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Have you/will you spoil your ballot?

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CervixSampler · 06/05/2021 13:50

Today I have for the first time ever. I know I'll be flamed by some but the available choices don't know what a woman is. I had fun with my pencil but it sits uneasy with me.

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dontSISme · 07/05/2021 08:34

Agreed @BigHuff !!

Sexism is so engrained isn't it? People don't even see it sometimes.

Cwenthryth · 07/05/2021 08:15

Yes, I wonder about the number of spoiled ballots. It was low in Hartlepool - maybe 150 or so.

There were 16 candidates - many standing on specific issue/protest platforms, so providing outlets for voters who were “none of the above” for the main parties. Also - the Hartlepool by-election is the only election today that actually is explicitly about whether those voters are pro/anti Boris Johnson’s govt. I’d be a lot, lot less likely to spoil my ballot if I’d voted there. I may even have supported the Labour candidate depending on his individual behaviour/position. So much about the tactics of how you vote for depend on where you are voting and what you are voting for (MP, council, regional, devolved parliament, city mayor etc).

BigHuff · 07/05/2021 07:43

@SassenachsWhaHae

I spoiled my constituency ballot. Spoiled ballots are counted - the count is read out too I believe. I wonder whether this election will see a significant increase in the number of spoiled ballots?
Yes, I wonder about the number of spoiled ballots. It was low in Hartlepool - maybe 150 or so.

If we eventually get to 25% of all ballots being spoiled, maybe politicians will start to pay attention.

I was also dismayed to see there were no independent candidates standing, but until (ha!) we shift to a PR system I guess standing as an independent is an exercise in losing money.

BigHuff · 07/05/2021 07:40

I spoiled my ballot. I could not in good conscience vote for any of the candidates.

For those saying "Could you not excuse the sexism/were there no other issues to vote on?" - if all the candidates were standing on a platform of racism, or homophobia, would you excuse it and vote for one of them? Would you expect a BME individual or a gay or lesbian individual to vote for one of those candidates, or would you consider it reasonable for them to spoil their ballot?

Apologies for comparing female oppression with the oppression of other groups, but female oppression is pervasively and insistently minimised. It is so accepted and normalised that it feels like sometimes the only way to get across the seriousness of sexism is to compare it with another oppression (one that affects men!)

dontSISme · 07/05/2021 07:37

I'm going to join The Friends of Lesbian Labour as soon as it's set up. They are taking email addresses right now. Just message them.

https://www.lesbianlabour.com

(Please don't vote Tory 🙏🙏🙏)

dontSISme · 07/05/2021 07:35

You can buy stickers here:

https://www.standingforwomen.com/campaign-golas

dontSISme · 07/05/2021 07:33

I did not do this lightly.
I have never not voted.

dontSISme · 07/05/2021 07:33

Along with various others, I stuck stickers on my ballot & in the booth. Planning to sticker in other places too such as public toilets.

Have you/will you spoil your ballot?
SassenachsWhaHae · 07/05/2021 06:57

I spoiled my constituency ballot. Spoiled ballots are counted - the count is read out too I believe. I wonder whether this election will see a significant increase in the number of spoiled ballots?

EdwinPootsLovesArchaeology · 07/05/2021 06:33

I spoiled by ballot for first time ever in nearly 40 years of voting and civic participation.

So scold me.

Cwenthryth · 07/05/2021 06:12

These nay-sayers with “ok, so a few people (candidates/agents) might quickly look at the spoiled ballots, but no one actually cares what they say” - erm, isn’t that kind of an issue? Whoever is elected, they are elected to represent the entire constituency, not just the people who voted for them (in most cases the minority of their constituents). And their first chance to get any feedback from constituents that didn’t support them, and they’re not interested to take more than a quick glance at the ballot papers to see if they can claim them as a vote or not. Not interested in the direct messages constituents have written to them. Well doesn’t that just sum up what is wrong with the political establishment in this country.

bytorchlight · 07/05/2021 00:22

I spoiled my constituency vote by writing "If you don't respect my sex-based rights, don't expect my vote". I voted Alba on the regional vote. I could not vote for any party who believe TWAW. Hopefully someone will notice the increased number of spoiled votes.

Sparrowfeeder · 06/05/2021 23:51

@SaorsaAlba

I spoiled my constituency vote and voted on the list.

I didn't spoil it for recognition or a pat on the back.

I spoiled it because it is my right to vote and not one of the candidates represents my views. This is the first time in my life I have spoiled a vote.

This. Me too!
Waitwhat23 · 06/05/2021 23:40

I spoiled my constituency vote (I wrote the 'No self respecting woman' quote by Susan B Anthony) purely because I couldn't bring myself to vote for any of them (and I did investigate manifestos and write to candidate to make sure I was informed).

A pp has mentioned that it would only be noticed if there was a significant number and there would only be dozens. I'm not so sure - I know quite a few people who had indicated they intended to spoil their ballot. I think the numbers might be interesting.

OppsUpsSide · 06/05/2021 23:18

For the first time I didn’t vote, now I wish I had gone and spoiled my ballot Sad

womanity · 06/05/2021 23:08

I spoiled. I wasn’t going to vote at all but couldn’t bring myself to not turn out. So I wrote woman = adult human female and drew a great big Venus symbol.

Undersnatch · 06/05/2021 22:55

I swithered but couldn’t bring myself to spoil. Have never felt so conflicted and hope i don’t regret my decision.

thinkingaboutLangCleg · 06/05/2021 22:50

I’d rather use my vote to good use instead of at pointlessly wasting it.

So would I, obviously, and I always vote. But I will never vote for a candidate or a party that’s committed to reducing women’s rights. When that only leaves the Tories, who are doing so much damage in other ways, what’s the alternative to spoiling my vote?

CervixSampler · 06/05/2021 22:47

Congressdingo I wrote pretty much the same although wheest is a new word to me and after a google I shall use it often as I love it. I felt like I was ages in the booth too but it was quiet and no queue.
As pos have said, if just one person reads my comments then my stance has been communicated. If that person then is intrigued to go home and find out more then even better. If it's a GC woman she might experience some feelings of solidarity. If the person reading then goes on to speak to friends and family about the issue and then they, or even just one person, talks to others then the word is spread and more people might wake up and realise what madness is taking over the world.

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WithLargeTableMouse · 06/05/2021 22:11

@nothingcomestonothing

I will never disrespect the women of the past who fought for the right to vote, or those women all over the world who still aren't able to freely vote, by not turning out. But I will also not disrespect the women of today by voting for any candidate or party which doesn't know (or pretends not to know) what a woman is, and why that matters. Therefore the only option I see is to spoil my ballot and write why on it. Whether anyone reads it or cares, that's the only choice I see open to me today.
Posts like this make me wish mumsnet had a like button. This is exactly how I feel but put much more eloquently than I could have done.
StillFemale · 06/05/2021 22:10

@CaptainPigeon

I spoiled my ballot because I have a hard-won right to vote and I will never, ever not use my ballot.

And I will not vote for parties who take women's votes for granted while not giving a shit about them.

So it was the only option.

Agreed CaptainPigeon I’d like the candidates to see what I wrote but if no one sees it I’m no worse off
Glenthebattleostrich · 06/05/2021 22:09

a friend of mine has another friend who stood as a candidate in the last election. He was shocked and outraged that three papers they were asked to inspect and agree were spoiled had penises drawn on them. One had sperm with little smiles on it. I was very pleased my drawing left an impression 🤣

Congressdingo · 06/05/2021 22:03

I wrote what felt like a chapter,
Woman, noun. adult human female
Women wont wheest
#labourlosing women.
Respect my sex to get my X

I was ages in the booth.
Still I feel better for making the effort.

And for all you saying they wont be read or seen or acted on, I dont care I bloody tried to get the message across. If they wont respond to my emails they might respond to lost votes next time. And if not I still did my bit.

Floisme · 06/05/2021 21:09

I wrote '#Adult human female' - shorter than I'd intended but there were people waiting. I have no illusions about it being read but if anyone does wonder why I would walk to the polling station in the rain, wait in line, and not vote, well at least it's there. Up to them.

I don't feel good about it. In fact I'm thoroughly depressed. I've been politically engaged all my adult life and I'd really hoped for an independent candidate. But there wasn't one and I will not vote again for any party that wants to remove my rights. Those posters who've been dropping by all day to scold and even explain how politics works - they helped my resolve. To those saying it would have been more effective to vote Conservative - yes you do have a point.

Pinchoftums · 06/05/2021 20:55

I emailed my local labour counsellor and said I wouldn't vote for them because of this issue. Then I voted for them because like fuck I would do ANYTHING to let the Tory bastards think that they are gaining in our area. As a feminist I see beyond this one issue and the Tories are th biggest pile of misogynists with the king of misogyny at the top

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