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Oh ffs..."people with uteruses"

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irresistibleoverwhelm · 17/07/2021 21:31

Downloaded Flo period app after Clue went all "people who menstruate", as they seemed reasonably sensible; but today got a popup notification from them letting me know that "70% of people with uteruses get uterine fibroids" FFS.

So fricking sick of this total bollocks rubbish.

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alkanet · 18/07/2021 00:11

It does make me feel like the next step is to refer to us as bleeders. Or just go the whole 9 yards...c#@*s.

NewlyGranny · 18/07/2021 00:08

The world is divided by the woke into men and non-men, so we don't need the word women any more, clearly.

NewlyGranny · 18/07/2021 00:07

The plural of uterus is uteri anyway, surely? (Gets point but gets easily distracted by etymology, too)

Megasausagehead · 18/07/2021 00:04

Is nobody allowed to just feel proud or comfortable to be a woman/mother anymore. Now we are reduced to organs and functions.

Runningupthecurtains · 17/07/2021 23:36

I hate being referred to by body parts and biological functions. As a woman with fertility issues it's such a kick in the teeth to constantly be reminded that my female body repeatedly failed to carry out the function it was designed for. It is so degrading.

Novelusername · 17/07/2021 23:24

It's strange that they repeatedly use the word 'women' on their Instagram page but not in the app: www.instagram.com/flotracker/

Novelusername · 17/07/2021 23:17

Thanks for letting us know about this. I was using Flo and have just deleted it. It was incredibly patronising anyway, and they're probably using my data for god knows what, so I can manage perfectly well without as it's really just a calendar. I'll leave it for those happy to be called 'people with uteruses'. Doesn't it sound like a form of masochism, women who approve and try to enforce all this stuff? It seems like they think this is their path to some sort of salvation, that women will no longer be bottom of the heap if we just pretend women don't really exist. Poor cows.

BessieWallisWarfield · 17/07/2021 23:03

Ah, I don't menstruate any more but I do cycle to work. Great - I'm included!

(Pretty sure there is a Victoria Wood sketch about this - something to do with cycle clips....)

saleorbouy · 17/07/2021 23:02

The majority have to change their titles for the tiny minority who choose to change their gender. As 'a person with a penis'I understand your frustration its getting a bit OTT now in the media.

IsItShining · 17/07/2021 22:44

How do you explain to girls that they will start to menstruate, without using the word ‘girls’?

‘Right, young people-who-will-potentially-menstruate, you come into the hall to watch PHSE Video 1, while the people-who-will-not-ever-menstruate stay in the classroom and watch Video 2.
Jessie, what do you mean, you don’t know which room to be in?’

AnneLovesGilbert · 17/07/2021 22:43

[quote emilybens123]I also feel like some brands and communications go too far in trying to be progressive and actually exclude more people by being 'inclusive'

I went to read Clue's policy on language and here's what they say they use now:

helloclue.com/articles/culture/accessibility-gendered-language-at-clue[/quote]
5% of the people who use that don’t think they’re women? Blimey.

merrymouse · 17/07/2021 22:38

How are we supposed to talk about the fact that for women, and women only, there are a number of reasons that being ‘a person who doesn’t menstruate’ is very significant?

emilybens123 · 17/07/2021 22:28

I also feel like some brands and communications go too far in trying to be progressive and actually exclude more people by being 'inclusive'

I went to read Clue's policy on language and here's what they say they use now:

helloclue.com/articles/culture/accessibility-gendered-language-at-clue

Oh ffs..."people with uteruses"
EndoplasmicReticulum · 17/07/2021 22:26

Public attention is starting.

My mum said to me this evening "did you know you are not allowed to say "woman" any more, it's all Birthing People and People with Uteruses?" My dad then mentioned JK Rowling!

I haven't discussed it with them and they don't use the internet. I think there have been articles in the Telegraph recently.

My mum is not impressed.

I may point her in the direction of some letters to write.

Eyesofdisarray · 17/07/2021 22:24

Thankful for the menopause quite honestly!!
I'd use uterus havers etc if men could be referred to as prostate owners, testicle bearers or penis havers. Which won't happen. Ever.
Funny how the word men isn't getting messed with

krystalweedon · 17/07/2021 22:23

We know we aren't seeing similar calls to nuance language around men

Yes, out of curiosity I looked at the Prostate Cancer Charity website. No mention of "people" there, just men.

prostatecanceruk.org/prostate-information/are-you-at-risk/

irresistibleoverwhelm · 17/07/2021 22:20

@krystalweedon

I am still getting to grips with some of this, but I don't understand what is wrong with saying "women and people who menstruate". That covers it all - women who menstruate and trans men who menstruate. I am a woman who doesn't menstruate because I am old, I am not offended to be reminded of that fact.
Krystal it might look fine replacing "women" with "women and people who menstruate" for period products; but it doesn't stop there tweets like those from the Vagina Museum are demanding that any use of women and girls be replaced with this stuff. Would you replace every use of "women" in casual conversation or anywhere -- with "women and people who menstruate"?

"Both men and "women and people who menstruate" can join the army these days"

"Men and "women and people who menstruate" across the globe are divorcing more frequently"

This is what these "progressives" demand.

We know we aren't seeing similar calls to nuance language around men (unless it's on sex tips websites, where "penis owners" is actually making an appearance Grin)

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TheVamoosh · 17/07/2021 22:20

All the big charities are captured. It’s a total gravy train of them all paying each other for training in their ‘area of expertise’

This is so fucking true.

irresistibleoverwhelm · 17/07/2021 22:09

I'm fast running out of period products I can buy which don't come out with this shite!

Had to give up Yoni, then Flow pads, can't buy any more Modibodi.

The best ones I've found are Boots thin maternity sanitary towels (got to be the thin ones) they're unbleached and comfortable, and I think they'll find it pretty hard to market maternity towels as for "people experiencing lochia" or some such nonsense. Likely to fly under the TRA radar. Still bloody irritating though.

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krystalweedon · 17/07/2021 22:07

I am still getting to grips with some of this, but I don't understand what is wrong with saying "women and people who menstruate". That covers it all - women who menstruate and trans men who menstruate. I am a woman who doesn't menstruate because I am old, I am not offended to be reminded of that fact.

SilverOak · 17/07/2021 22:05

It should be uteri not uteruses.

littlbrowndog · 17/07/2021 22:04

Keep pushing back. Keep pushing

Leave an app don’t suscribe to an app which uses this shite. After all they need us to subscribe to keep going

littlbrowndog · 17/07/2021 22:01

But they never do it on telly ads. Notice that.

They only do it where they can’t be in front of most of us

Too afraid

irresistibleoverwhelm · 17/07/2021 22:00

The more I think about how driven a lot of this is by young women, the more I see parallels in societies with practices like FGM, in which these are demanded by men; but often also enforced culturally by women -- who either fear social condemnation or abuse for not going along with it; or who are captured by the narratives of their culture around women's purity, honour, sexual fidelity etc.

Similarly, the men's rights angle of gender ideology demands these changes; but a lot of (especially young) women go along with these as a way of social regulation of purity, kindness, being a good person, being "progressive", virtue signalling etc. They may or may not fervently believe that they are in the right, but it really is a case study in self-deception -- what we used to call "being complicit in your own oppression". (I'm fairly sure a majority of TRAs know they are not; but the young women who go along with it most often genuinely seem to be captured.)

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Ekofisk · 17/07/2021 21:57

Saw this earlier today - here’s Milli Hill’s response that sums it up nicely:

Women have fought for decades to remove the shame around the language to describe their biology. It's because of their efforts that you can even call yourselves Vagina Museum. And now you're trying to frame the erasure of women and their words as progressive? Idiocy.

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