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Weird situation

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893confused · 28/09/2021 14:26

I tutor some primary school siblings online. Have done for ages. They've just told me that their dad is transgender and likes wearing girls' school uniform, including to work. But uses "he" pronouns with family because the grandparents don't know.
I feel a bit weird about this. Transgender - ok. But why girls' school uniform? He's a middle-aged man.

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893confused · 28/09/2021 16:23

I wonder how SS would respond to a situation involving cross-dressing. Would it just be accepted as a perfectly normal thing now? Would they be scared to get involved with a family where cross-dressing was happening, in case they were accused of something? Would the person referring risk being accused of something?

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893confused · 28/09/2021 16:20

The mum seems ok, and the girls seem ok and are chatty. A bit obsessed with video games and horror films, but I'm not sure how unusual that is. They were kept at home for a while after lockdown ended, but went back to school in the end.

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Fariha31 · 28/09/2021 15:59

And Id be prity open to the family about why too.

Fariha31 · 28/09/2021 15:58

Because if not I would be giving social services a ring.

Fariha31 · 28/09/2021 15:52

Japinese school girl uniforms are used alot in porn.
Presumerbly thats where he got the idea from.
How does the mum seem? does she seem the type to protect her kids?

LetsHaveCake · 28/09/2021 15:39

This strikes me as a safe guarding issue abd should be raised.

MidsomerMurmurs · 28/09/2021 15:27

@893confused

Maybe LaRobeRouge is American, and is objecting to the -c in "practice".
Off the top of my head, I think US English uses the “c” spelling for both noun and verb, so I don’t think it’s that.
YetAnotherSpartacus · 28/09/2021 15:27

Very odd indeed! Especially that they are so public about it.

Joystir59 · 28/09/2021 15:24

Autogynophile

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893confused · 28/09/2021 15:23

Maybe LaRobeRouge is American, and is objecting to the -c in "practice".

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MidsomerMurmurs · 28/09/2021 15:20

@LaRobeRouge

I'd given them homework, which was writing practice. What do you tutor them in? Hopefully not English.
Sorry to derail, but it would be really great if you could say what you think is wrong with that sentence. (Obviously there is nothing wrong with it in terms of syntax, spelling etc but I am interested in attitudes to language use, so if you could say what you think is wrong, I would find it really useful!)
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893confused · 28/09/2021 15:17

I don't care if MN delete the thread. I was just feeling a bit shell-shocked.

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allmywhat · 28/09/2021 15:15

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TrainedByCats · 28/09/2021 15:11

@893confused

No, they showed me photos of Korean / Japanese girls' school uniforms, online. The mum joined in and confirmed he's transgender. It was a bit embarrassing.
Eeek

I suspect all posts identifying what that behaviour is will be deleted
(Anyone else getting racist vibes too?)

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893confused · 28/09/2021 15:03

What's wrong with my English, LaRobeRouge? Feel free to critique it.

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MistandMud · 28/09/2021 15:02

@LaRobeRouge

I'd given them homework, which was writing practice. What do you tutor them in? Hopefully not English.
What's wrong with that phrase in your view, LaRobe?
LaRobeRouge · 28/09/2021 15:00

I'd given them homework, which was writing practice. What do you tutor them in? Hopefully not English.

OurMamInHavianas · 28/09/2021 14:57

@Imasoulman

Stop feeding the trolls !!
Why are you trying to stop people talking about a potential safeguarding issue?
EdgeOfACoin · 28/09/2021 14:57

Ray Blanchard. Autogynaephilia. Google.

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893confused · 28/09/2021 14:53

I'm not a troll - I've just name changed for this. This came out of the blue - I've been teaching the girls for a long time. They seem ok. I had an idea that the family was a bit unconventional, but not this.

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MrsOvertonsWindow · 28/09/2021 14:50

This will likely be deleted as there's a lot of people determined that women will not realise some of the reasons that some man have for transitioning ..

Anontwentyone · 28/09/2021 14:47

@Imasoulman

Stop feeding the trolls !!
Oh, thought it was real....
AssassinatedBeauty · 28/09/2021 14:46

Report it then rather than post....

Imasoulman · 28/09/2021 14:43

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GeorgiaMcGraw · 28/09/2021 14:43

Sounds like autogynephilia. Dr Ray Blanchard has done a lot of work on this. Poor family, it's completely inappropriate for him to show a fetish to his children.