Best responses for being asked for pronouns in person

“I am yet to decide, and don’t want to be pressed. Thank you”.

I prefer one and oneself. If you wish to speak to me by name, I choose to be called ‘your majesty’

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"I'll pass, thanks."

I read interesting articles, by more than one transsexual who regularly flummoxed people by giving that answer. (They did not like the compulsory and performative pronoun rounds at all. For a number of reasons, not least of which was that if they insisted on a pronoun round, it was like a public announcement that you didn't pass. And making it a group performance was worse than one or two people calling you by the pronoun that corresponded to your sex.)

I wouldn't be drawn into justifying myself or any sort of debate. Just a "no, thanks". If anyone ever insisted (or pissed me off enough), my long answer would be something like "I grew up in a totalitarian state without freedom of speech. I don't ever want to live like that again, it's miserable. So, thanks for asking but I would never deny you the right to choose your own words."

If I felt combative, I might add that I expect them to respect my right to choose my own words, too.

"Are you trying to say I look like a man?"

Ooh, I think I'll go for that if I'm ever asked danadas .

My plan is to say "oh it's fine thanks, whatever you feel most comfortable with" .

(In the tone of someone turning down an offer of help)

I've not yet had to do it, but I hope that it would present the refusal as a nice generous thing rather than being confrontational.

I'm also with the poster who said words to the effect of, 'I call myself I, and you can call me you or Seraphinite' maybe along with a slightly puzzled look - but a brisk 'second person singular' has a great ring to it!

'I don't have any'

'Are you trying to say I look like a man?'

'If you are talking to me use my name, if you are talking about me use whatever you want; I'm not there to hear it'

I go to a lot of hobby things where it's normal to ask people to introduce themselves with their pronouns. I just introduce myslf without. If I'm ever pushed I plan on saying in a syrupy voice; "Oh thanks but I'm not really comfortable sharing my pronouns, you can just call my Billy.

"Looking at me what do you think my pronouns are?"

"I don't own any pronouns"

"The ones normally used when referring to person of my sex"

"Pronouns are what other people use when talking about me not to me and I don't believe in policing the speech of other people"

Ask what a pronoun is, then keep asking more convoluted questions about it, and say you have never been very good at languages.

Although I would actually just go with they and them just to annoy people because they don’t want to have to make an effort to remember the pronouns of menopausal women.

Still in love with wombstress as a pronoun though.

If they ask “what are your preferred pronouns?” I’d say “I have no preferences, thanks” and if they word it “would you like to share your preferred pronouns?” I’d just say “no thank you”.

There are lots of excellent smart answers but you have to interact with these people and get the most out of the course, so I’d keep it as neutral as possible without caving in to the ideology.

I’d probably look at them as though they were mad and give my pronouns in an ‘it’s obvious’ kind of way .

A pp had it...I refer to myself as I and me and you can call me you/my name. Sorted!

I think BaronessBomburst has the answer, that just about covers everything.

It really depends how confrontational you want to be. The best answer is "sex based - like my oppression", but that's almost guaranteed to start an argument.

The one time I've actually been asked I was really not in the mood. I said something along the lines of "It would be arrogant to choose the words others should use to describe me". This led to a long hush with a lot of people looking at the floor. I'm not sure it did any good, but it felt great.

You could also just say "second person singular, thanks!" with a breezy smile and leave them to admit they don't actually understand how pronouns work......

My bland look would be the same as the pp tbh.!

I'd just smile and say 'mm' and ignore. If pressed, 'no, thanks'.

Say your name. Nothing else.
Dont say you feel uncomfortable if asked. It makes it about you. Just say " you can use whatever pronoun you want it makes no difference"
World gone slightly xxxx
I hope the training is better than it sounds like it might be ... creating anxiety before it's even started
World has gone xxx

"Personally I prefer to refer to myself as 'I', though most other people refer to me as 'you', so that will probably suffice."

Oh... (long pause) are you really asking me to out myself?