I think it's really important to look at what Mridul Wadhwa actually said, because it's actually very considered and compassionate. You're not going to be attacked or judged if your trauma response might seem to the uninformed as prejudice, but if you come in and you have prejudice that's not as a result of your trauma and you start to make this a place that isn't safe for other users, that's when you're going to be called out on it. Which is fair. Reframing trauma is also an accepted term, we reframe trauma so that we are able to relieve ourselves of feelings of guilt and shame. That's a good and healthy thing to do.
For Women Scotland have misrepresented what Wadhwa said, when you read what she's actually said there's honestly nothing wrong with it.
'But there are a group of survivors who will be watching and seeing what is being played out about spaces that they're potentially going to use. And be informed or misintormed about what actually happens here and be possibly be fearful. And I think if you're worried about these things, about inclusion and what trans inclusion means within women's organisations, and if your local women's organisation of Rape Crisis Centre or Women's Aid is openly trans inclusive, and you just don't understand, reach out to them and ask those questions. I think its important to know that we see you as an individual. And we come as survivors with experiences that often feel to the outside world as holding prejudice. So we might have foar of man of a certain ethnicity, we might have fear of sans people, and it could be linked to an experience of trauma. I think it is it is okay to hold those things as long as you are willing to acknowledge that, in support, we will accept that
But there is a difference also when, and I am not sure if I said this as clearly and transparently as I want to, but I'm trying. Apologies, it I havest done it wes. But I think the other thing is that sexual violence happens to bigoted people as well. And so you know, it is not discerning crime. But these spaces are also for you. But if you bring unacceptable beliefs that are discriminatory in nature, we will begin to work with you on your journey of recovery from trauma. But please also expect to be challenged on your prejudices, because how can you heal from trauma and build a now relationship with your trauma, because you can't forget, and you can't go back to Ble before traumatic incident or traumatic incidents. And some of us never, ever had a life before traumatic incidents. But if you have to retrame your trauma, I think it is important as part of that reframing, having a more positive relationship with it, where it becomes a story that empowers you and allows you to go and do other more beautiful things with your life you also have to rethink your relationship with prejudice. Otherwise, you can't really, in my view, recover from trauma and I think that's a very important message that I am often discussing with my colleagues that in various places Because you know, to me, therapy is political, and it isn't always seen as that.'