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How to approach trans chat with DC

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ScreamALullaby · 02/05/2021 15:55

First time OP on this board, but a long term lurker. I’m a regular name changer, but have been here for years. I love this board, and it has really opened my eyes to many things that I was vaguely aware of, but perhaps hadn’t fully realised the full extent and implications of.

I’m after advice on how to approach the subject of transitioning with my young (under 10) DD. I’ve been struggling with how to approach this for some time - really since I was randomly asked by another parent if she identified as a boy. I highly doubt this, she seems happy as a girl and is vocal about being a girl, but basically hates dresses and has the temerity to have short hair, so people assume she must want to be a boy Confused

I really don’t want to drip feed but also am keen to not be too identifying. Basically, how do I tackle this? I want her to know that being trans is not the only option for her, but also am worried that she’ll face abuse and/or pressure to conform particularly as she gets older. How would you approach this? Confused

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RandomUsernameHere · 02/05/2021 16:18

@dementedpixie

Has your child mentioned anything or is she just happy with short hair and looking vaguely boyish? Do you need to talk about transitioning if that's not something she wants to do?
Agree with this. I had short hair for a while until late primary school and was sometimes mistaken for a boy. I've never identified as a boy or felt in any way that I wanted to be one. It was simply a case of wanting short hair and not liking dresses for a period of time.
dementedpixie · 02/05/2021 16:11

Has your child mentioned anything or is she just happy with short hair and looking vaguely boyish?
Do you need to talk about transitioning if that's not something she wants to do?

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