Legal rights of gender dysphoric yr 8 boy to be placed in a girls dorm

Good idea to get the legal situation confirmed. Once you’re clear, if I were in your situation, I would be very much inclined to try and contact every parent in the school who has a daughter and try to arrange some kind of mass objection. I know if I learned that the school had done this to any child, and that mine could be next, I’d be outraged.

A letter signed by all girls’ parents (or a large majority of them) stating clearly that unless the school can guarantee it will never happen again, you will not be sending your daughters on any school trips in future would be a strong message.

I suspect I might also contact the press. It truly is outrageous and puts all girls at risk and cannot be allowed to continue without public scrutiny,

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The same boy was moved to another school, where he abducted and attacked another girl.

"Elizabeth Lancaster has stated that the same male youth who was charged with the sexual assault of Smith's daughter in May was also charged just months later with the sexual battery and abduction of another student, this time at Broad Run High School. The incident occurred while they were awaiting his guilty plea to be filed on the charges of assaulting Smith's daughter.

The Loudoun County Sherriff's Office confirmed in a statement that on October 6, a 15-year-old boy was charged with sexual battery and abduction after police said he forced a girl into an empty classroom, held her against her will, and touched her inappropriately."

4w.pub/fath-accu-school/

They threaten, misrepresent the law, warn of terrible consequences for the school and display zero awareness of the rights of other children, safeguarding or the law.

Excellent post. It's not that these political groups do not know. It's that it is a whole belief system based on insisting sex doesn't exist (in situations where that benefits mostly male people) while at the same time seeing female humans as service animals, whose feelings, needs, inclusion and protected characteristics aren't just unimportant, they are downright offensive and should be stamped upon to benefit male people. (And female people who have identified out of being women and girls.)

The misogyny and sex based double standards are screamingly obvious. Schools should not be training female human children to believe they are lesser than male ones and should prioritise and serve male needs to their own detriment, quietly, without protest or seeking to have needs or feelings of their own.

It's revolting schools are supporting this.

OP this is simply unacceptable-I hope you manage to make the school understand they have failed in their duty of care to your daughter, also broken yr trust in them regards safeguarding.

My son was at a co ed boarding school, where a girl thought she might prefer to be a boy, so was accommodated in a single room (with lockable door) on the boys wing of the boarding house. My son & I didn't feel particularly comfortable with this but at least the girl was safe and a risk assessment had been done...

Some excellent advice here. I have seen some appalling letters sent to schools by trans organisations absolutely determined that girls will be used as support humans to validate a boy's wish to be seen as a girl.
They threaten, misrepresent the law, warn of terrible consequences for the school and display zero awareness of the rights of other children, safeguarding or the law. So I have some sympathy for a school being on the receiving end of this onslaught. It's why the policy capture of the unions has been so catastrophic.
Good luck OP. It's got to be parents standing up for the rights of girls to privacy from the opposite sex as too many schools are evidently incapable of centring their needs at all.

There was a situation in one of the local co-ed secondary schools where the young male was separately accommodated with one of their male friends so their privacy was considered.

Some schools are making wise decisions, sadly, others are not.

And for once - I hope the Daily Mail IS reading this

Do ask for a copy of their risk assessment

You've had useful pointers above: I'll also signpost this as a helpful general resource.

gcritical.org/introduction/

Omg 😳 honestly what a disgrace! Just yesterday I was thinking about how scare I would be to use gender neutral toilets. With all the murders and rapes going on. I feel very unsafe for women to use these toilets.

He's on puberty blockers is no reason. My DS hasn't gone through puberty yet, that doesn't mean girls are OK changing in front of him, not even his sister.

Shit. It's one of those things nobody will believe a school would ever stupid enough to do so don't make a fuss about. School have already failed in their PSED to promote good relations by letting it go this far, because the child is bound to feel hurt that people have objected to their presence. If it was phrased from the start as a policy then it wouldn't be seen as personal.

I would be very upfront with the school that it was coming from me not my child, and suggest to my child they phrase it as "Mum and Dad won't let me" if they need to to take pressure off them. And make clear I have nothing against the other child personally, I would say the same about any male child. Whatever reasons they have for single sex spaces in the first place, they apply to this child too.

School are in a difficult position. The child shouldn't be prevented from accessing the trip. I think they do have the pc of gender reassignment but regardless school wouldn't want to exclude them. Single rooms may not be easy to rustle up. It may be a case of some confidential surveying of children and parents to see if any girls are OK with sharing cross-sex, with separate private provision for changing. And/or of the trans id child to see if there are specific male friends they could share with.

Do they also put girls on puberty blockers in boys dorms?

I have heard there's a teenage boy in a girls private school dorm near me. ' He's on puberty blockers' so ok then? What when the next one isn't. It's a bad precedent.

I can’t help with any legal stuff.

I’d ask them why they didn’t tell the girls that they were planning to do this. That to me shows that they knew they would be causing, in the very least, discomfort and that they would not get their consent. They knew it was wrong.

I also reckon that none of the boys would want to share with the child either, so they went with the age old ‘the girls will comply more easily’.

Have the school consulted their insurance in terms of what would happen should an allegation of sexual assault be made in this scenario?

Never mind that, we see a repeated pattern of attempts to downplay any incidents occurring in this scenario.

At Wi Spa, and Loudon County, it's clear that those advocating for males in female spaces try to make out incidents occurring are no big deal, as they try to cover their asses.

They know incidents like this occurring undermine their beliefs, so they will want to cover it up.

Your daughter would be far safer in a mixed-sex space that acknowledged it was mixed-sex than in a space where people are trying to maintain a fiction that some boys are girls and would never do anything wrong. And if anything does happen, it's less serious because they're really a girl.

We're looking at a belief system that can actually get a school to say that they were going to deal with a rape "internally".

Safe schools alliance are on this as said above. Have the school consulted their insurance in terms of what would happen should an allegation of sexual assault be made in this scenario? Should never come to this and girls privacy and dignity should be enough but might get them thinking.

What a breach of your and your daughter’s trust PrawnQuaver.

This ‘how to complain to your child’s school’ guidance from Safe Schools Alliance UK will guide you through the process of complaining. A school failure this serious really does need to be a formal complaint.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/safeschoolsallianceuk.net/2021/04/16/how-to-complain-to-your-childs-school/amp/

I agree with the others suggesting that you should get in contact with SSAUK. They can look over the letter you write and help make sure that you have the legal and safeguarding aspects explained correctly, and they can give you support through the process.

OMG necessary. That boy putting on a dress, entering the girls’ bathrooms (with the school’s blessing) and raping that poor girl. And the school then trying to cover it up.

Words fail me

I don’t have anything to add, other than to say I would be incandescent if this happened at a school my DD attended. I am absolutely horrified. I hope you get some answers here, OP.

This all reminds me of the Rochdale gangs - wanting to be ‘politically correct’ overriding safeguarding and harming girls as a result. It’s horrifying.

How dare they do this!!
You've had brilliant advice above but I just wanted to send some support. I would ask to see the risk assessment for the trip & ask about safeguarding. I wouldn't trust them in loco parentis ever again. And I would gather support from other parents.

I would also wonder why my daughter & those other two girls were chosen.

Do you have a diverse school OP? If so, I would speak to the Indian/Pakistani and the Middle Eastern mums. We have many friends in those communities and they take safeguarding extremely seriously. This is to the extent that they don’t even let their daughters go on an afternoon play date to a family they don’t know.

We are trusted because they know that they know that I will supervise they children, there will be no films/tv unless cleared in advance and that their girls mainly will be playing, baking, reading and do board games.

They are extremely uncomfortable with any sleepover at all unless it is at the house of a very close friend (since childhood) or a relative. They let their girls go on school trips but this sleeping arrangements would not be accepted. And their husbands would get involved too.

Whereas, the legal reality is they are legally a boy. And allowing this one particular boy to share the girls' facilities discriminates against all other boys (those who identify as boys ) who cannot use the girls' facilities. The school has carved out a privileged class of boy.