To mousey I am so sorry to read about what happened. I hope you and your son are getting all the help you need and are well supported xx
I can see where the OP is coming from but I do think that birth is such a crapshoot that it is a little naïve to dismiss medical interventions on the basis of little more than an untested idea that if we have more "natural" labours somehow the outcomes for mother and baby will be better (also better how?)
I was similarly privileged to have the time, resources and wherewithal to read lots, plan my positive birth, hire a doula, kit out my living room for a lovely home birth, for similar motivations. I feared a cascade of interventions, I wanted a nice "experience" and I was frankly arrogant. I believed I knew better than the entire medical profession after attending a hypnobirthing course and reading some Gaskin, that birth was medicalised unnecessarily. On paper I looked low risk and so was supported in my decisions.
On the day, I was one of those 9 in 1000 where it goes horrendously wrong and we both had a 999 transfer due to a very rare complication no one saw coming and the obstetric team had only read about. We both ended up in ICU, both facing a risk of very severe, catastrophically disabling neurological damage. Somehow, miraculously, we are both fine, but I didn't see my son for two days until I regained consciousness and he had months of follow up appointments to screen for neurological damage. It was only because one of the obstetricians recognised this condition on the day that we are both still alive and well.
You can read as much Milli Hill, Gaskin and Odent as you like, but you never know with birth. You can never tell if you will end up with a positive experience, or you will end up in a life threatening situation. And the outcome is largely down to factors beyond your control. I put my baby and myself at risk because I thought I knew better than the doctors, and I wanted a nice, positive birth experience. They were the ones saved our lives though.
There is a trend to dismiss medicalisation in birth, and to an extent I can agree, but as others have said, do not underestimate having a healthy baby and mother at the end of it. For me and any further pregnancies, if that means having a cascade of interventions and a shitty stay in hospital for a few days, so be it.