An article called Femme fatale I came across that made me think. Though not in the way the author intended.
www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a37258757/femme-fatale/?utm_source=pocket-newtab-global-en-GB
Apparently the term femme has been appropriated by run of the mill, painfully ordinary hetcisstraightnorms.
The heroine went to a halloween party once dressed in a masculine way and it felt wrong, she had to change. It turns out she needed the ironic femininity to express her true self. You see, she's queer but no one can tell that if she's on her own and that's insufferable because she's not like all the other girls.
.. I once went to a NYE fancy dress party as Eddie the Eagle Edwards (and I like an ironic 50's swing dress and heels as much as the next gal). I felt a bit uncomfortable but I thought it was because of the giant cardboard skis, shell suit and mullet, maybe it was because my embodied femmedentity was hidden and actually I'm secretly, very special.