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Compromise for new FWR section - could you support this?

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shesellsseacats · 11/06/2021 17:55

Sex self ID / sex and gender and related questions are THE main topic of feminism at the moment. This shouldn't be hidden away.

But fair enough, if people want a section that doesn't have this topic in it.

So, how about MN keeps this main topic as Feminism Chat, same as now (all feminist related topics welcome) and then add a feminist sub-topic that's for those who don't want to discuss sex and gender.

This will give those who want it, a section free from this discussion, but be much less of a moderation headache for MN.

Win-win, no?!

Could you get behind this?

If so, what could the new sub-topic be called? (Some sensible answers, please! Grin I'd love MN to take this seriously.)

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FemaleAndLearning · 11/06/2021 21:57

No, I like everything in one place. I only click on threads that interest me. I think also there would be too much overlap. Most discussions about women's rights start with biology.

ChewtonRoad · 11/06/2021 21:53

The FWR board and feminism chat boards need to stay as they are. Hiving off this subject or that topic will lead to fewer opportunities for discussion of news and sharing ideas as divisiveness doesn't give a good platform for sharing views whether critical or acknowledging success.

I too suspect an increase in aggro towards MNHQ given recent events with Maya and Marian Millar, but this is a space where women can discuss such matters without descending into the cesspit of Hades that is Twitter.

Taking a (metaphorical) filleting knife to this board would be a very bad decision, please don't do it. I believe that women won't wheesht still holds for many of us.

mollythemeerkat · 11/06/2021 21:47

I came on FWR by chance and have found it a real source of information and support - would hate for it to go, but somewhere where sex/gender issues can be discussed is SO important - whatever it takes to keep a space open is the lesser of two evils as the poster says above. But it is wierd timing when people are starting to wake up to the issues.

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 11/06/2021 21:34

@JustbackfromBangkok

Given that this just another attempt to silence women, I think OP's suggestion is the lesser of 2 evils.
I agree.

I'm shocked at MN doing this now- the timing really is bizarre.

JustbackfromBangkok · 11/06/2021 21:26

Given that this just another attempt to silence women, I think OP's suggestion is the lesser of 2 evils.

yodaforpresident · 11/06/2021 21:23

I have read so many threads on the non-FWR boards which are fundamentally about sexism and sex, just as a few examples,

The one about the man wanting to talk to the poster’s DH because she would not let him park on her drive.

The frequent ones on women being financially abused because, as typically the lower paid, they are expected to take on all childcare, house management etc when they marry and have children and give up their financial independence.

The unbelievably frequent ones where the pain from gynae and period issues are deemed non important by GPs and as something that has to be suffered because that’s just part of being a woman.

All of these threads are about sex, not whether the poster is wearing a frock and heels. Feminism and women’s sex based rights are important as evidenced by the fact that they are not solely discussed in FWR. Now is not the time to shut down discussion.

Lumene · 11/06/2021 21:07

Would be fine with your idea OP.

shesellsseacats · 11/06/2021 21:05

@xxyzz

a) I don't understand how this is intended to work. How can you talk about feminism and not mention say sexism? Presumably banned as it references the word sex. Or the so-called gender pay gap, banned as it references gender, which is banned.

It's like having a Health board where you're not allowed to mention illness or a Relationships board where you're not allowed to mention the terms husband, partner etc or abbreviations.

b) Why on earth has MN, which has stood strong in defence of its female audience and userbase - without which it doesn't have a business - suddenly succumbed to an attack of what I can only say appears to be cowardice, straight after a judge and the EHRC have officially pronounced that women DO have the right to discuss sex and gender and have opinions on these things?

Why now?? Confused

It's baffling!
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shesellsseacats · 11/06/2021 21:04

@TheFnozwhowasmirage

No. Just no. Feminism can't exist if we aren't be able to discuss and organise to uphold our rights. I don't want to be hived off into a subsection.
Neither do I. That's what this thread is about. How to we stop that happening?
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shesellsseacats · 11/06/2021 21:04

@Floisme

I don't know op, you're trying to be positive and I feel a bit churlish arguing with you. I just have a strong feeling that it won't solve the objections to FWR. You see, I don't think any of this is really about a desire for a new, additional space because it it were, wouldn't the suggestion have been made already? I suspect the issue is that what is wanted is this space, and that therefore this compromise, admirable as it sounds, won't achieve anything. But maybe I've just had a bad day!
Oh yes I totally agree, some people definitely want us to be purged from this space.

I don't know what's happened for this to seem like a good idea to Justine, but Justine isn't a TRA. If she was, this section would have gone years ago.

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belleager · 11/06/2021 20:59

I do think your idea is far better than hiving off or splitting - someone needs to define what the new board is for. So let them - whether MNHQ or whoever has been campaigning for it.

I would also be afraid of losing all the older threads in a shuffle, so keeping this board, not two new boards, seems vital. So yes, I'd be relieved to see MNHQ agree to your plan.

TheFnozwhowasmirage · 11/06/2021 20:57

No. Just no. Feminism can't exist if we aren't be able to discuss and organise to uphold our rights. I don't want to be hived off into a subsection.

shesellsseacats · 11/06/2021 20:55

@Ereshkigalangcleg

OP is correct in terms of what Justine has said on Site Stuff. It's not ideal but it's not her fault. It's a possible compromise. Don't shoot the messenger.
Thanks Flowers Gin
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belleager · 11/06/2021 20:54

Yes it is an extraordinary suggestion. I assumed MNHQ had a fairly good grasp of this stuff, or were working on a free speech principle. Especially the idea that the board could be called women's/trans rights Confused. Could a rogue intern have been given the keys to Justine's account today?

shesellsseacats · 11/06/2021 20:53

[quote StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind]**@shesellsseacats* I think everyone is clearly hoping that @MNHQ* actually pay attention and scrap this idea and leave FWR as it is!

What are the chances of that happening, do we think? [/quote]
Dunno, it came from Justine.

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StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 11/06/2021 20:52

@shesellsseacats I think everyone is clearly hoping that @MNHQ actually pay attention and scrap this idea and leave FWR as it is!

What are the chances of that happening, do we think?

shesellsseacats · 11/06/2021 20:51

@RufustheBadgeringReindeer

I think everyone on here thinks its a stupid fucking idea

BUT

If they are deffo going to do it then I’d rather this board was untouched

Me too.
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shesellsseacats · 11/06/2021 20:50

@belleager

Wouldn't this mean putting together moderation principles for discussing feminism without reference to biological sex - for this board or a sub-board, depending how they were split? I'd like to know what they would look like. Would they then apply everywhere on MN except the special segregated board?
IKR! It'll be a moderation nightmare for MN, I'm not sure if they really understand the implications of what they're suggesting!
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shesellsseacats · 11/06/2021 20:49

@GrumpyMiddleAgedWoman

In answer to the OP, no!

As others have said, this is the single most important issue being discussed by feminists at present. The meaning of the word 'women' has been so compromised that we have to specify with 'natal women' or 'adult human females' or 'XX women' when we mean, yunno, women.

The whole situation is fucking insane.

What are you saying no to?

Are you saying no to the idea that feminism shouldn't include discussion of sex and gender?

If so, I agree wholeheartedly.

Are you saying no to the board being split? In which case, yes I agree but MNHQ are saying they want to do this, not me

Or, are you saying no to my suggestion that this board stays the same and any new board goes elsewhere? If so, what is your objection?

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ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 11/06/2021 20:47

I'm suggesting this board stays as it is and that if other people want a feminist section where sex and gender are not discussed, then they should have a new thread elsewhere, not us.

I agree that if the board has to be split your option is better. But I still believe that people don't want a section where sex and gender are not discussed, they want sex and gender to not be discussed at all.

xxyzz · 11/06/2021 20:46

a) I don't understand how this is intended to work. How can you talk about feminism and not mention say sexism? Presumably banned as it references the word sex. Or the so-called gender pay gap, banned as it references gender, which is banned.

It's like having a Health board where you're not allowed to mention illness or a Relationships board where you're not allowed to mention the terms husband, partner etc or abbreviations.

b) Why on earth has MN, which has stood strong in defence of its female audience and userbase - without which it doesn't have a business - suddenly succumbed to an attack of what I can only say appears to be cowardice, straight after a judge and the EHRC have officially pronounced that women DO have the right to discuss sex and gender and have opinions on these things?

Why now?? Confused

shesellsseacats · 11/06/2021 20:45

A new board, I mean.

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shesellsseacats · 11/06/2021 20:45

@ChateauMargaux

Sounds like policing womens speech to me... wasnt there some attempt to split this board into Lib Fem and Rad Fem a while ago.. I think that was not super successful!
Jeez, this is like the cancel the cheque thread!

I can see I plainly wrote the OP badly, I should have given the background more clearly.

I'm not suggesting we split the board - MNHQ are.

In their version we get banned from this board, effectively and hidden away.

I'm suggesting this board stays as it is and that if other people want a feminist section where sex and gender are not discussed, then they should have a new thread elsewhere, not us.

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Cabinfever10 · 11/06/2021 20:42

Sorry but another no feminism is about women sex based rights

AdHominemNonSequitur · 11/06/2021 20:40

Sounds like this space is under threat. Do we need to start contingency planning a new online space? If Mumsnet are genuinely considering this, they are not so naive as to not understand the implications. Perhaps it is strategic?