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“You’re a feminist? So you hate men?”

63 replies

Lessthanaballpark · 01/05/2021 08:48

Imagine that you’re just chatting with friends, someone pegs that you’re a feminist and says this? What would you say?

This happens a fair bit as I work with lots of men who are generally lovely but a bit on the backlashy side. The “I’m all for equality but it’s gone too far” side. You know the type I mean Grin

How would you respond? Without killing the mood of the nice conversation. I usually just laugh and say “X, you’ve known me years and you know I love all of you losers”

But I get a bit fed up because it’s such a wilful misinterpretation and I want something witty but articulate...

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Branleuse · 01/05/2021 09:55

Say " not true. Some arent completely awful. Not you though. Youre terrible obviously"

ArabellaScott · 01/05/2021 09:53

I just wouldn't bother engaging. Smile and ignore, similar. There's no point rising to someone who is either this ignorant or trying to provoke.

RadicalFern · 01/05/2021 09:52

"No, just you."

Thecatonthemat · 01/05/2021 09:52

I can think of many reasons to hate men and be wary of them. We still manage to deal with them in most situations . I would ask why so many men hate women.

QuentinBunbury · 01/05/2021 09:44

I'd just go "yes" Grin

lazylinguist · 01/05/2021 09:38

I'd say "Wow - apparently you don't have a clue what the word 'feminist' means. Maybe look it up in a dictionary?"

Hermanfromguesswho · 01/05/2021 09:37

It’s not about putting men down. It’s about raising women to where men are already at.
Or
You could talk about all the ways feminism benefits men... if men didn’t feel it was so terrible to show their feminine side and talk about their feelings then male suicide rates may be reduced.
Men are treated as incompetent in child caring, family organisation etc. Actually you respect them enough to appreciate that’s not true..it’s the patriarchy talking

CardinalLolzy · 01/05/2021 09:36

Or just go for the inclusive version: why would I hate men when lots of men are female?

Mumoblue · 01/05/2021 09:27

Honestly at this point I just go “Yup!”

Anyone who automatically assume ‘feminist = hates men’ is either not coming from a place of good faith or just too darn stupid to waste time arguing with.

JackieWeaversZoomAc · 01/05/2021 09:12

"Feminism isn't man hating. Feminism is the radical notion that women are human. What's not to love about that? Why aren't you supporting feminists?"

CardinalLolzy · 01/05/2021 09:11

Actually I'd say something like "of course i don't hate men but I find it appalling that of the two sexes, one kills the other at a rate of two a week. I hate the fact that that happens"

JackieWeaversZoomAc · 01/05/2021 09:08

"Of course I like men - but I couldn't eat a whole one".

CardinalLolzy · 01/05/2021 09:08

Ah, I thought that misconception had been buried in the 80s!
Bless, where did you read that?

(What does the person do for a living - can you make an equally annoying assumption - "you're a psychology teacher? So you read minds? ")