I’ve always had the POV all of my D.C. are welcome to be themselves - I don’t mind who they choose as a partner and if say DD liked a girl - I didn’t have a problem with that.
DD has never ‘liked’ anyone this far but upon her return to school last year felt pressured to ‘declare’ her sexuality : gender etc she refused and said she hasn’t made up her mind yet.
Of her group of female friends - 4 have declared themselves non binary.
I’ve told DD that there is a biological sex in her dna, her sex organs - that surgery can remove, her gender which means what she thinks she is according to someone else’s description and then her sexuality which is who she is attached to.
Lots of her friends are changing their names and pronouns. One friend has changed her name, 3 times in 6 weeks - huffing and puffing when people don’t get it right - she has declared herself non binary and declared herself gender neutral and insists on they / them and corrected everyone around her should they fail to get the latest ‘change’ right. I took DD and her friends out for the day yesterday - omg it was dire. One unfortunate guy happened to say very nicely ‘what can I get you ladies’ at the cafe - she launched into a tirade about how she wasn’t female. On the way in to the cinema queue for the disabled toilet - number of females toilet x20 most free - she refused to use them. She went into a disabled toilet x1 and had a queue of 6 people waiting for it when she came out ……25 minutes later. DD was appalled as ‘they are not disabled’ friend says ‘I’m standing up for my rights’.
DD says she is finding her arguments tedious but wants a good push back on non binary. I said maybe think about non binary friend (who has declared she is a lesbian) and conversations over would she, as a lesbian, have sex with a trans woman who has just self Id as a women. Dd doesn’t want to be accused as a trans person phone - where can she go for unbiased discussion and to get more facts (teen friendly) that don’t push this all men are women if they say it? Dd thinks a man can become a women by a process of surgery and gender reassignment but that doesn’t change the biological sex only the outward appearance so you can look like a women. If gave her the rage to see her friend use the disabled toilet as she told friend - the door is the biological sign - inside are cubicles.
Help! She wants more information and ‘decent arguments’ other then what currently seems to be going round and round as cult ideology in her teen group.