Are any schools getting the trans issue right?

Such a good question rhinowars
In my experience there's a difference between supporting the child, sensitively and professionally, ensuring that they have access to appropriate pastoral support if needed, working closely with parents and making sure that the school stays in role.
IF the child needs additional support then it needs to be via a referral to the Ed Psych, CAMHS, safeguarding and any other specialist organisation qualified to work with children and adolescents. Very keen adults from political groups have no place in mentoring or teaching children other than as part of a balanced age appropriate SRE curriculum led by staff in the school.
Schools have been drowned in faux advice from these very keen adult groups - not helped by the political capture of the DfE by Stonewall etc The school's role is to support the child's intellectual, social and emotional development - not to be a cheer leader for Stonewall or any other group dealing in sexual politics. They have no role in transitioning a child or to provide a curriculum that promotes any narrow ideology. The curriculum must reflect the needs of children and not the wishes of these groups.
I'd go so far to suggest that in some schools some adults have been allowed to run amok in promoting his ideology - usually lacking in appropriate professional qualifications but who have" been on a course" and are now over eager to implement what they've been told.

Well done for being sceptical. It's only when parents insist that their children are not unthinkingly gaslit with the "women have penises" and "men can grow a cervix" (the Labour party's most recent fantasy) that some schools (not all because loads are doing a fantastic job) will stand back and look at the how they're being influenced by those who do not hold all children's interests at heart.

(sorry for the long response but I am enraged at the position that schools have been placed in)

Having checked with DS13, the trans boy had to choose a gender neutral name. And within class they did discuss gender as being a social construct but the teachers said in the spirit of acceptance that if someone wants to identify more strongly with a particular gender, that’s ok.
It’s such a tricky area. And obviously if toxic stereotypes didn’t exist then it would be easier all round. And the trans boy has to use the girls toilets and changing rooms.

I thought DfE guidance was now that children should not be taught the “born in the wrong body” idea? Not sure if that’s just primary or also secondary. Would be worth finding out and sending them the appropriate link.

DD's high school is bang on imho. Watch and wait, supportive but not affirming and appropriate suggestions of referrals to MH support locally and good pastoral care. The teachers are pretty GC tbh and link their pshe care into science teaching.

DD's good mate is trans, ftm, they use the requested pronouns and name but ask that they use the same sex facilities or the option of the separate accessible facilities.

How do they deal with “normal” sexuality?! If you’re male, don’t like bloke things, fancy girls or maybe don’t fancy anyone yet, are you made to feel “wrong”? What stereotype does someone who is transgender present as? If there is a stereotype for “man” and “woman” then they need to have one for “transman” and “transwoman” otherwise you can’t put people in their boxes.

I don’t expect you can answer, but can they not see the problems here? Why is there a sudden explosion of people, and especially young people, identifying as trans? We have a 11 year old trans boy at our school. They arrived with no discussion so the children found out from whispers in the playground and also the fact that there was a boy with no penis in the boys loo (who would make the boys feel uncomfortable by staring at them when they were peeing). He also competed in the girls races at sports day which I found flabbergasting. I appreciate that they couldn’t tell the parents due to GDPR etc, but expecting everyone to just accept it without questioning anything was really naive. Lots of the kids had completely reasonable questions which weren’t dealt with and were discouraged from being asked.

Anyway…total detail…sorry!

My DS13 has a trans boy in his class. The way school have dealt with explaining trans issues is to say your outside genitalia are just body bits, nothing special, and you have to get changed/toilet with other people who have the same body bits. They then said it’s how you feel inside that’s most important and if you want to be addressed with a new name, new pronouns and wear the uniform that matches how you feel inside that’s fine. I thought that was quite a nice pragmatic approach but I’ll be interested in other views.

Given them this:

safeschoolsallianceuk.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/22Aug_Advice-note-schools-socially-transitioning.pdf

Look at Bayswater support. They have a lot of useful materials and advice.

In particular, the view of experts is that 'watchful waiting' is the right approach - i.e. not dismissing a child but giving them a safe space to think, ideally with therapeutic support. 90% of teenagers return to their natal gender by the age of 21 or so, which means that schools should not be making what can be one-way decisions about transitioning.