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Knew this would happen, had to turn down job

454 replies

Trixie78 · 22/04/2021 13:23

I'm furious, have been out of work for a while. Was offered a temporary contract writing and implementating policy for a public sector organisation. Just up my street and would really have helped us out. Turns out they're Stonewall champions and are full on TWAW and have all rights to anything they want. I asked to review some of their current policies and it's all cisgender crap and lists of stuff we must and mustn't do to make all Trans people safe. We'll I've obviously had to turn down the role and worse I told the recruiter why so will probably never get a job through them now. There are companies out there that haven't bought into all this crap aren't there?

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Butwasitherdriveway · 22/04/2021 19:37

@vangoghsdog

Popcorn is a light comment about debate.

Body shaming is another issue.

Butwasitherdriveway · 22/04/2021 19:36

@VanGoghsDog

Oh I see

Perhaps you could colour code for me the threads people are allowed to disagree on.

VanGoghsDog · 22/04/2021 19:36

[quote Butwasitherdriveway]@VanGoghsDog you've embarrassed yourself there. Listening was agreeing with you....

Il add body shaming to trans shaming for this thread.[/quote]
I have not embarrassed myself. I know she was agreeing about the law, but she was trying to tell me how to do my job, which doesn't work when she doesn't know the issue.

And "I'll make popcorn" is a rude dismissive comment so I have a right to bite back on it. And please feel free to "add body shaming", if it makes you feel happy.

AssassinatedBeauty · 22/04/2021 19:36

@Butwasitherdriveway you must have a pretty shitty view of men if you think that they are unable to support women's rights simply because it's not about them.

Butwasitherdriveway · 22/04/2021 19:35

@OhHolyJesus

It's OK for feminists to dismiss , laugh at and exclude men but they need a whole movement about how mean those men are.

Projecting much?

No.

Pointing out the tedious double standards on MN.

Dailu threads about how awful men are , yet over here we can say as we like and be so utterly clever .

Butwasitherdriveway · 22/04/2021 19:34

@LostToucan

She said she was outraged for others. Why?

Oh, let’s see. Maybe it means that some people are in a financial position that means they can turn down work that is in direct conflict with their principles. And some people are living hand to mouth and wondering how to feed their kids and can’t afford to turn anything down.

Precisely.

So why would she think people who are living hand to mouth give a shit about her feminist beliefs? Some people live in the real world and not on MN .

OhHolyJesus · 22/04/2021 19:34

It's OK for feminists to dismiss , laugh at and exclude men but they need a whole movement about how mean those men are.

Projecting much?

VanGoghsDog · 22/04/2021 19:34

[quote Butwasitherdriveway]@VanGoghsDog

But this is the feminism board. So of course she will get an echo chamber of you go hun.

It's the fact you guys think this is a good thing that worries me.[/quote]
If she wants an echo chamber, she is allowed to have one. You don't get to police that.

Erkrie · 22/04/2021 19:34

Because not doing so would suggest you care about your ego than your cause.

No. It would simply suggest that I don't care that you think feminism has a bad name. Read what's on the page. Not what you think™is on the page.^ ☺️

Butwasitherdriveway · 22/04/2021 19:34

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LostToucan · 22/04/2021 19:33

She said she was outraged for others. Why?

Oh, let’s see. Maybe it means that some people are in a financial position that means they can turn down work that is in direct conflict with their principles. And some people are living hand to mouth and wondering how to feed their kids and can’t afford to turn anything down.

VanGoghsDog · 22/04/2021 19:32

@ListeningQuietly

VanGoghs But I do raise it every time and every time my manager says "oh, I didn't realize that" and every time the lawyers say it's just the way all firms are now interpreting it. Interesting I'm in the middle of a run in with a team of national lawyers who made the mistake of saying English Law says to me and I replied with which clause ? They have presumed but have no evidence at all to support their assumption and when I checked with my Institute and PII they said bring it on

Interpretation without case law
that contradicts legislation.gov.uk
is a malpractice suit in the waiting

I'll start making the popcorn

Since you don't know what issue I'm actually talking about, and for anonymity reasons I'm not disclosing it nor the type of industry, your reply doesn't make sense I'm afraid.

And there is case law, it's just being applied incorrectly. And this is common across many companies including the one the OP is talking about.

Enjoy your popcorn, try not to get too fat.

Butwasitherdriveway · 22/04/2021 19:31

@Erkrie

I don't care if you think feminism has a bad name. Why would I? ☺️
Because not doing so would suggest you care about your ego than your cause.

@Lordamighty that's absolutely fine. Equally, don't expect any men to support you.

Erkrie · 22/04/2021 19:31

If my feminism excludes men then I am happy with my preferences

Me too.

Lordamighty · 22/04/2021 19:30

If my feminism excludes men then I am happy with my preferences.

Erkrie · 22/04/2021 19:29

I don't care if you think feminism has a bad name. Why would I? ☺️

Butwasitherdriveway · 22/04/2021 19:28

@Erkrie

Men

Lol

Quite.

It's OK for feminists to dismiss , laugh at and exclude men but they need a whole movement about how mean those men are.

This is why feminism gets a bad name.

Butwasitherdriveway · 22/04/2021 19:27

@VanGoghsDog

But this is the feminism board. So of course she will get an echo chamber of you go hun.

It's the fact you guys think this is a good thing that worries me.

Erkrie · 22/04/2021 19:26

Men

Lol

ListeningQuietly · 22/04/2021 19:26

VanGoghs
But I do raise it every time and every time my manager says "oh, I didn't realize that" and every time the lawyers say it's just the way all firms are now interpreting it.
Interesting
I'm in the middle of a run in with a team of national lawyers who made the mistake of saying
English Law says to me
and I replied with which clause ?
They have presumed but have no evidence at all to support their assumption
and when I checked with my Institute and PII they said bring it on

Interpretation without case law
that contradicts legislation.gov.uk
is a malpractice suit in the waiting

I'll start making the popcorn

Butwasitherdriveway · 22/04/2021 19:26

@Erkrie

The reason feminists get a bad rep is because of feminists like you who exclude half if not more of society

What half would that be then? ☺️

Men.
Butwasitherdriveway · 22/04/2021 19:26

@Lordamighty

Butwasitherdriveway

Feminism is about biological females, who else could it be about? The clue is in the name.

About is different to for.
Erkrie · 22/04/2021 19:25

The reason feminists get a bad rep is because of feminists like you who exclude half if not more of society

What half would that be then? ☺️

Butwasitherdriveway · 22/04/2021 19:25

@Erkrie

Not all of us start beating our chests at the sound of TWAW or stonewall.

I doubt anyone else is doing that here either. Apart from the cat. Maybe. ☺️

We need actual reasons.

You don't need actual reasons. You just want them. ☺️

I need them to form an opinion, as opposed to people supporting her where in actual fact you have no clue if she's right or not.

Do you not think it's worrying we are celebrating other women turning down jobs based on , well, nothing?

Erkrie · 22/04/2021 19:25

You absolutely can, but don't pretend I haven't addressed OP just because you also requested a personal response.

Did I request a personal response? I don't believe I did. 🤔 Very kind of you to provide me with one though. I feel special and flattered now ☺️