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Gender on School Form

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ItsSnowJokes · 07/06/2021 13:23

My daughter starts school in September, today we received the enrollment form and on it it has gender instead of sex. My husband has said I will be "that parent" if I cross it out and put sex. He is worried that she will be there for 7 years of primary and they will always remember what we did on the form.

What would you do?

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MrsOvertonsWindow · 07/06/2021 16:33

@Randomo

Why make a mountain out of a mole hill. Just answer the question on the form.
Why change the world accepted definitions of male and female for a meaningless concept based on stereotypes? Just stick to simple accurate language.

(fixed that for you)

Randomo · 07/06/2021 16:29

Why make a mountain out of a mole hill. Just answer the question on the form.

TedImgoingmad · 07/06/2021 16:10

I was proud to be "that parent" and crossed out gender and inserted sex.
You have to be the adult in the room for the sake of your children, OP, so good for you. Tell your DH he needs to step up, parenthood is not a popularity contest.

I've also just returned an NHS survey in relation to a trial for Covid testing, that asked me for my "gender". The usual, male, female, other, prefer not to say boxes. I ticked the "other" box and wrote the following: SEX NOT GENDER, YOU IDIOTS. I AM OF THE SEX CLASS FEMALE. HOW DO "GENDER FEELINGS" HELP IN A CLINICAL TRIAL?" A wee bit childish, but I am beyond caring. The NHS is a disgrace for going along with this utter madness, and in adopting it, they have legitimised it and helped it to leech into every other walk of life. How much tax payer's money will be wasted on all the inaccurate and useless data that's been collected these past few years?

FrancesGumm · 07/06/2021 14:19

Excellent OP - I was ‘that’ mother who wrote in an email about the new gender identity lessons. Not received a reply yet, that reminds me…..

Theeyeballsinthesky · 07/06/2021 14:02

I always change gender to sex on forms - there are loads of us being that woman 😆

MrsOvertonsWindow · 07/06/2021 13:59

We all need to be that parent or that woman . It's standing passively by that has allowed this unrepresentative minority to capture all of our institutions to the extent that Stonewall feel confident in threatening organisations that if they don't remove the word "mother" from maternity policies, they can't claim to be inclusive and have a meaningless award.

BE THAT WOMAN! Grin

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 07/06/2021 13:53

I put sex and then also a little paragraph about the Equality Act!

Bancha · 07/06/2021 13:50

@newnortherner111

You did the correct thing. Alternatively you could have sent the form back and asked for all parents to be given a correct form, failing which you will complain to the Information Commissioner.

So you took the lesser option.

I love this!

Is this an option?

SpindleWhorl · 07/06/2021 13:50

I've noticed on surveys posted on MN there are more and more with claptrap 'gender' questions with bizarre choices of answers that confuse biological sex and social gender self-identifications.

Like the Grandparent Kinship Care one currently running.

The answers are supposed to inform social policy.

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 07/06/2021 13:48

I had this exact dilemma last month.
The only difference is that I’ve already got myself a “that parent” label for requesting politely exercising my parental right that my daughter starts on a part-time basis.
The school were adamant this had never happened before and they had to look into the legal requirements etc. They reluctantly contacted me to say they would allow me to home school for one day a week.
So when the form came, I just ticked female and sent it in.
Once the dust has settled, I will absolutely start crossing out “gender” and correcting it to say “sex”.

newnortherner111 · 07/06/2021 13:47

You did the correct thing. Alternatively you could have sent the form back and asked for all parents to be given a correct form, failing which you will complain to the Information Commissioner.

So you took the lesser option.

MissyB1 · 07/06/2021 13:47

I do it on every form I ever have to fill in, whether it’s for ds or me.

SirSamuelVimes · 07/06/2021 13:45

I did it on my dd's school form. I do it on everything!

IslandLulu · 07/06/2021 13:43

Sex not gender

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ItsSnowJokes · 07/06/2021 13:42

@MrsBongiovi

Let him mutter. 😂
I have left him to it. As a white male he has enough privilege already.

I know what he was saying, and I am sure the school will not even comment but as I am slowly outing myself as GC these things matter.

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SpindleWhorl · 07/06/2021 13:42

pick your battles

Personally I think this is THE battle

MrsBongiovi · 07/06/2021 13:40

Let him mutter. 😂

DoingItMyself · 07/06/2021 13:39

Thank you for doing it!

DoingItMyself · 07/06/2021 13:39

Sex.

It's only if we all speak up that people will get the message that this matters to us.

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ItsSnowJokes · 07/06/2021 13:38

Its done. Husband is muttering but I have to do it.

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DinosaurDiana · 07/06/2021 13:33

I would cross it out and put sex too.

gamerchick · 07/06/2021 13:32

I change it to sex. Nobody has commented.

Theunamedcat · 07/06/2021 13:30

Put sex in if challenged tell them you put sex as your child Currently has no gender preference

Or explain for medical reasons its vital they know the actual sex of the child

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ItsSnowJokes · 07/06/2021 13:30

You are all right. And I knew I had to stick to my principles but had a wobble as I don't want my daughter affected by this in the school environment (which is ironic, as being female its a given she will be any way!)

Thank you for the back up.

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Checkingout811 · 07/06/2021 13:30

I crossed it out and changed it to sex on my sons form.