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Do we have it anywhere on record that Stonewall does/does not support people to express their sexuality as exclusively homosexual?

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JustcameoutGC · 30/08/2021 10:16

The expectation that lesbians accept partners with penises was one of the things that really made me start questioning gender identity politics more closely.

Exclusively homosexual lesbian spaces have disappeared as viewed to be transphobic. Just look on any lesbian dating apps and many of the users are male and be-penised. Some may be fine with this, but all of my lesbian friends are not, and they feel very disenfranchised, but equally they feel unable to speak out. Just look at what happened in Manchester.

I just can't wrap my head around how the prevoiusly stalwart and highly effective champion of gay rights has now essentially outlawed exclusive homosexuality.

Have they made any statements that make this stance clear? Have they actively said they do not support exclusively homosexual spaces?

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OldCrone · 31/08/2021 15:43

@BilindaB

Definition of a woman.

1.Adult human female.

  1. Someone born male who has transitioned to being a woman.
  • is a circular definition. You have used the word being defined in the definition itself.
  • What does 'woman' mean in the definition "A woman is someone born male who has transitioned to being a woman"?

    allmywhat · 31/08/2021 15:42

    GrinGrin

    1. it’s recursive. ❌

    2. please try to define “man” now.

    BilindaB · 31/08/2021 15:41

    I'm not desperate for anything. I've always said I'll wait to see the evidence before making my opinion.

    RedDogsBeg · 31/08/2021 15:38

    @BilindaB

    She' been charged with a homophobic hate crime. Do you usually want to let people who commit crimes like that off?
    Is the concept Innocent until Proven Guilty difficult for you to understand?

    Charging is not the same as convicting.

    Further you might like to note the comments of her Counsel:

    The second is that the communication charges are not compatible with guidelines, so it’s not appropriate to plead with.

    Maybe you'd like to have a think about what not compatible with guidelines might mean. This is not the slam dunk you are so desperate for it to be.

    BilindaB · 31/08/2021 15:37

    Which was the racist preference anyway? 'I only date asians'?

    FloralBunting · 31/08/2021 15:35

    @BilindaB

    She' been charged with a homophobic hate crime. Do you usually want to let people who commit crimes like that off?
    You're still posting here and saying that lesbians are like racists if they refuse males who feel like women. Pot, fucking kettle, dear.
    Datun · 31/08/2021 15:34

    @BilindaB

    She' been charged with a homophobic hate crime. Do you usually want to let people who commit crimes like that off?
    Ah, you see see this is the problem with you and your signal failure to understand the definition of words again.

    Being 'charged' doesn't mean 'committing'.

    ArabellaScott · 31/08/2021 15:32

    For anyone unsure of one of the very basic truths of the world - humans are sexually dimorphic. Male or female. And it is not possible to change one's sex.

    It really shouldn't be even slightly controversial to say this.

    BilindaB · 31/08/2021 15:32

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    ArabellaScott · 31/08/2021 15:31

    @BilindaB

    Definition of a woman.

    1.Adult human female.

    1. Someone born male who has transitioned to being a woman.
    Well, at least you've provided a definition, which is more than many do. Thanks.

    Answer 1 is correct.

    Answer 2 is a logical fallacy. A male cannot be a female, by definition.

    Wrongsideofhistorymyarse · 31/08/2021 15:30

    I see Marion Millar has weeesht. These new suffragettes are rubbish.

    Marion Millar is obeying the law, and her case has opened a lot of eyes to this nonsense.

    Datun · 31/08/2021 15:29

    You know, thinking about it, I think I prefer a shifting constellation. At least it's something to look at.

    Ereshkigalangcleg · 31/08/2021 15:28

    An adult human male, of or denoting the sex who produces sperm, cannot become an adult human female, of or denoting the sex who produces eggs.

    Your definition is relying on something that's impossible.

    Yes, the logic is...

    RedDogsBeg · 31/08/2021 15:28

    I see Marion Millar has weeesht. These new suffragettes are rubbish.

    You what now?

    Helleofabore · 31/08/2021 15:27

    @BilindaB

    ''Hello, could you please explain to me how transwomen are women? Ta ever so.''

    I will, I've thought a lot about it, but I will want to phrase it well, so at some point you'll get my answer. This is not a dodge.

    So, to be clear.... there will be no forthcoming explanation of how transwomen are women then?

    It will be just like the lack of the answer to why you believe you have the authority to speak for transwomen. Because, you keep giving us the 'opinion' of the majority and of the minority. Where are you getting this information, and if there is no evidence to support it, why have you felt you have any authority to make such claims.

    And just to short circuit the 'where have I said that' as suggestions did, I will add them here.

    Who expects this? Not the vast majority of trans people. It's a bullshit myth put around by transphobes.

    I said 'most' I know there are small minority of trans women who say stuff like this and I disagree with them totally, as do most other trans women. Twitters a big place, you can find that small minority there. Got any evidence that it's more than a handful?

    Again, the initial statement made it sound as this was official trans policy, It's not, which is why I feel obliged to post, and I ask you for any evidence that it's more than a very small minority of trans women with penises saying 'you must find my penis attractive, lesbians.'

    Again, any evidence it's more than a tiny minority. Without misrepresenting what people like Riley Dennis has said.

    My first post said the vast majority of trans women don't think this. Which means there is a tiny minority that do. There is no inconsistency. Are you just wasting my time, or can't you read?

    Where are you getting this information from that you feel that you can confidently speak on behalf of the 'majority' of trans people?

    TheWeeDonkey · 31/08/2021 15:26

    @Ereshkigalangcleg

    What does "transitioning to be a woman" involve? How is someone not born female a woman or do you genuinely feel it's up to the individual to decide their sex?
    " I think therefore I am"
    Datun · 31/08/2021 15:26

    @BilindaB

    Definition of a woman.

    1.Adult human female.

    1. Someone born male who has transitioned to being a woman.
    Haha!

    The second one is impossible.

    An adult human male, of or denoting the sex who produces sperm, cannot become an adult human female, of or denoting the sex who produces eggs.

    Your definition is relying on something that's impossible.

    A unicorn is something that was born a dog but transitions to become a unicorn.

    Hey presto!!!

    Ereshkigalangcleg · 31/08/2021 15:25

    I think it would be more beneficial to Marion (and us all, however we feel about this one issue) for the case to be dropped on human rights grounds, personally. If the suffragettes had had that possibility I'm sure they would have taken it.

    TheWeeDonkey · 31/08/2021 15:24

    @BilindaB

    Definition of a woman.

    1.Adult human female.

    1. Someone born male who has transitioned to being a woman.
    So female people are women and male people are women.

    Female people are well within their right to not "do dick" as long as they don't be too vocal about it.

    No keep going Bilinda please do, this is fascinating.

    PurgatoryOfPotholes · 31/08/2021 15:24

    Talking of your feminism, I asked whether you regretted endorsing an argument that the man in the LGB t-shirt had provoked the crowd because of what he was wearing, after I pointed out it was a carbon copy of the traditional arguments that women provoke men into raping them, because of what they're wearing.

    I never expected to see a "s/he was asking for it, dressed like that" post on mumsnet's feminism section, and it was sickening to see you hadn't made the connection, as you quoted it with approval.

    Have you rethought it now?

    Ereshkigalangcleg · 31/08/2021 15:23

    What does "transitioning to be a woman" involve? How is someone not born female a woman or do you genuinely feel it's up to the individual to decide their sex?

    BilindaB · 31/08/2021 15:21

    Definition of a woman.

    1.Adult human female.

    1. Someone born male who has transitioned to being a woman.
    BilindaB · 31/08/2021 15:20

    I think we've wandered off-topic somewhat.

    I see Marion Millar has weeesht. These new suffragettes are rubbish.

    Ereshkigalangcleg · 31/08/2021 15:17

    Good point, nauticant

    Ereshkigalangcleg · 31/08/2021 15:17

    "Period". But that's a bit exclusionary.