes, do as OhHolyJesus suggested. See what they say and how they justify it. Why were parents not consulted? Were the girls consulted? (Is it a Stonewall school? )

Are other girls uncomfortable too? Contact their parents and get them involved. A group of unhappy parents is more effective than 1 parent they can try to fob off.

You can still request a meeting, they need to justify how they adhere to the guidance and I would push for an in-person meeting and then you can go to the toilets I question and see for yourself.

Depending on what happens then you can escalate it.

Sometimes HTs think they know the law but if they are following stonewall law or self ID they will be in for a shock when stuff like this lands on their desk. The HT should explain how the school will safeguard girls in the single sex toilets whilst letting boys in based on a skirt and/or self ID and whilst they are breaking the law but not following statutory government guidelines.

• that he goes in there.

Sorry for typos.

Safe Schools Alliance have done a fact sheet on mixed sex toilets

safeschoolsallianceuk.net/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/singlesextoiletsfactsheet.pdf

Are the school even aware that he is going in there? There's a chance that they might not know as he goes in there (given that his history). I would write them an email in the first instance asking them that and letting them know how it's impacting on your daughter's safety, privacy and dignity and what action they are going to take given the regulations (quote from pdf). Ask them to email you by a given date. If they call you, send an email back highlighting the discussion of the phone call. Do not let them fob you off. Get other parents on board too.

I don't want to scaremonger you but there's an ongoing case in the States where a boy dressed in a skirt molested and raped girls in school toilets.

I’d remind school that they’re technically breaking the law, OP (see p.5)

assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/410294/Advice_on_standards_for_school_premises.pdf#page5

This sort of thing makes my blood boil.

YANBU .

Girls need to feel safe. He needs to use different facilities.

Speak to head and PTA / governors

My kids school academy trust are Stonewall champions, so you can imagine what their response would be.

Boy wearing a school uniform skirt in toilets I have no problem with, entering a single sex space reserved for girls only, big problem.

I would be requesting a meeting with the head teacher to discuss the comfort and privacy of the girls at the school, boundaries and how sex is a protected characteristic and that failing to protect that space for girls doesn't foster good relations, under public sector equality duty, between protected characteristics.

Children can't get GRCs but even if this boy could and did have one the proportion of girls (as a physical need) using the girls toilets would outweigh the possible feelings and uniform choice of this boy to achieve a legitimate aim, which would be the safety, privacy, comfort of the girls.

( and telling girls their comfort and privacy doesn't sends a wider message about consent.)

I suspect the school may already have a policy in place about it. I didn't realise this, but hanging out in the toilets during breaks is a pretty common thing, even when nobody needs the toilet.