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Women must resist arrest by any male police officer and demand the presence of a policewoman

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Turquoise11 · 30/09/2021 10:11

I've never posted on mumsnet before but I'm compelled to after reading reports of the kidnap, rape and murder of Sarah Everard.

Any woman who finds herself in a situation where she faces arrest by a male police officer must resist and obstruct that arrest at all costs. She must not face charges for doing either, since it is potentially dangerous for a woman to be taken away by a male police officer. We can no longer trust the police.

Rather, a woman must be able to demand that a policewoman be present before any arrest takes place. We can no longer assume that there is any rigour in the recruitment process involving male police officers.

Do you think I am being fair? After what happened to Sarah Everard, I think that resisting arrest and insisting a woman be present is essential to women's safety. See below for some recent cases involving the police.

Detective Inspector Neil Corbel was charged with 19 counts of voyeurism in the Greater London, Manchester and Brighton areas.

Wayne Couzens.

Deniz Jaffer and Jamie Lewis taking unofficial pictures of Bibaa Henry and Nicole Smallman after they were stabbed to death.

I’m sure there are more incidents where male police officers hold women in contempt and would harm them if they could.

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Passmeamenuatthetottenham · 30/09/2021 18:10

He was also accused of indecent exposure several times, and no one in The Met thought that was a problem?

PlanDeRaccordement · 30/09/2021 18:10

@Passmeamenuatthetottenham

You know it is easy in hindsight to see red flags, but not so easy at the time.

You don't think personality traits that lead to one being nicknamed 'The Rapist' are red flags that are easy to see? Confused

No, I think it is a red flag. But they are always much easier to see in hindsight than at the time, which is also true.
AssassinatedBeauty · 30/09/2021 18:09

They knew he was accused of indecent exposure - if you read the account of what happened it wasn't a situation that possibly could have been accidental or a misunderstanding. It was a deliberate act. That was entirely swept under the carpet instead of being recognised by the Met police as an alarming action for a serving police officer.

That's not a red flag, or something that only hindsight could recognise.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 30/09/2021 18:09

The grammar in that post was hideous but hopefully my meaning came across.

PlanDeRaccordement · 30/09/2021 18:09

His nickname at work with his met police colleagues was The Rapist. That’s not a red flag.

Yes it is. It is the definition of a red flag:

  1. A warning signal.
  2. Something that demands attention or provokes an irritated reaction.
  3. A cue, warning, or alert; a sign or signal that something is wrong.

A nickname like that is a big warning sign that he’s a violent man, capable of violence against women and as such demands attention....

Passmeamenuatthetottenham · 30/09/2021 18:09

You know it is easy in hindsight to see red flags, but not so easy at the time.

You don't think personality traits that lead to one being nicknamed 'The Rapist' are red flags that are easy to see? Confused

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 30/09/2021 18:09

Until we recognise misogyny as a hate crime, and society respects women as they ought, these little "minor indiscretions" would be seen for what they are - flags and indicators of women hating men who can (and most likely will) get progressively more violent.

Passmeamenuatthetottenham · 30/09/2021 18:07

I am sorry, but this is insane. Yes there are a very low number of incidents involving police officers, yes I think there needs to be more psychological testing and supervision of police officers

Psychological testing? Wayne Couzens was nicknamed 'The Rapist' amongst his own colleagues. In the police.

I don't think a lack of 'psychological testing' is the fucking issue here.

Pumperthepumper · 30/09/2021 18:06

[quote PlanDeRaccordement]@Pumperthepumper
He could have been stopped, and he wasn’t.

You know it is easy in hindsight to see red flags, but not so easy at the time. While I agree the police do need an overhaul, I don’t agree with blaming the police for what WC did. It’s no different from going on about the “red flags” of an abusive partner and then saying the woman or her family could have stopped him killing her, but didn’t. It is spreading blame around when the blame should be 100% on the murderer.[/quote]
His nickname at work with his met police colleagues was The Rapist. That’s not a red flag. Nobody needed hindsight. The are absolutely to blame, they could and should have stopped him.

PlanDeRaccordement · 30/09/2021 18:03

@Pumperthepumper
He could have been stopped, and he wasn’t.

You know it is easy in hindsight to see red flags, but not so easy at the time. While I agree the police do need an overhaul, I don’t agree with blaming the police for what WC did. It’s no different from going on about the “red flags” of an abusive partner and then saying the woman or her family could have stopped him killing her, but didn’t. It is spreading blame around when the blame should be 100% on the murderer.

NewlyGranny · 30/09/2021 18:00

I think we need to know what police issue bodycams look like in our area and how to tell if they're running or not. And it's always good to have 999 on speed dial!

Saying most police officers are trustworthy doesn't help at all, though. We want to be confident and able to trust, not hope for the best and rely on luck. It's just a variant of "Not All Men" isn't it?

Would you jump if you were told "Most parachutes open,"?

Pumperthepumper · 30/09/2021 17:50

You’re even a thousand times more likely to be killed by the Covid vaccine^, than by the U.K. police, yet say you don’t trust the vaccine company or the JCVI and you’re a mad anti-vaxxer.

Killed, yes. Assualted? Attacked? Belittled? Disbelieved? No.

IntermittentParps · 30/09/2021 17:49

For those who are a bit hard of thinking, I was specifically referring to/illustrating my point with what has already actually happened to Sarah Everard.
I CBA spelling it out any further though. Jesus wept.

Pumperthepumper · 30/09/2021 17:48

@PlanDeRaccordement

WC is exactly what happens when we have a police force who protect their own above all, who breed misogyny and racism and who have an incredible amount of power with very little checking of how they wield it.

@Pumperthepumper. So WC is just a helpless pawn of the met police and was brainwashed by them into rape and murder? Sorry, no not buying it.

Obviously not. But he was part of a system that protected him and enabled him - possibly even encouraged him - to be a risk to women. Remember his nickname? Remember his indecent assault? He could have been stopped, and he wasn’t.
PlanDeRaccordement · 30/09/2021 17:44

WC is exactly what happens when we have a police force who protect their own above all, who breed misogyny and racism and who have an incredible amount of power with very little checking of how they wield it.

@Pumperthepumper. So WC is just a helpless pawn of the met police and was brainwashed by them into rape and murder? Sorry, no not buying it.

PlanDeRaccordement · 30/09/2021 17:40

@MargaritaPie

"I'd rather be alive and deal with any consequences than be dragged off to be killed."

By a police officer in the UK? Talk about paranoia.

I agree. Women are killed by their partner/husband/boyfriend at a rate of 156 per year while on average, 1 woman is killed by a U.K. police officer per year*.

The reaction on here is more fearful than the statistics would warrant.

You’re even a thousand times more likely to be killed by the Covid vaccine^, than by the U.K. police, yet say you don’t trust the vaccine company or the JCVI and you’re a mad anti-vaxxer.

*policeconduct.gov.uk/sites/default/files/Documents/statistics/deaths_during_following_police_contact_201920.pdf

^as of June 2021, 1,424 yellow card reports of adverse reaction to Covid vaccine resulting in death.
www.precisionvaccinations.com/2021/06/25/uk-confirms-additional-deaths-related-covid-19-vaccines

NewlyGranny · 30/09/2021 17:38

Oh, and she suggested dialling 999 if an officer tried to force you into an unmarked car. And she said as a woman police officer, she dealt with sexism from her colleagues herself and never reported, through fear that when she called for backup in a tight spot, response might be slow and male colleagues would leave her to get her head kicked in. 🙄

Pumperthepumper · 30/09/2021 17:34

@PlanDeRaccordement

I’d love to hear more about Vanessa George being the result of symptomatic issues within early years in the same way WC was within the Met police.

I don’t think WC was the result of symptomatic issues with the Met police. To say that he is merely a product of whatever, take your pick, misogyny for example, is to say he was not responsible for kidnapping raping, murdering, dismembering and burning Sarah Everard. I think he is 100% responsible for his crimes. He’s not a ‘result’ of anything. Being part of the police force is not a mitigating circumstance...if anything it should carry a higher sentence because he was in a privileged position of trust.

No, I think the opposite. WC is exactly what happens when we have a police force who protect their own above all, who breed misogyny and racism and who have an incredible amount of power with very little checking of how they wield it.

Not to mention the many, many bad apples within the police force.

NewlyGranny · 30/09/2021 17:27

A retired woman police superintendent said on R4 this afternoon that she's advising women in her family in this situation to check the officer is using bodycam, agree to get into only a marked police car and insist the officer calls for backup in a marked car.

That protocol could save a life.

PlanDeRaccordement · 30/09/2021 17:22

I’d love to hear more about Vanessa George being the result of symptomatic issues within early years in the same way WC was within the Met police.

I don’t think WC was the result of symptomatic issues with the Met police. To say that he is merely a product of whatever, take your pick, misogyny for example, is to say he was not responsible for kidnapping raping, murdering, dismembering and burning Sarah Everard. I think he is 100% responsible for his crimes. He’s not a ‘result’ of anything. Being part of the police force is not a mitigating circumstance...if anything it should carry a higher sentence because he was in a privileged position of trust.

Applemaggot · 30/09/2021 17:22

@MargaritaPie

"I'd rather be alive and deal with any consequences than be dragged off to be killed."

By a police officer in the UK? Talk about paranoia.

On this thread?? Really?? I’d suggest that this comment is the epitome of gas lighting. Unless of course you were being incredibly sarcastic.
LK1972 · 30/09/2021 17:17

Nice thread on which for you to continue denigrating our legitimate fears Margarita, slow clap

IntermittentParps · 30/09/2021 17:03

By a police officer in the UK? Talk about paranoia.
Are you fucking serious?
Do you know what thread you're on?

MargaritaPie · 30/09/2021 16:46

"I'd rather be alive and deal with any consequences than be dragged off to be killed."

By a police officer in the UK? Talk about paranoia.

Pumperthepumper · 30/09/2021 16:12

@Tanith

"I'm not sure why you've brought up Vanessa George in this context but here we go - Vanessa George was a very rare case. "

That's exactly why I've brought up Vanessa George!
She wasn't that rare in that nursery workers have time and again felt uncomfortable but have not reported. And sorry, but yes many certainly did shrug their shoulders and try to claim it was just one bad apple. Luckily, the authorities felt differently.

I entirely agree with you that procedure needs to be tightened up and a cultural change must be made, as I stated before.

I do not agree with the Op's blanket statements about women resisting arrest without consequence.

That’s not true - I have never, ever heard of an early years colleague being called The Paedo for example.

I’d love to hear more about Vanessa George being the result of symptomatic issues within early years in the same way WC was within the Met police.

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