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Husband thinks I'm transphobic

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plesiosaurus · 15/09/2021 10:55

I'm devastated.
My husband has just said he believes trans women are women, and that my gender critical views are abhorrent. He compared it to thinking that all Muslims are terrorists, and said that I'm bigoted and transphobic. I'm struggling to see how we go forward from this to be honest.

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Polkadotties · 15/09/2021 11:07

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TheBurmundseyIndustrialEstate · 15/09/2021 11:07

How has he arrived at that opinion- is he into identity politics, where has he formed his viewpoint?
How is he on other issues, have you had a long marriage?
Would he include transwomen in his dating pool if not it’s just all double standards.
It’s just too easy for men to dismiss our concerns unfortunately as it doesn’t actually affect them.

FFSFFSFFS · 15/09/2021 11:06

So he’d sleep with a tw then?

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plesiosaurus · 15/09/2021 11:01

He's in his 50s, left wing (as am I) and has completely swallowed the "be kind" nonsense. We have a daughter. She is in her teens and also very twaw. I feel like my views are being totally ignored and derided.

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RoseisMadder · 15/09/2021 11:01

How did the conversation start?
I started super slow with my DP, he was on the fence leaning more to the liberal left but after many conversations I’ve peaked him.
Need a bit more context to know what to advise

FindTheTruth · 15/09/2021 10:59

@plesiosaurus

I'm devastated. My husband has just said he believes trans women are women, and that my gender critical views are abhorrent. He compared it to thinking that all Muslims are terrorists, and said that I'm bigoted and transphobic. I'm struggling to see how we go forward from this to be honest.
OP, this thread might help www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3145470-Break-it-down-for-me
mommycarol · 15/09/2021 10:58

Hi, what made him believe that? Did you guys had a conversation about it? What do you think about trans people?

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 15/09/2021 10:58

Does he have a daughter or sister? (Or mother if not) Ask him how he would feel about a man naked in a swimming pool changing room with them.

SunIsBehindGreySky · 15/09/2021 10:58

He is entitled to an opinion. Lots of people call others names.

If you don't want to live with someone who can't accept reality you don't have to.

Haiyaa · 15/09/2021 10:57

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