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Lesbian Visibility Week

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Shizuku · 27/04/2021 11:40

Shout out to my fellow lesbians on this important week!

I will be wearing my lesbian pride badge right next to my trans pride badge for the whole week in all public spaces.

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Justhadathought · 29/04/2021 14:04

Because trans women can be lesbians. That's not for cisgender women to gatekeep

Only in their own terms and in their own company. Lesbian has a wider and easily defined context and meaning which you will have to deal with unfortunately.

ASugarr · 29/04/2021 14:02

@Justhadathought

No he doesn't at all. He actually has many friends who are lesbians and has nothing against it. But he isn't a girl. That's it. He's just not a girl

But his sex is female. Lesbians are attracted to other females.

But he's not a woman. He is a man. Lesbians are women loving women.
R0wantrees · 29/04/2021 14:02

Transgenderism & Lesbian Erasure: Julia Long
25 May 2018

AuntyFungal · 29/04/2021 14:01

Interesting if the MN (watch) Tower is now monitoring “TW were born something something” - given that the descriptors ‘male’ and ‘female’ have legal definitions & not just within the EA ‘10.

I’m happy to rise to the creative writing challenge...

Justhadathought · 29/04/2021 14:01

No he doesn't at all. He actually has many friends who are lesbians and has nothing against it. But he isn't a girl. That's it. He's just not a girl

But his sex is female. Lesbians are attracted to other females.

theThreeofWeevils · 29/04/2021 14:00

Yay! DialSquare. Good to meet a sister tardigrade ally.

I do wish there were an edit button. Tardigrades support XX women-only Lesbian space Smile

TheFnozwhowasmirage · 29/04/2021 14:00

I'm going to wear my 'cats against the patriarchy' badge too. Hurrah for badges!
Just for the record, I am not 'cis' have never been 'cis' and never will be 'cis'. I find that term incredibly offensive.

StrangeLookingParasite · 29/04/2021 13:59

However trans women are women therefore they can be lesbians if they are attracted to other women.

This is your ideology, not reality. Again, repeating a lie does not make it true.

BadGherkin · 29/04/2021 13:58

This is my badge: the law treats sex as biological and binary, and gender identity as social.

R0wantrees · 29/04/2021 13:58

Magdalen Berns
'Lesbians owning Lesbian'
16 Apr 2016

Flowers
Justhadathought · 29/04/2021 13:57

A lesbian is a same sex attracted woman/female. Gender Identity has got nothing to do with sex. By its own logic it is about an inner internal identity which is usually defined in opposition to the birth sex.

While two transwomen may very well be sexually attracted to each other, it is something other than a lesbian relationship.

DialSquare · 29/04/2021 13:56

Glad you can join in theThreeofWeevils! Tardigrades are valid! And cute.

ASugarr · 29/04/2021 13:52

@Angelica789

Asugar My brother is transgender and he's had this issue with others degrading his relationships with women calling him a lesbian when he isn't.

He views being a lesbian as degrading. It seems to me that this could well be linked to his desire to transition. If that statement was coming from a biological male it would be incredibly insulting but in light of who said it I’d be more inclined to view it as internalised homophobia.

No he doesn't at all. He actually has many friends who are lesbians and has nothing against it. But he isn't a girl. That's it. He's just not a girl.
cakedays · 29/04/2021 13:49

@AbsintheFriends

I thought we had a term for people whose sexual orientation encompassed trans people, regardless of genitalia and gender identity?

Is pansexual not a Thing anymore?

my young woke friends tell me there is huge pan/bi tension in the youth LGBTQ+ community, because pansexual is considered a term that erases bisexuality and constitutes biphobia and transphobia; and pansexuals conversely think that bisexuality is transphobic, so everyone's confused. Grin
theThreeofWeevils · 29/04/2021 13:47

@DialSquare

I'll be wearing my "Failed, Fat and Fifty" badge all week. It's nothing at all to do with a Lesbians but seeing as that doesn't seem to be a requirement to get involved, I might as well join in. Hurrah!
Think I'll dig out my Year of the Tardigrade badge, on the same principle. Very resilient wee beasties, tardigrades. And I reckon they support XX women-only space Smile
R0wantrees · 29/04/2021 13:46

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AbsintheFriends · 29/04/2021 13:46

I thought we had a term for people whose sexual orientation encompassed trans people, regardless of genitalia and gender identity?

Is pansexual not a Thing anymore?

Beowulfa · 29/04/2021 13:43

If anyone's getting weary of the incessant "female now means male, acid now means alkali, the Earth goes round the Moon etc" I recommend looking up lesbian poetry, especially the few fragments of Sappho's writing and the different translations/interpretations.

SunsetBeetch · 29/04/2021 13:38

@asugarr @shizuku

Can lesbian sex involve penises? Your thoughts?

DialSquare · 29/04/2021 13:35

I'll be wearing my "Failed, Fat and Fifty" badge all week. It's nothing at all to do with a Lesbians but seeing as that doesn't seem to be a requirement to get involved, I might as well join in. Hurrah!

Angelica789 · 29/04/2021 13:33

Asugar My brother is transgender and he's had this issue with others degrading his relationships with women calling him a lesbian when he isn't.

He views being a lesbian as degrading. It seems to me that this could well be linked to his desire to transition. If that statement was coming from a biological male it would be incredibly insulting but in light of who said it I’d be more inclined to view it as internalised homophobia.

SunsetBeetch · 29/04/2021 13:31

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KittyValentine · 29/04/2021 13:30

@TheWeeDonkey

Well I've reported this thread more than once and asked *@MNHQ* to clarify their stance on homophobic and goady posts and threads on Mumsnet being as this thread was started days ago.

Still to get a response from them so I guess the answer is that Mumsnet is in support of it. Well done @MNHQ Good job

I’ve reported it as well but so far, just the bog standard “we’re looking at it “

The goady posts on this thread are so offensive!

cakedays · 29/04/2021 13:29

Christ I hate the word "valid". You "validate" tickets, not people. How it came to be a term that is thought of as gloriously empowering, I don't know. The first time I ever heard it used in that way was satirical, when Lisa in the Simpsons keeps crying "validate me! Validate me!" It used to sound silly. Now we're all supposed to think it's essential to a happy life. How did that happen? I'm valid this lesbian visibility week, everyone! Well I don't care who thinks I'm "valid" as a lesbian as long as my rights and freedoms to be same-sex attracted are protected in law.

R0wantrees · 29/04/2021 13:28

So, regarding my last post deletion, do we now have to agree that TW were BORN FEMALE or face deletion/banning?

It would be ludicrous timing given the important recent clarification by EHCR QC at Maya Forstater's ET Appeal summarised by ANewCreation,

"Karon Monaghan QC, representing the EHRC, (the official body charged with interpreting the Equality Act 2010 and who have not been doing a good enough job, hence Ann Sinnott's case) was using the evidence of the wording of the very Equality Act itself to say that belief in the 'immutability of sex' is already a protected belief in its own words. It's in the 2010 Act.

From the EHRC submission:
"Further, the EA 2010 itself
recognises that a religious belief that sex is immutable is a protected belief.
Thus, Sch 3, para 24 provides that it is not unlawful gender reassignment
discrimination for a person approving or solemnising a marriage under
religious rites to refuse to do so if they believe that a person’s gender has been
acquired under a Gender Recognition Certificate (corresponding provision is
made in s.5B of the Marriage Act 1949); that is, because they hold a religious
belief that sex is immutable. There can be no justifiable basis in law for
distinguishing between religious or philosophical beliefs..."

The reason that 'religions' hold the belief that our Sex is immutable is because it is immutable. Settled science. Pretty much most of the world believes it too. The sky is blue, grass is green, so I agree with Trump on one thing etc.

The reason that it is included in the Equality Act is not because surprise, only some oddball religious people think sex is immutable. No. It is because of the prohibition in various religions to religious marriage of same-sex couples.

A male person and a male person who identifies as a woman approach a Catholic priest to get married in church. UK law says even if the transwoman has a GRC so is legally female, the priest is not forced to approve or solemnise the marriage against the priest's conscience or their beliefs. If the priest refuses, this is not discrimination against the protected characteristic of gender reassignment.

Yes, it would be an incredibly uncomfortable conversation. Yes, feelings might be very hurt. Yes, you personally might believe that it is offensive to prevent people marrying in a religious ceremony based on their same sex orientation. The religious belief that same-sex religious marriage should be prohibited is still protected.

The Equality Act in this section shows us

  1. that Sex is immutable (this, even according to the Act, is still two males marrying no matter the alterations to body, dress or legal status hence religious objection is legitimate and not discrimination)
  2. that the word Sex as used in the Act is about biological sex and not the social role of women and girls as the original article authors, neither of whom have a GRC, might like to believe and 3) Sex takes primacy over Gender reassignment (even though a male may have a GRC that says they are 'female', they can still be treated as the male they are in certain limited circumstances) hence the exceptions in the Equality Act - and in the GRA - for single sex spaces etc

I think it is a superb point by Karon Monaghan..."

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4230369-Maya-Forstater-is-entitled-to-her-views-but-anti-transgender-beliefs-don-t-belong-in-the-workplace?pg=5