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MS are handing out pronoun badges to their staff

380 replies

PostingForTheFirstTime · 07/11/2021 09:09

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10173649/M-S-diversity-managers-staff-pronoun-badges-customers-know-address-them.html

I will be emailing the appropriate departments advising them that gender ideology is still a hot political topic; its decision to allow men to use women's changing rooms made me so uncomfortable that I will not shop for clothes in their stores any more, but its decision to push a political stance with which I fundamentally disagree means I won't be using them at all from now on.

So sad, because I love their trousers and their Christmas party foods.

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EyesOpening · 08/11/2021 10:23

@SuperDup3r

If you WANT a badge proclaiming you're woke and must be referred to as 'they/them' then you can have one. Will you be offered one? No
Earlier you told us how the “conversations are going” with someone offering a badge HmmConfused
EyesOpening · 08/11/2021 10:12

@SuperDup3r

I work for M&S

Would you like a badge?

No thanks.

OK

That's how the conversations are going so I really wouldn't get too excited about this. It's not compulsory and most people just have 'Sarah, Manager' (or whatever) on a small grey oblong badge

Can you speak on behalf of all their branches? What if their person asking has bought into this and frames it in “an offer you can’t refuse” way?
Datun · 08/11/2021 09:58

@Ohmygodyesthatsit

See encouragement is the wrong word to use, encouragement sounds like they are trying to persuade people to have them rather than neutrality having them available. I totally understand the issues with pronouns etc but i find it encouraging that these ate available and the uptake is not high at my dps store witg 200 odd staff as far as he knows not a single person has one.
Why would you make badges available for an ideology that most people disagree with and is directly harmful to women and children?
Ohmygodyesthatsit · 08/11/2021 09:55

See encouragement is the wrong word to use, encouragement sounds like they are trying to persuade people to have them rather than neutrality having them available.
I totally understand the issues with pronouns etc but i find it encouraging that these ate available and the uptake is not high at my dps store witg 200 odd staff as far as he knows not a single person has one.

Datun · 08/11/2021 09:53

@SuperDup3r

If you WANT a badge proclaiming you're woke and must be referred to as 'they/them' then you can have one. Will you be offered one? No
It's a distinction without a difference, in my opinion. Can I get a badge that says I'm anti-abortion? Or pro Brexit?
merrymouse · 08/11/2021 09:52

Because we have staff who want the damn things. Same as in all organisations now .. some people insist on being 'heard' and 'recognised' and whereas most of us couldn't care less that Dave on produce wants to be known as 'she/her/pansexual', Dave feels it necessary that we all know.

So to keep the Dave's happy, companies have to oblige in some way

No, they don't. There is no legislation requiring that anyone's identity be affirmed or recognised.

I know that M&S aren't the only large company doing this, which is part of the problem.

Datun · 08/11/2021 09:51

@Ereshkigalangcleg

We introduced these new badges a few months ago (a brilliant idea from a colleague that was then implemented by Cleo and our LGBTQ+ Network).'

This is a quote from M&S. There is also a quote from Stonewall.

Also, and of course I could be completely wrong here, but I'm assuming that 'Dave on produce' is a spot of misgendering all by itself.
SuperDup3r · 08/11/2021 09:50

If you WANT a badge proclaiming you're woke and must be referred to as 'they/them' then you can have one. Will you be offered one? No

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/11/2021 09:49

We introduced these new badges a few months ago (a brilliant idea from a colleague that was then implemented by Cleo and our LGBTQ+ Network).'

This is a quote from M&S. There is also a quote from Stonewall.

SuperDup3r · 08/11/2021 09:48

@Ereshkigalangcleg absolutely spot on.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/11/2021 09:46

@Datun for the 4th time, there is no policy.

So there is no company-wide encouragement to offer name badges with pronouns to staff in all M&S stores? Despite what this David guy in the article in the OP said?

Datun · 08/11/2021 09:45

[quote SuperDup3r]@Datun for the 4th time, there is no policy. M&S don't have a policy for their staff to wear these badges. Are you particularly hard of understanding? [/quote]
The policy is to offer the badges.

A badge with pronouns on is making a political statement. Therefore their policy is to offer their staff badges to make political statements that harm women.

You sure don't seem very informed for someone who is 'against all this shit'.

RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 08/11/2021 09:44

[quote SuperDup3r]@RufustheBadgeringReindeer excellent! Hopefully you'll now understand it's not really happening. As you've listened [/quote]
Condescending much 😀

SuperDup3r · 08/11/2021 09:42

@Datun for the 4th time, there is no policy. M&S don't have a policy for their staff to wear these badges. Are you particularly hard of understanding?

Datun · 08/11/2021 09:40

[quote SuperDup3r]@Datun come back to the thread when you see more than 1 M&S staff member wearing this badge.

I'd love to debate this all day but, for the 3rd time, it's really not happening as this thread would have you believe [/quote]
Again, it's not about the individuals. It's about the policy.

It's about people on this very thread being called transphobic if they don't adhere to it. Or, in your case, calling them rude and, er, silly.

Datun · 08/11/2021 09:36

[quote SuperDup3r]@Datun this was a young girl aged about 17. In quite capable of not being rude to her. What did you want me to do? Have a word with her? Shown my disdain as I picked up my Dyson? Don't be silly now [/quote]
And there we have it!

It's silly to object. She's young. Be kind.

Of course I expect people to object. That's why we are all writing to Marks & Spencer's.

And that's why we will notice when that gets called 'frothing'. Or silly.

SuperDup3r · 08/11/2021 09:35

@RufustheBadgeringReindeer excellent! Hopefully you'll now understand it's not really happening. As you've listened

RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 08/11/2021 09:34

Plus its fucking irritating to be told that no one is listening when I actually am 😒

SuperDup3r · 08/11/2021 09:34

@Datun come back to the thread when you see more than 1 M&S staff member wearing this badge.

I'd love to debate this all day but, for the 3rd time, it's really not happening as this thread would have you believe

Datun · 08/11/2021 09:33

So to keep the Dave's happy, companies have to oblige in some way

Exactly. How come you get to keep Dave happy and not the women who disagree with it?

SuperDup3r · 08/11/2021 09:33

@Datun this was a young girl aged about 17. In quite capable of not being rude to her. What did you want me to do? Have a word with her? Shown my disdain as I picked up my Dyson? Don't be silly now

littlbrowndog · 08/11/2021 09:32

True datun

RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 08/11/2021 09:32

[quote SuperDup3r]@RufustheBadgeringReindeer nah, no one is listening. It's all about how the world has gone mad etc etc. How the OP will be emailing in etc etc (she should, it would give people a bit of a laugh)

I am the first person to be against this sort of woke shit btw. I saw a young girl wearing a 'they/them please!' badge in Argos - that's exactly what it said. And I inwardly eye rolled

But this thread is specific to M&S and you won't be seeing this in there - UNLESS a member of staff specifically wants it. [/quote]
There are posters on here not saying things like that

Its a mistake to believe that because some posters dont agree with you that they aren’t listening

SuperDup3r · 08/11/2021 09:32

@Datun then you really must address almost every single company out there. Because this isn't unique to M&S.

And the reality is, you're not going to be falling over staff with it emblazoned on them. That is a fact!