Exactly Christmas. You have nasty violent male extremists making death threats towards women, intimidating them and causing them to need security guards or police to go to work or a conference, and you're trying to explain that they're in the right!?
It just shows how far people will go in their desperate scrabbling around not to be called a bigot (by the people who are the violent extremists, misogynists and homophobes themselves).
If you're not on board with this extreme, unscientific ideology, that doesn't make you a bigot. That's what they tell you to keep you in line because they know there's nothing a hand-wringing "be kind" lefty liberal fears more.
There are actual transphobic bigots out there who will beat people up for being trans. Have you never wondered why they don't get this treatment?