Pronoun badges for train staff and mis-gendering passengers

Presumably because the OP believes she should be able to misgender people on the basis that she would be using sex based pronouns and therefore her GC beliefs take precedence over the right of transgender people to be referred to by their preferred pronouns.

There are posters on here who deliberately or otherwise are doing their best to give lie to the claim "there's no transphobia here"

In fact why is this thread even posited as a feminist issue?

[quote kowari]**@Arbadacarba
Then why am I never called Sir with a typical male haircut, no make up, and short nails?[/quote]
You are being disingenuous and you know it. Abracadabra explained this very well in her post.

As for calling you 'lady" , in the situation here the usage would clearly be done to be polite. If you don't like it , then as Abracadabra pointed out, say so.

If the person continued to use lady, then it ceases to be polite. That's what happened here- they were asked not to use "sir" but carried on doing so.

[quote kowari]**@Arbadacarba
Then why am I never called Sir with a typical male haircut, no make up, and short nails?[/quote]
Without seeing you/hearing you, it's impossible for me to comment. As I said in my post, the things mentioned are likely, but not exclusive indicators of sex/gender.

So, speak up, kowari. Simply say 'I'd prefer you not to refer to me as 'this lady'.

As women, we shouldn't be afraid of being seen as 'attention-seeking drama llamas' (to quote a pp) if we simply state a reasonable preference in a reasonable manner.

This easy-labelling of women as 'attention-seekers' is partly why women, particularly middle-aged women, are terrified of standing up for their rights - it's where the dreaded 'Karen' label lurks.

@Arbadacarba
Then why am I never called Sir with a typical male haircut, no make up, and short nails?

Surely you can acknowledge that it’s far, far more common to see a woman with short hair, no makeup in “men’s” clothes but uses female pronouns than it would be to see a man in “womens clothes”, with a ponytail, acrylic nails and a bra who wants to be referred to as a man?

You might not like hearing "the lady here has a problem" but it's not mis- sexing or misgendering you.
It does make me feel misgendered actually. I do not present as a lady at all, it feels like a feminine term. I would have no objection to woman as that is just referring to my sex

Acknowledging that fact is not the same as saying all women have long hair and false nails, or all women should have long hair and false nails, or absolutely no males/male-identifying people have long hair and false nails.

It's simply saying that having long hair and false nails in 2021 makes you more likely to be female or female-identifying.

To deny this is disingenuous.

And aside from that your point is still irrelevant. You might not like hearing "the lady here has a problem" but it's not mis- sexing or misgendering you. The direct comparator would be to say of you "the gentleman here has a problem"

You are taking her comment out of context and twisting it to suit your own agenda.
I'm not deliberately twisting anything. What did the comment mean then? I have a barber cut and don't wear make up. I am in my DS's hand me down jeans. I don't get called Sir despite all the 'signs being there'.

Eden wasn't asking to be called a lady so your point is irrelevant.
I disagree. Eden was asking not to be called Sir as they didn't like it. I hate being called a lady but I don't make a fuss whenever someone calls me one.

Also really, really curious at the argument that natal women wouldn’t make a fuss. On the feminism board. Not making a fuss is not a good thing!

What relevance does that have to this incident?
Eden seems to think that a ponytail, fake nails and a bra indicate that someone is a woman. "I was literally standing in front of him with a ponytail, acrylic nails and a bra on - all the signs were there.”

I doubt I would ever be mistaken for a man although as men and women age the difference in facial features and proportions can change making some women look ambiguously masculine. If that were to happen to me, that in itself would be distressing and being repeatedly called "he" if I'd pointed out the error would be upsetting. Not enough to run to the press but probably enough to complain to the company.

I honestly think that this is is a rare case of actual/overt transphobia. The misgendering (beyond the first time and being corrected) was clearly done in a way calculated to hurt.

I interpret the ruling in the same way Arbadacarba.

Oh my goodness. That story! 🙈

To ask a related question, how many times have you seen articles about transmen being misgendered, complaining about it and being featured in newspapers? I suspect there is some related sex-based privilege going on.

I agree, you don't tend to see this, but there might be multiple reasons (or a combination of factors) in play. As you say, it may be a matter of privilege - it may be that legacy-privilege means transwomen are more likely to speak out about misgendering and more likely to be heard by journalists.

It may be that it happens less often - I'm not an expert but anecdotally, it seems generally easier for transmen to pass than for transwomen.