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Judge rules carers can help man pay for sex

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Tillymint2015 · 04/05/2021 21:42

www.liverpoolecho.co.uk/news/liverpool-news/judge-rules-carers-allowed-help-20523172

Hi, I have lurked for a while but rarely post, however I have just read this article and it makes me really uncomfortable.
A judge has ruled that carers can assist a man in their care pay for sex. The man has autism and a genetic condition and had expressed to his carer that he would like to experience sex.
I don't know what I'm trying to say, but it just poses so many questions. Will they ensure that the sex worker they find hasn't been trafficked or isn't being exploited. It just seems as if women are being treated as a commodity.

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LastRoloIsMine · 04/05/2021 23:16

TillyI know what my instincts are screaming. I assume yours are screaming the same.
But we can't say it.
We could be wrong.

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Tillymint2015 · 04/05/2021 23:05

@LastRoloIsMine I'm glad you're manager didn't get his own way.
I don't know what the solution is but it needs to be something that isn't detrimental to women.
The article mentions that the man was detained under the mental health act between 2014-2017 "significant behavioural issues in his youth including aggression and "dangerous behaviour". Which included making threats of a sexual nature, so clearly he be poses a risk to women.

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LastRoloIsMine · 04/05/2021 22:26

I nearly lost my job 10 years ago because of this.

I was a newly promoted deputy manager in a residential home. The new manager was exciting and dynamic just what we needed.
Then he held a meeting where he told the 28 out of 32 femal staff they would have to accommodate their patient's sexual needs. We were denying them their human rights if we did not facilitate porn, magazines and sex toys.

Out of 38 people we cared for 20 people only the male patient's wanted access to sexual services. Female staff were told to facilitate this.

We didn't and we complained but this was a bunch of no nonsense yorkshire women if we were younger the manager may have got his way.

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Tillymint2015 · 04/05/2021 22:18

@InsideNumberNine maybe not the same but it does open up the discussion of the whole sex industry and why do the rights of the man being cared for trump the rights of the women who care for them or the women who he wishes to purchase for sexual gratification

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InsideNumberNine · 04/05/2021 22:00

Not the same, I know!!

InsideNumberNine · 04/05/2021 22:00

My best friend gave up a very well paid job caring for a guy with an acquired brain injury because he openly watched porn in front of her and it was his right to do so. Incredibly grim.

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Tillymint2015 · 04/05/2021 21:50

@exwhyzed

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4232040-Carers-allowed-to-help-clients-visit-sex-workers

There was a thread on it last week

Thanks exwhyzed I didn't realise there was already a thread on this. I just think it sets a dangerous precedent.
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SelkieFly · 04/05/2021 21:47

I agree. Sex is not a right.

exwhyzed · 04/05/2021 21:47

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4232040-Carers-allowed-to-help-clients-visit-sex-workers

There was a thread on it last week