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Have been called transphobic by my trans child

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Firevixen · 26/07/2021 17:23

My trans boy child just called me transphobic because I said they couldn't have their boyfriend over for a sleepover because they have a penis. My DC is 14 and the BF is 15.

They asked me what about if they had a transgirl stay over and I said that would be a no too because they have a penis.

So my DC thinks I'm transphobic and that I think that they are going to go around having sex with everyone.

I'm not being unreasonable am I? no one in their right mind would let two underage teenagers of the opposite sex, who are dating, have a sleepover, would they?

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Helleofabore · 26/07/2021 17:28

You are not unreasonable at all. Of course you are not. We had this conversation with our teenager too at the same age. No person that they are having a romantic relationship with gets to sleep over with them at that age.

WallaceinAnderland · 26/07/2021 17:27

Ach you will always be the baddie when teenagers try to push the boundaries. Making the bedroom a penis free zone is pretty normal parenting I would say.

iwantavuvezela · 26/07/2021 17:26

Would it not be two teenagers who are dating? That makes sense to me ... not the focus on whether they have a penis .... I agree that I wouldn’t allow a sleepover at that age between two teenagers who are dating .... it does sound transphobic to me

CharlotteRose90 · 26/07/2021 17:26

Not being unreasonable at all and you are stating the truth. I’d do the same as you.