Urgh, sorry, format fail. I'll repeat with spaces before people hurt their eyes.
OP, I can see that you probably came here to post this with good intentions.
Here’s the thing.
Your first post was classic of a type often seen on women’s boards from a new arrival: here’s a subject: discuss. You also made it clear after many women engaged that you were watching, waiting, wishing to have their replies laid out for you before you would explain to what purpose you wanted that information, what you would do with it and what you thought. Do you honestly not see what you communicated there about your belief in your greater power and superiority, and your belief about the lesser status of the women you wished to use for your purpose? Which they’d find out about when they’d made themselves vulnerable to you, and when you felt good and ready?
You’ve explained how you have kept your ability to have respect and empathy for female humans in your transition, and to treat them, for quite a lot of the time, as entitled to things like privacy and to not be afraid of you. And then your line: (waits for the slapping thats coming my way because I use the female toilets in my workplace) ….
Yeah, I’m done now. 
You signalled there, quite clearly, that after all the time you’ve taken to be nice to women that anyone having a problem with this is unreasonable. You’re also making it clear you’re aware of the problem for women with your choice, but hey ho. You are telling women here; clearly. You know you have all the power in this situation. Sometimes you will choose to respect their needs, because you’re a nice person. Sometimes you might not. The choice is yours and not theirs and you don’t expect them to be ungrateful.
I will get stick from other women on this thread that I am not being sufficiently appreciative that a male person has given women their valuable time and attention, has told us all about their effort to show some gestures towards respecting women, that they have told us what an unusually nice male person that they am, and that I should praise and encourage this as my role in ‘removing the toxicity’.
Thank you Master for not harming women as much as Karen White did. Thank you for choosing to indulge us and be nice to us from your position of power that you make sure we notice, because as you show; you could choose not to. I appreciate that you are a nice and probably well intentioned Master. But I am still operating the underground railroad to get every female I can out of this, and if I can burn down the plantation on the way I will, because I don’t want nice ownership. I want females to be seen as equally human and males to not see themselves as the owners of females, female spaces, female resources, the superior race for whom female lives and inclusion and rights are in their gift. And they might be generous if we’re lucky, or they might not.
How can you expect anything from me except a resounding Foxtrot Oscar?
I live in a world, right now, where I am expected to listen to male people (and their male centric female enablers) talk at length about how sex is complicated and not binary and endless obfustication to try and justify why they can be women if they want to – while at the same time requiring me to silently accept that they are telling me, over and over, with their actions, with their words, sex is binary, it’s a hierarchy and you lose . The whole ‘sex doesn’t exist’ bit is one sex forcing another into subordination. With gaslighting. And legal penalties for refusing to pretend something you don’t believe and which makes you speak aloud your own subordination, that just repeats again: ‘you have all the power, sir. I am in your hands.’