Hi, OP.
Frustrating when things get deleted. There are the rules, and there is 'the spirit' thing, too. Harder to grasp as it isn't really defined. And yes, lots of people monitor this board [waving] and report posts.
Over time, it's very informative to see what gets reported and deleted quickly. Some things we're really not allowed to discuss. You have to ask why it's so dangerous for women to talk amongst themselves, really.
Anyway, when posting, I try to keep my focus on women (and girls, and children generally). This is both more positive, constructive and avoids reports/deletions.
For proactive stuff, have you tried looking for a local ReSisters group? Written to your MP? Have a look at Fair play for women. There are a lot of actions, from tiny to middling to big, that can make a difference.