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What are all the liberal celebs so quiet now at the spa?

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ClarrieGrundy · 05/07/2021 09:29

So we all knew that a man would get his cock out in front of women and little girls in a changing room at some point. And we would be told that the toddlers should just get over their bigotry.

Anyway, I was wondering why we haven't heard from all the slebs who have be parroting the TWAW line. Has anyone heard? Has anyone come out and and defended this brave penis? (Which I bet was a little bit hard as it sat exposing itself to a changing room full of women and little girls.)

Emma Watson? Sarah Silverman? Daniel Radcliffe? Why so quiet?

I listen to a few podcasts from comedians based in LA and I am always saddened to hear the casual way that LA millennials have decided that JKR is now toxic. Haven't heard anything about this yet from all of them.

Or am I being unfair?

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yourhairiswinterfire · 05/07/2021 11:33

Women confronting a male for getting his cock out in front of them and little girls, completely violating their boundaries, are ''making life difficult'' for LGBT people, seriously? Hmm

HarebrightCedarmoon · 05/07/2021 11:29

As the topic has become even more toxic online any celebrity would be well-advised to keep well out of it. I'm not keen to hear their mostly ill-informed views on any topic anyway.

ClarrieGrundy · 05/07/2021 11:24

Def old school 90s Sabrina. I love a bit of Melissa Joan Hart.

I wonder what she thinks of all this?

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2021DNA · 05/07/2021 11:24

Why would they come out to defend this guy? I though they were in support of trans woman not sexual predators?

GromblesofGrimbledon · 05/07/2021 11:23

How would Wi Spa implementing strict safeguarding practices to protect 6 year old and 9 year old girls and women asking for this to happen make your life harder @yeahbutnaw?

I'd like to know this too.

How does the safeguarding on girls and women make life harder for LGB or T people?

accessorizequeen · 05/07/2021 11:23

@timeisnotaline

I think it’s Laurie Penny who said the(9yo?) girl having a naked man sit next to her should have looked away and you’re bringing your children up wrong if they stare at men’s genitals.which happen to be naked, next to you and in the women and children’s section of the spa. Brain. Explode. Do you think she thinks children trafficked for sex are in this because of their own actions? Maybe there was a point a well brought up 7yo should have looked away and then she wouldn’t have been trafficked so really that’s on her, the 7yo?
Yes it was Laurie Penny. twitter.com/pennyred/status/1409790944635883523?s=21
peadarm · 05/07/2021 11:22

@ClarrieGrundy

So we all knew that a man would get his cock out in front of women and little girls in a changing room at some point. And we would be told that the toddlers should just get over their bigotry.

Anyway, I was wondering why we haven't heard from all the slebs who have be parroting the TWAW line. Has anyone heard? Has anyone come out and and defended this brave penis? (Which I bet was a little bit hard as it sat exposing itself to a changing room full of women and little girls.)

Emma Watson? Sarah Silverman? Daniel Radcliffe? Why so quiet?

I listen to a few podcasts from comedians based in LA and I am always saddened to hear the casual way that LA millennials have decided that JKR is now toxic. Haven't heard anything about this yet from all of them.

Or am I being unfair?

This is a long way from being the first time!

Not even in .

But it will probably mendaciously - along the lines of 'Karen White' - pass into received wisdom as a one-off

ScreamingMeMe · 05/07/2021 11:21

This could be renamed "The TRA's Prayer". Maybe just chuck a "Stfu bigot!" in there somewhere

What are all the liberal celebs so quiet now at the spa?
HecatesCatsInFancyHats · 05/07/2021 11:21

*Yes, it's becoming increasingly difficult to live as an LGBT person.

We're constantly tarnished with disinformation campaigns just like this one.

And you're helping to spread them - thereby making our lives harder. Thanks.*

What has male born people getting their penises out in front of women and girls in female designated spaces got to do with being gay or lesbian?

EvilPromPrincess · 05/07/2021 11:20

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EvilPromPrincess · 05/07/2021 11:17

Original 90s Salem, or new Netflix Salem? I don't know anything of New Salem, but from what Netflix has been pushing lately I would assume they are a nonbinary celebrity cat. And that you're a total bigot for assuming zir's gender.

DdraigGoch · 05/07/2021 11:16

@yeahbutnaw

Could it be that there's no evidence that it actually happened?

That it has all of the signs of a false flag operation? A woman who has a long history of anti-LGBT rhetoric on her Instagram decided to go to a spa known for being an LGBT hotspot... just randomly?

That she complained about children being exposed but no parents came forward to complain? That she didn't have a child with her?

That she filmed the entire encounter but conveniently cuts the video off before "confronting" the trans person?

Oh yeah... manufactured outrage. Just like the Wispa.

You'd have to be crackers to believe that.

Even the staff at the spa did not deny that there was a male in there. What "evidence" do you want? A photo of the meat and two veg? Pretty sure that's against Talk Guidelines...

ClarrieGrundy · 05/07/2021 11:14

Would it be a celebrity cat? Like that one out of Sabrina the Teenage Witch. That was definitely a male cat.

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Helleofabore · 05/07/2021 11:13

Yes, it's becoming increasingly difficult to live as an LGBT person.

You should seek a support group that suits your purposes. But maybe not one that encourages hyperbole and only emotive reasoning. There are plenty of groups who are using supporting evidence to progress their needs.

We're constantly tarnished with disinformation campaigns just like this one.

You are yet to show any reasoned thought or evidence that this is a disinformation campaign. Rather, you seem to ignore the evidence that has happened, and that it has now been reported to have happened at least twice previously.

You have also resorted to Ad hom attacks toward the person who has reported.

Please continue though, it is very good at highlighting the lack of evidence and the lack of thoughtful dialogue about the safeguarding issues that this brings up.

And you're helping to spread them - thereby making our lives harder. Thanks.

Shall we start to point out the ramifications of your own actions here. Where this potentially will end up if women and children's needs are ignored in the pursuit of the needs of males who wish to use the female spa section?

Shall we point out just who benefits from your line of reasoning? Or will you continue to aim that pointy finger of shame at women discussing the conflicts in the rights for safety, privacy and dignity for women and children.

How would Wi Spa implementing strict safeguarding practices to protect 6 year old and 9 year old girls and women asking for this to happen make your life harder yeahbutnaw?

Tell us exactly, not in vague notions. Exactly.

How would Wi Spa implementing strict safeguarding practices to protect 6 year old and 9 year old girls and women asking for this to happen make your life harder yeahbutnaw?

WinterTrees · 05/07/2021 11:13

And you're helping to spread them - thereby making our lives harder. Thanks

Quite incredible that this needs saying but women who speak out are not the problem here

EvilPromPrincess · 05/07/2021 11:10

If I worked at the front desk and someone was saying that, a.. I don't know, a cat was in the changing room.

I wouldn't make the point that cats were covered under equality legislation, implying that this was a thing that happened before and that I checked in the past and that I had probably just sold a ticket to a cat in the changing room.

I'd just say "of course we don't have cats in the changing room. It's for humans, you nut case. now fuck off out of here you're causing a scene. "

ClarrieGrundy · 05/07/2021 11:04

So the disinformation is that it didn't happen?

Sorry, but I don't believe that. But I am happy to be proved wrong if you can come up with something more than assertions that it was some skull and bones conspiracy shit.

However, it is a fact that women have been locked in prisons with sex offenders who have sexually assaulted them.
Is this disinformation as well? It's the same principle. If you believe TWAW you believe that all TWAW. No exception.

I imagine that the TRA threats to rape and kill women are not doing the cause much good either.

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GCAcademic · 05/07/2021 11:03

@Helleofabore

this will not be a one off incident

It already is not a one off incident with the other video released this weekend after the protest and the review posted by Arabella up thread.

I actually expect that more will come out over the next few weeks.

Not this particular spa, but there was a UK-based poster on here a year or two ago who said that her grandmother had stopped going swimming at the local leisure centre because she found herself in the shower next to a naked person with a penis. She was a Muslim, though, so I guess this makes her a religious fundamentalist, or else she just made the whole thing up. Perhaps our resident derailer can inform us which of the two it is.
Abhannmor · 05/07/2021 11:02

I saw a YouTube a while ago where Laurie Penny was basically being called a terf. Perhaps she just cracked. At any rate one really sad part of this nightmare has been the number of people I can't bear to read anymore. People I didn't always agree with but did respect. Ash Sarkar , Laurie Penny , Rebecca Solnit. Most of the Irish liberal/ left , even long ago Izzard and Owen Jones. I tried to watch Jones on Batley and Spen but ugh...

AssassinatedBeauty · 05/07/2021 11:01

Yes, it's becoming increasingly difficult to live as an LGBT person.

This has got nothing to do with the L or the G or the B, though. Why bring sexuality into this when it's clearly about gender identity?

It is also only your opinion that this is "disinformation", conveniently ignoring the multiple reports of the same behaviour and simply pretending that everyone is lying about it.

RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 05/07/2021 11:00

@invisiblesuit

I don't get the "it never happened" argument. No-one is suggesting that the transwoman did anything "wrong". The member of staff and woke man on the video made it quite clear that it was totally fine for a biological intact male saying they identify as a woman to go into the jacuzzi naked and sit next to a naked little girl. This is an everyday thing now. Why wouldn't it happen? We should expect it to happen a lot.
Absolutely
EvilPromPrincess · 05/07/2021 10:59

As far as I can tell from what I have read online is that it's a family business and that it's only a "hot spot" for one weirdo who like getting her dick out in front of children.

EvilPromPrincess · 05/07/2021 10:57

@yeahbutnaw

Could it be that there's no evidence that it actually happened?

That it has all of the signs of a false flag operation? A woman who has a long history of anti-LGBT rhetoric on her Instagram decided to go to a spa known for being an LGBT hotspot... just randomly?

That she complained about children being exposed but no parents came forward to complain? That she didn't have a child with her?

That she filmed the entire encounter but conveniently cuts the video off before "confronting" the trans person?

Oh yeah... manufactured outrage. Just like the Wispa.

Do you think the person at the front desk saying that they transgender woman has a right to be there legally is also proof that it didn't happen? Confused

Can you also say why you think it wouldn't be real? TW belong in women's changing rooms, that's what people want right? So why would you then argue it is fake.

ArabellaScott · 05/07/2021 10:56

@Thelnebriati

So according to some posters, women are untrustworthy, they lie about incidents like this and that why activists don't give us the benefit of the doubt.

I hereby name this the Frank Oceans Finger rebuttal.

It's a very, very common response to women asking that they be listened to/believed about sexual assault.

I see it so often. Women bring up figures of convictions for rape, etc.

Men bring up figures for how 'women lie' or 'women are manipulative'. Form of denial, at best.

invisiblesuit · 05/07/2021 10:55

I don't get the "it never happened" argument. No-one is suggesting that the transwoman did anything "wrong". The member of staff and woke man on the video made it quite clear that it was totally fine for a biological intact male saying they identify as a woman to go into the jacuzzi naked and sit next to a naked little girl. This is an everyday thing now. Why wouldn't it happen? We should expect it to happen a lot.