I have name changed for this because it feels major for me and I'm honestly a bit scared of being identified.
I'm a 27 year old lesbian who is starting to realise I am gender critical. This feels like a major step to even type as the friendship groups I have and the online world I inhabit is very very pro-trans. I have always blindly accepted the doctrine, TWAW, protect trans kids, all genders are valid blah blah.
It's only since I started reading more here than I started questioning it a bit more. I became uncomfortable with the resolute lack of debate. I started eye rolling when yet another celebrity came out as non binary, I started having conversations with my wife about it (she's largely in agreement.) Ive stopped prefixing every conversation with 'I know I sound terfy but...' i realised that my academic side who has always sought evidence and argument wasn't compatible with these conversations. I started wondering where all the butch women I know and love have gone. I started fearing for the trans people I know (many of whom transitioned long before it was a 'thing') whose validity in society is being undermined by this shitshow. I had a conversation with the cleverest woman I know in an Uber (felt like a clandestine meet) where we acknowledged without saying the words that we're both uncomfortable with the way the wind in blowing.
Where the fuck do I start? What can I read? How do I uncondition my brain and can I keep those of my friends who will hate me for even having these thoughts? I'm already exhausted.
Any advice on where to start much appreciated. I'm very prepared to put in the time to read, understand and absorb opinion.