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Guardian letter on wearing women's underwear

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MondayYogurt · 06/08/2021 21:22

I've never asked myself what drives these urges, but this makes a sad sort of sense.

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/aug/06/childhood-desire-wear-womens-pants-has-returned

Over the years I’ve had many similar letters from men who stole and wore their mothers’ underwear – and all of them said their mothers were emotionally distant. It’s not uncommon. Ultimately, it’s about seeking comfort.

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PermanentTemporary · 06/08/2021 21:31

I had an emotionally distant father. I never once wore his socks or pants or even thought about it.

There is wearing what you want, and there is trying to make up for emotional distance, and there is sexually driven behaviour. Probably for a lot of people there are links between them, but I think this response mixes them up unhelpfully. The suggestion is that if this person had had emotionally competent parenting, they wouldn't want to wear 'women's' underwear. That doesn't really make a lot of sense in terms of them also being liberated to wear what they like. And no mention at all of any sexual element; does that make sense?

I think it's a tone deaf and not very intelligent answer.

EdgeOfACoin · 06/08/2021 21:25

Hmm. Mothers are blamed for a lot of things.