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Is it only white middle class women who are GC?

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Ziegfeld · 24/07/2021 19:27

I recently summoned courage to have “the talk” with an old friend who is gay. I wanted to know his current thoughts on sex based rights, and I thought (as we are old friends) even if we disagreed we could have a civilised conversation about it.

Unfortunately I think he called me transphobic about five minutes into the conversation when I asked, so if we say let’s have self ID, how do we tell whether someone genuinely believes themselves to be a TW or is a man simply announcing he is a woman solely for the purposes of accessing women-only spaces for bad intent. ( His answers to that were “well we need safeguarding” and “there are hardly any TWs, this isn’t a real concern” and “well ideally we should all just have gender neutral changing rooms”)

Some more things were said by both of us which I won’t go into here because I am sure we’ve all heard them before.

But then he said that it’s only white middle class women (like me) who have a problem with self ID and allowing TW access to women’s spaces. He said that working class women and women of colour have no problem at all with it.

I don’t think this is true - look at Allison Bailey for example. But I would be interested to know what other MNers think. Is this a race and class issue? Or is it that white middle class women tend to have more platforms to speak out than other women?

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TrainedByCats · 25/07/2021 10:49

@Yesindeedydoodey

But they wouldn't be striding around changing room with their cock out, nor using a women's toilet in an unusual way. The point is that you would have no idea of the genitalia they have from their appearance. It's a nonsense.
And yet the personal experience of women such as myself who have experience of transwomen using women’s toilets and can and do say from personal experience transwomen do not act like women in toilets and are sometimes very scary in their behaviour are disregarded
KittenKong · 25/07/2021 10:47

Oh no, guv’nor, salt of the erf we is. Welcome to all, more the meeriah. We don’t ‘ave much, but we ‘ave we share, don’t we? Come on da’hlin, let’s budge up for a kindred spirit eh?

Are right...

TrainedByCats · 25/07/2021 10:46

[quote Yesindeedydoodey]So, you'd have no trouble determining who's female and who's male with these two people, then?

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www.google.com/search?q=buck+angel&newwindow=1&client=firefox-b-d&sxsrf=ALeKk02D7Suq6uhcMWg1nDuICGs5k73ggw:1627196867954&tbm=isch&source=iu&ictx=1&fir=tWAYDCfx4MFrXM%252CYwSRdeMA_i7uXM%252C%252Fm%252F0bc856&vet=1&usg=AI4_-kToV3XPWlFLFicva4L_KejOPUblCA&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwi-1Kza1P3xAhV3ZxUIHcuXDjkQ_B16BAgiEAE#imgrc=tWAYDCfx4MFrXM[/quote]
Despite the make-up & hair I see masculine facial features in the first picture and the second is Buck Angel, although I personally find pictures of many transmen of that age look similar to me. In real life I’ve seen many transwomen, their size, gait, features, voice, attitude to women and numerous other incongruencies have always given them away. I’ve not knowingly met any transmen. It is easier to tell in real life as pictures don't always indicate scale

Abhannmor · 25/07/2021 10:38

I suspect he really thinks the working class and ethnic minority ppl are too thick to understand or care about these matters. Patronising git.

334bu · 25/07/2021 10:38

Funny in this country it was pretty easy to stop men accessing female spaces.
" Oi mate that's the ladies' usually worked

Yesindeedydoodey · 25/07/2021 10:37

That's a continuation of your straw man line, really, isn't it?

334bu · 25/07/2021 10:36

**But they wouldn't be striding around changing room with their cock out, nor using a women's toilet in an unusual way. The point is that you would have no idea of the genitalia they have from their appearance. It's a nonsense.^^

Obviously you are a stranger to Social Media where you will find countless images of people doing just that.

Yesindeedydoodey · 25/07/2021 10:34

I think the point is that it's useless to talk about what we should and shouldn't do, legally, with regard to people's use of toilets and changing rooms. You can get people to carry identity cards, but those can be fixed. I'd think that people who'd gone to all the trouble of changing their appearance would be able to sort out the 'appropriate identity', too.

These arguments about toilets and transpeople kicked off in a big way in the USA some years ago, under the supremely malignant leadership of Trump. The arguments that I saw on various US forums always fizzled out (and, actually, frequently became farcical) when it came to the matter of how to police whatever laws were hypothesised to be introduced on the issue.

PigletJohn · 25/07/2021 10:31

@Yesindeedydoodey

But they wouldn't be striding around changing room with their cock out, nor using a women's toilet in an unusual way. The point is that you would have no idea of the genitalia they have from their appearance. It's a nonsense.
Are you trying to use the "It never happens" excuse?
R0wantrees · 25/07/2021 10:27

@Yesindeedydoodey

But they wouldn't be striding around changing room with their cock out, nor using a women's toilet in an unusual way. The point is that you would have no idea of the genitalia they have from their appearance. It's a nonsense.
The suggestion that women and girls might be observed undressing/sleeping by men in single sex spaces without their knowledge or consent is not the 'gotcha' that you seem to believe it to be.
LostDonkey · 25/07/2021 10:25

Sorry, cross-post with R0wantrees.

R0wantrees · 25/07/2021 10:25

@Yesindeedydoodey

The first link is of Jaye Davidson in The Crying Game.
Yesindeedy What's the point you trying to make? There are many examples in film, literature and theatre of a plot device whereby a character presents as the opposite sex and is revealed at the end. Shakespeare was fond of it (though at the time all female parts were played by male actors).
LostDonkey · 25/07/2021 10:24

The majority of women of colour at the time had to wait another ten years to get the vote.

Do you mean in the UK? Are you referring to the wording of the Representation of the People 1918 or 1928 Acts? As I recall, neither of the acts were based on a racial divide, unlike Australia or the United States. The acts applied to all women and wasn't only for the enfranchisment of white women.

Yesindeedydoodey · 25/07/2021 10:23

But they wouldn't be striding around changing room with their cock out, nor using a women's toilet in an unusual way. The point is that you would have no idea of the genitalia they have from their appearance. It's a nonsense.

RedToothBrush · 25/07/2021 10:23

Man: "how can i discredit women views? I know by saying women aren't inclusive enough so I can prove that my manly views are the right ones and are inclusive despite my privilege as a man which shall automatically become invisible if i raise concerns about the privilege of women"

R0wantrees · 25/07/2021 10:19

UK timeline

1918
The Representation of the People Act is passed on 6 February giving women the vote provided they are aged over 30 and either they, or their husband, meet a property qualification

1918
The Parliament (Qualification of Women) Act is passed on 21 November allowing women to stand for Parliament

1918
Women vote in a general election for the first time on 14 December with 8.5 million women eligible

1928
The Equal Franchise Act is passed giving women equal voting rights with men. All women aged over 21 can now vote in elections. Fifteen million women are eligible

Yesindeedydoodey · 25/07/2021 10:18

The first link is of Jaye Davidson in The Crying Game.

andromedana · 25/07/2021 10:08

@BloomingTrees

Wasn't that a criticism of the suffragettes, yet they managed to get all women the vote.
The majority of women of colour at the time had to wait another ten years to get the vote.
R0wantrees · 25/07/2021 10:00

I'm always unsure what point people are trying to make with regards photos of people who have gone to great lengths to present as the opposite sex. Would the same people suggest that access to nightclubs, purchase of alcohol etc should be granted to fifteen year olds who have gone to great lengths to appear over twenty one? The extension of such an argument would be that we dispense with age-based restrictions/protections altogether.
Similarly if a twenty two year old looks convincingly in a photograph to be fifteen is the argument that he should be given access to 12-16 year old youth groups etc?

WouldBeGood · 25/07/2021 09:56

I’d say quite the opposite!

MarshmallowSwede · 25/07/2021 09:55

There are lots of women of colour who are also GC.

The incident at Wi Spa in Los Angeles for example. A black American woman raised concerns and filmed her complaints and concerns with the Spa employees about a man being in the women’s locker room and she was shouted down as transphobic and of course trans women (white middle class, wealthier white men) attacked her, accused her of making it up. Media outlets (biased ones) accused her of making it up. She gave a news conference about it. So imagine a black American woman being told by trans women (white men in dresses) that they are more oppressed than her. Of course black women know this is nonsense and nothing but gaslighting, but no matter what colour a woman is, she is going to be shouted over by the Tra.

It’s not only white middle class women..it’s a lot of women who are too afraid to speak up. And when they do they are told they are lying. I think many women of colour know that this is an uphill battle. None of us.. white, black are being heard when it comes
To the Tra movement. But I know many women of colour who are also GC.

PigletJohn · 25/07/2021 09:52

@Yesindeedydoodey

If they were striding around a communal changing room with their cock out, or standing at a public lavatory with the door open, I think I would be able to tell quite easily.

If they were standing in a bus queue or buying a loaf of bread, I would not care.

What is the point you wanted to make with your question?

Roomonb · 25/07/2021 09:50

Obviously no-one cares about transmen, wonder why ……… 🤔

Roomonb · 25/07/2021 09:48

Asian woman here I believe transwomen are transwomen women are women.

It’s just gaslighting “wrong side of history, you should be ashamed of yourself, you are probably a bit racist too” bullshit.

QueenPeary · 25/07/2021 09:44

Same here, first link doesn’t work, in the other I immediately recognised buck angel who we all know is a transman thanks to having a high profile and GC campaigning. Buck’s voice doesn’t sound male, though I might see a male initially if I didn’t already know.