Husband thinks I'm transphobic

Break it down for him:

1. Does he think TW are actually women, or is it that they should be treated as though they are women?

1. If the latter, are there any circumstances where this may not apply. For example, sports such as rugby and weightlifting?

1. Should there be any gate-keeping, or is it purely self-id? Different rules for those who have had full genital surgery v, Karen White? What about a teenage MTF who wants to share a room with your daughter on a school trip? Should they be treated exactly the same as any other girl?

I personally think the existing legal compromise is not too bad. Trans people are protected from discrimination and harassment. Some are allowed to be treated as actual females - but only after a medical gatekeeping process.

So he would go into a changing room full of teenage girls and women and change because he knows that he won’t assault them?

He’s a prince among men

As a start, you could ask him about Laurel Hubbard and the MMA fighter in the news this week.

Also, does he think you would be transphobic for insisting on a female nurse or doctor doing intimate examinations? What about for your daughter?

You can also ask how he would feel if your daughter had been the one in the WiSpa incident. Would he really be accepting of a male sex offender having their erect penis at your daughter’s eye level?

You might discover that he has his limits. And if he is forced to understand the wide range of ramifications of accepting that mantra, he might not be so comfortable with it. Or he may be well entrenched.

Jack Appleby made a comment once that is very pertinent. Along the lines of is it plausible that left wing lesbians become right wing sympathisers or that something else is at play here. Good luck finding your way forward OP.

Ahhhh so he’s a men’s right activist then

Women's rights are not your husbands to remove and it's not hateful to stand up for them.

It’s really sad that you can’t discuss feminist issues on a feminism board without posts being deleted.

I'm assuming he would happily date a trans women then, given that they are women.

Is he happy for his, wife, mum, sisters, daughter to share a changing room with a male bodied woman?

[quote plesiosaurus]@FFSFFSFFS Not a chance in hell that he would. [/quote]
Then he is transphobic. Tell him you find him disgusting and that he is like a terrorist. Over and over again.

Have you discussed the difference between describing reality and applying value judgments to the reality that you describe. Being able to accurately articulate the difference between a transwoman and a woman, is not the same as judging one group or the other as being better or worse.

Questions for your husband

the Staniland question: “Do you believe that male-sexed people should have the right to undress and shower in a communal changing room with teenage girls?”

Wi Spa: Do you believe that Darren Agee Merager, 52 a sex-offender had a human right to go naked and partially erect into the spa, near a six year old girl? with naked females, girls, women and grandmas? Meager was ‘partially erect’ when he exposed himself. Also, he is a tier-one registered sex offender; 2018 indecent exposure over a women’s locker room incident at a swimming pool, two prior convictions of indecent exposure stemming from incidents in 2002 and 2003.

Ask him to explain why there are single sex spaces and why this magically dissapears?

This is not akin to Islamophobia. Islamophobia is defined as hatred of Muslims, not atheism. I totally respect my Muslim colleagues right to believe what they do, and their wish to dress in a way that reflects their beliefs. But I do not share those beliefs.

I am exactly the same with my trans colleague. Happy for them to wear what they like, and call them as they request and to protect them from assault etc, but I do not believe they are actually a woman.

You could always wake up tomorrow and identify as a man. Change your name and pronouns, insist he is transphobic if he refuses to validate your gender and that he is now a gay man

Would love to know why my post has been deleted

Have you asked him the stanilans question? Because his position is that adult males with penises should be free to undress in the same changing room as your daughter. Ask him how he considers having this view is consistent with him being a good father. Is print it out and put it on the table tbh in black and white

Does he have a daughter or sister? (Or mother if not)

well he has a wife

Does he have a beard?

There's a great piece around somewhere addressing the woke bro who says TWAW and insults women. I can't find it.

Hopefully some one can. I would send it to him.

I've had a DS come out with the Muslim/terrorist line. He's just thoughtlessly repeating mantras.

Has he closed all conversation on the subject?
You can either keep talking because frankly, it’s your protected belief and he should respect that
Or avoid the subject and accept you can’t discuss GC topics with him
Or LTB!
Not sure what I’d do. I’d be upset that my DP believed I was a bigot. I think I’d weigh up whether I could be patient and see if he peaks or just leave

Critical Reasoning: A Romp Through the Foothills of Logic for Complete Beginners by Marianne Talbot

This book looks interesting, and might help. Has he a birthday coming up?