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Girl pushed under train.

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Thelnebriati · 10/05/2021 22:50

The girls all have to run past the boys to board the train.
One girl is kicked in the face, spat on, shoved, tripped up, and ends up falling on to the tracks.

The guard in they hi vis yellow jacket just watches.

I'm at the end of my tether with male violence and entitlement.

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camaleon · 11/05/2021 12:00

@Zinco

What I am saying is that we have tried violence to stop violence for centuries. Mostly male violence and replicating male patterns of violence. If this worked it would not exist or it would have been moderated.

When we moved away from using corporal punishment, it was never based on hard evidence of what does or doesn't work. It was basically a moral reform. It's "progressive" and "humanitarian" to stop doing it.

I guess I could say, the fact that we used those punishments for hundreds of years is evidence that they must have been useful.

But really of course, we need properly designed studies to work this out, and they wouldn't be allowed to happen.

So you believe violence against women is useful too, especially by husbands. Or any kind of violence obviously

Violence against children was normalised within the home. The same as violence against women. Because they had no rights. Basically violence of those with more power over others.

Every society has rules against violence. No society consents to children (or women) been randomly beaten by strangers. It is allowed by those with authority over them. Mostly men, but also women reproducing these patterns of power in the house.

There are plenty of studies showing the damage of violence on children. I don't know where you are trying to get.
Corporal punishment has always been illegal when those who were beaten did not belonged to the category women or children (or other marginalised from society such as prisoners).

You can always justify violence if you want to. Then, you can say the violence exercised by these guys also serves a purpose within their own community.

I am starting from the position that violence is not good. Not something that you like depending who is the one at the receiving end

Redandpink · 11/05/2021 11:58

It was daytime drinking and smoking in a park with babies and prams in tow. It was no place for babies.

There was a culture for a long time where people had babies for benefits.

I presume gangs of aggressive youths like this is a consequence of absent parents.

The question still remains where are the parents of these youths?

UsedUpUsername · 11/05/2021 11:57

@Wishing14

I do think part of the problem (though it cannot be proved) is the rise and normalisation of pornography, which is becoming more and more extreme and depicting violence and degradation to women. If you asked young women now what ‘normal’ sex is like (e.g. one night stands) I guarantee they will have different answers to even 10 or 20 years ago. Even on mainstream tv, itv and bbc dramas, the storyline so often seems to be violence and rape of women. I think we seriously underestimate hidden links between these things and how they change how we feel, think and behave. So much so they are slowly changing how both men and women experience pleasure/ pain. I can see it happening and it’s terrifying. There is a real issue here that runs deep into ALL society. I remember being 13 (I am 33 now) and being shown a video involving a woman and a horse by boys at school. God knows what girls are subjected to now and how it makes them feel about their place in the world. And boys too who I also feel scared for (as a mum of both a boy and girl). I don’t know what the answer is...
This social phenomenon in Ireland actually predates the easy access to pornography fwiw it’s really a local issue that has been ignored or minimised for far too long
EsmaCannonball · 11/05/2021 11:56

If women were the world's criminals and yobs, men would reintroduce gulags and firing squads. (Only they wouldn't because they'd fear us and we'd be the ones in charge. I guess teenage boys like this have their uses as the basic-level enforcers of the patriarchy.)

Zinco · 11/05/2021 11:54

Violence breeds more violence and capital punishment functions as the ultimate sanction for violence

I don't agree with "putting them down", that might be going slightly too far.

However, I will point out that even using prison is a form of violence. You have to drag people into containment and hold them against their will. That's violence, plain and simple.

Stop using prison because it teaches people that violence is acceptable?

The idea that if you have the death penalty, you are teaching that it's OK to kill is absurd to me. Obviously, you are teaching only that it's OK to kill in very specific circumstances, and that generally it's very bad to kill.

Highfivemum · 11/05/2021 11:54

Omg. This is sickening. Do we know how the girl is ? Hope she is ok. Let’s hope they throw away the key with these entitled bullies but somehow I doubt it.

Mulletsaremisunderstood · 11/05/2021 11:51

I think it's quite telling that although this has been picked up internationally, it doesn't appear anywhere on RTÉ's website. So the state broadcaster is failing to acknowledge this. How predicable.

We have a serious law and order problem in this country, and until people demand better from the Gardaí (more visible on the streets, more resources) the justice system (harsher sentencing) and the government it's not going to change.

I hope this get reported far and wide and our pathetic government are shamed into seeing what is really going on.

skirk64 · 11/05/2021 11:50

@ChloeCrocodile

I think we've reached a stage where we need to priortise recruiting huge numbers of public transport police/security to patrol all trains and tubes to a much greater extent than they do.

In England there are moves to remove guards from trains entirely and have drivers only. There were a series of railway strikes about it pre-covid. For the safety of all vulnerable people this needs to be resisted in the strongest terms.

I can't blame the guard for not getting involved - it was one person against a huge group. However, if train guards are unable to intervene, they should be calling the gardi (or police in UK) every single time they have to chuck people off the trains for violence, intimidation or harassment. All of those things are against the law. We should not have to wait until a girl is seriously injured before the law intervenes.

The removal of guards was more about changing their role, they would still be on board the train but would not have responsibility for opening and locking the doors. The fuss a couple of years ago was because it means trains would be able to run without them if there was none available, which means the guard and their unions would no longer have the power to disrupt services if they didn't get their way in negotiations.

That said, driver-only trains have been common on some lines in England for decades.

In the OP's video I don't blame the guard for not getting involved, his job is to keep the train running safely, not handle a pack of violent scummy kids.

DdraigGoch · 11/05/2021 11:49

@RB68

Its the guy in the red puffer that causes the fall and desepite the fact he went back and seems shocked by the fall he should still be held accountable. There was no power in the kick but it is still to his shame that he did it and aimed it at the head of a woman. What are the parents of these boys teaching them...do they not have mothers
I'm not sure that he really was "shocked". Those exaggerated gestures are not ones of humility, instead they are attention-seeking ones designed to show off.
Miasicarisatia · 11/05/2021 11:47

Imo babies were being popped out for the benefits culture
@Redandpink can you expand on that a bit?
I presume that 'popped out' is the phrase that you use for 'giving birth'?
What was it specifically that you were disgusted by?

Wishing14 · 11/05/2021 11:46

I do think part of the problem (though it cannot be proved) is the rise and normalisation of pornography, which is becoming more and more extreme and depicting violence and degradation to women. If you asked young women now what ‘normal’ sex is like (e.g. one night stands) I guarantee they will have different answers to even 10 or 20 years ago. Even on mainstream tv, itv and bbc dramas, the storyline so often seems to be violence and rape of women. I think we seriously underestimate hidden links between these things and how they change how we feel, think and behave. So much so they are slowly changing how both men and women experience pleasure/ pain. I can see it happening and it’s terrifying. There is a real issue here that runs deep into ALL society. I remember being 13 (I am 33 now) and being shown a video involving a woman and a horse by boys at school. God knows what girls are subjected to now and how it makes them feel about their place in the world. And boys too who I also feel scared for (as a mum of both a boy and girl). I don’t know what the answer is...

oldwhyno · 11/05/2021 11:46

They need identifying and taken to court with their parents, also identified, and made to explain themselves. And that should be televised around their community.

MarshaBradyo · 11/05/2021 11:45

Bloody hell! That is so awful

Shameful

I hope she’s alright and he’s arrested

Will rtft

toocoldforsno · 11/05/2021 11:45

@Redandpink

I remember visiting Dublin in the 00s. I remember seeing something that wasn't quite right. There were gangs of youths hanging around in parks smoking and drinking cans in the middle of the day but what stood out to me the most were prams and babies in tow with them. I presume it was young mothers. I remember being disgusted at it. Imo babies were being popped out for the benefits culture. I presume gangs of youth like this has formed due to a lack of parenting and from parents who don't care about them.

Not everyone and not every young mother is like this. There's probably many great people who became teenage years so I am not putting everyone into the same bracket here.

You could have seen that anywhere in the world, what has Dublin got to do with it? And how do you think you could understand the motivations of people just by looking them? Jog on.
RedactedTaeFeck · 11/05/2021 11:45

@NameChangedCosShame

As if I wasn't angry enough...

www.lbc.co.uk/news/shocking-moment-girl-is-knocked-onto-train-tracks-by-gang-of-yobs/

A Garda spokesman said: "Gardai are investigating an incident of assault that occurred in Howth Junction Dart Station on 1st April, 2021, at approximately 9pm.

"A woman fell from the train platform during the incident and sustained injuries."

Fell?
Ok then.

You can clearly see the bigger wheel of the bike hit into her and the smaller wheeled bike was obviously trying to do the same.

Absolute gobshites and minimising what they did is appalling. Also it's a 17 year old girl, not a woman. Not that should make any difference but this is a child they are assaulting.

The lad in the red gilet does look shocked and does stay but yet seconds before he was the one lunging/spitting at the girls.

Zinco · 11/05/2021 11:44

What I am saying is that we have tried violence to stop violence for centuries. Mostly male violence and replicating male patterns of violence. If this worked it would not exist or it would have been moderated.

When we moved away from using corporal punishment, it was never based on hard evidence of what does or doesn't work. It was basically a moral reform. It's "progressive" and "humanitarian" to stop doing it.

I guess I could say, the fact that we used those punishments for hundreds of years is evidence that they must have been useful.

But really of course, we need properly designed studies to work this out, and they wouldn't be allowed to happen.

Redandpink · 11/05/2021 11:43

I remember visiting Dublin in the 00s. I remember seeing something that wasn't quite right. There were gangs of youths hanging around in parks smoking and drinking cans in the middle of the day but what stood out to me the most were prams and babies in tow with them. I presume it was young mothers. I remember being disgusted at it. Imo babies were being popped out for the benefits culture. I presume gangs of youth like this has formed due to a lack of parenting and from parents who don't care about them.

Not everyone and not every young mother is like this. There's probably many great people who became teenage years so I am not putting everyone into the same bracket here.

LongHotSummerJustPassedMeBy · 11/05/2021 11:40

The comments on one of the articles I read were pretty bad too - one commenter even victim-blamed the girl who fell under the train and said she "should have known better" - better than fucking WHAT? She was running to catch her train, should she have known better than to travel home on the train?

These are misogynistic comments,

Young girls going out and about on their own = too modern, while 'boys will be boys'.
Angry

Miasicarisatia · 11/05/2021 11:40

@SofiaMichelle

They need to be put down. Not punished, not rehabilitated, not made to pay compensation. Just put down.

Society doesn't need them. They are, and will continue to be, a blight on everyone else so why not just cut the crap and save everyone else from their abusive behaviour by making them into dog food.

I understand the sentiment but I also think this is not the way forward Violence breeds more violence and capital punishment functions as the ultimate sanction for violence
EsmaCannonball · 11/05/2021 11:37

Why are people equating sending yobs to prison with violence? Is this the same redefinition of violence as women's words being violent or misgendering being violent?

INeedNewShoes · 11/05/2021 11:34

@Redandpink

I reckon many of thier mothers were teenage pram pushers only having babies for the money and welfare benefits that goes with it.

I can't believe I just read that. Give your head a wobble. I want to say something much stronger but Mumsnet would chuck me out if I say what I think of you.

EsmaCannonball · 11/05/2021 11:33

This may sound facile, but, as any viewer of Supernanny knows, threatening your child with the naughty step only works if you send them there the first time the do whatever it is you don't want them to do, every time thereafter and for the full time threatened. If prison doesn't work it's because yobs like this aren't sent there for first and early offending, they're not sent for every offence and they do not serve their whole sentences. Prison needs to be a certainty and not a slight possibility in order for it to be any kind of deterrent. Political parties are useless on crime and it is a Red Wall issue.

Leafstamp · 11/05/2021 11:33

I don't think that's the right approach nor way to express it Sofia

camaleon · 11/05/2021 11:32

I clearly said this was 'my perspective'. Empirical claims in this field are very difficult because social and personal behaviour is very complex and you never have all the data. Or the data and intepretation depends on the collector and/or observer.

I have worked with torture cases for years from many different countries. I have a moral stand on this and I know I will always find data from my own perspective. I am very aware of my bias.

What I am saying is that we have tried violence to stop violence for centuries. Mostly male violence and replicating male patterns of violence. If this worked it would not exist or it would have been moderated.

I am in no doubt that violence is mainly male violence and we should look into it with different eyes and try different approaches.

SofiaMichelle · 11/05/2021 11:30

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