Two paragraphs in David's article stood out to me
"In her book, Helen Joyce, an editor at The Economist, sums up what was my understanding of the subject: “Most people thought, and many still do — that transness meant ‘transsexuality’: such a deep discomfort with one’s sexed body and strong identification with the opposite sex that only surgery to reshape the body to the extent possible could bring a measure of peace."
"That certainly seemed to be the story of those magazine features and Channel 4 documentaries about (mostly) people trapped in men’s bodies, driven to despair by prejudice and hopelessness until liberated. Having semiconsciously harboured for many years the natal male’s fear of castration (and doesn’t this subject quickly become personal?) I realised I had been one of those closet “transphobes” repulsed by the thought of sex-change and so was newly anxious at the very least to be sympathetic to the cause."
That was definitely my starting position all those years ago - that it was all about a tiny number of men (always men, never women back then) crippled by dysphoria, aww, we must be kind to those poor souls. And this is definitely the image fostered by those documentaries, or of boys, so even less threatening and more likely to attract sympathy. So this paragraph and a half reminded me of where I once was and where the majority of people still will be, largely because that's all they hear from out captured, IPSOS-bound, media.
Then he talks about something I, since I am a woman, have never and could never have - "the natal male’s fear of castration", and how that could shape how a man would view a TW. "I realised I had been one of those closet “transphobes” repulsed by the thought of sex-change and so was newly anxious at the very least to be sympathetic to the cause."
And that is what has to be overcome. I've always thought that men don't have skin in the game so happily give women's rights to other men. But maybe they do have skin in the game (reflex reaction to castration), and backing TW is their very own BeKind burden. And so maybe the best way to counter it is to hammer home that there are no castrations happening boys, so uncross your legs and use your eyes and your logic. No castration, no sex change happening so no, you're not a closet transphobe; so now you know these intact males are inserting themselves into women's spaces, do you still feel the need to back them?