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How do you deal with mansplaining?

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Random63638 · 06/05/2021 18:13

I hate the term but I'm 99% certain I'm being contradicted by a male member of a forum I belong to because I'm female. It could be that he's just a twat and would do it to anyone though. Long and short, I'm right, he's wrong but he will not accept that. I tried supporting all my points with reputable references but they were rejected. Part of me says "walk away", "can't argue with stupid" etc but the tiger in me says "bring it on chump, I will destroy you!" But also, "fuck it, who cares" and "don't stoop to their level ". Conflicted. It's an engineering based argument btw so really not open to interpretation due to the 150 years or so of best practice and innumerable guides and standards available all over the internet for anyone who can read.

How have you responded to this ridiculous behaviour online? Any tips? Which is worst, letting the bastards have the last word or getting sucked into an argument that can never be won? Is #bekind holding me back?

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AssassinatedBeauty · 06/05/2021 19:14

You could try using an obviously male user name and making the same points again. I'd be interested to know how that goes.

Otherwise, if you've referenced all your points with reputable sources but they have been rejected out of hand - you are dealing with an irrational dogmatist who isn't interested in debate, discussion or other view points. If that's the case, then I'd look at it like you're not debating with him, you're playing to the gallery and making your points for the benefit of others. I would just finish up with a final post that states your POV pointing out that all your comments are referenced, and concluding that he is sadly wrong in his opinion. Then disengage, it's not worth any more of your time.

Monicuddle · 06/05/2021 18:39

I’ve done this before - log in again with the name John47 and restate your argument. Works every time.