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Whose a good enough femminist.

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Gumbomambo · 02/06/2021 18:39

I work as a part time DV councillor. I’m a SAHM most of the time. I also work with a group of women, locally that support abused women. We are able to give them and their children immediate support. We aren’t part of a charity, we have a few ladies in our group that can give immediate care. I’ve read some of the threads over the last few days and I feel like the. “Clever” feminists just don’t want us to be part of the discussion. We are all working class women and do what we can, we have baby drives, and ask our groups for kids clothes, nappies, ladies clothes, pots and pans, bedding etc . I feel like some of these threads recently have lost the plot! We are just women and we work so hard for the women and children in our community to be part of our community and given a start. I think I’m saying that a lot of the posters here would have our backs but some have just made us feel thick and stupid and not able to join the discussion. The Posie Parker thread really shocked and upset me. We just want some help. Some people seem to do feminism on Twitter we just look after the casualties. Rant over.

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Igmum · 02/06/2021 19:12

Your work sounds wonderful Gumbo. I haven't read the other threads but don't let anything discourage you from this. That sort of practical support to the women and children who need it most is worth more than almost any theory. Here's to you and your friends

Gumbomambo · 02/06/2021 19:07

I think it was the call to arms from the Posie thread, it wouldn’t affect us. It just upset me that there were arguments against it. All I rad and saw was just putting some money up for broken women. I was so shocked that it turned into a “you can’t do that “thread . It was so upsetting to see some of my lovely posters turning on themselves. I felt so troubled that the message seemed to be lost. We don’t care about the politics or the personalities, we just clean up our friends. We dust them down, we put their feet on the road that they want and we keep the doors open. I just felt like it all had to be put in a different way and it was a “what you know” kind of thing. When there’s a destroyed terrified human being in front of you you just hold them together and help them breathe. So simple. So heartbreaking.

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Leafstamp · 02/06/2021 19:02

Feminism, like any worthy cause, needs people like you at the coal face OP. Thank you for all that you do Flowers

Like Arabella says, you’re more than welcome to join in any thread here.

I don’t like to reveal too much about what I do IRL here and I imagine others are in a similar boat. What I’m saying is that I think you can’t always easily tell what “type” of feminist someone is from what they say here.

There are no doubt lots of arm chair activists, but the drip drip of letters sent by people like them and the supportive tweets do have their place too.

RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 02/06/2021 19:02

I do fuck all gum and when it comes to feminism I’m as thick as a brick

Thank you for everything you do, its very important 💐

DeRigueurMortis · 02/06/2021 19:00

@ArabellaScott

Sounds like you do fabulous work, Gumbo. Thank you for all that you do. Flowers

I don't quite understand what the problem is regarding other threads - you have just as much right to join any discussion as any other poster.

What is it you want doing? What's been said that's upset you?

Yes this ^

ArabellaScott · 02/06/2021 18:56

Sounds like you do fabulous work, Gumbo. Thank you for all that you do. Flowers

I don't quite understand what the problem is regarding other threads - you have just as much right to join any discussion as any other poster.

What is it you want doing? What's been said that's upset you?

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