Losing friends

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Alonelonelylonersbadidea · 20/04/2021 20:40

Hello Sisters

I just need to vent. Sorry. I just went on FB (I know. My first mistake) and saw that an old friend has unfriended me. We've known each other for 20 years. We were a reasonably tight group of friends but I've lost a lot over the last couple of years due to my (and I quote), "raving transphobia'. I only just saw that she's one of them. It hurts.
It is shit. The thing is I know that many of our mutual friends feel the same way about safe spaces and so on, they just don't say anything. I really cared about her. Suddenly realised that we hadn't chatted in a while and thought I'd check on her FB before messaging. And all I saw was that she doesn't want to know me anymore. Our mutual friends are still there.

The thing is, my opinion doesn't change, but I do feel sometimes like humanity itself is gaslighting me! I'm sorry. I hope it was ok for me to vent. I don't honestly know who my friends are anymore. It's like Hungary during the purges.

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Diaryofamadwoman · 20/04/2021 20:55

Solidarity flowers

I've distanced myself from many friends because there are some aggressive wokescolds in some of groups. I'm no longer able to smile and nod for the sake of keeping the peace so I just avoid (which at least is easy during a pandemic)

I would so love to make new like minded connections IRL

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Alonelonelylonersbadidea · 20/04/2021 20:53

Thank you for your support @Biscuitsanddoombar and @persistentwoman . They mean more than you know. I needed to feel less like a pariah and your words have really helped. Thank you.

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persistentwoman · 20/04/2021 20:50

So sorry OP. It's so difficult. We should be a society where these challenging issues can be discussed respectfully and the evident impact of competing 'rights' can be negotiated. But social media isn't allowing this.
I'm tempted to say that she's no true friend but I know that many good people have been gaslighted by the misinformation and demands to 'be kind' at all costs. The tide is starting to turn - very very slowly - and it's why it's all so intolerant at the moment. People are 'dug in' shouting abuse and we desperately need leaders who can model respectful debate.

Biscuitsanddoombar · 20/04/2021 20:47

Hugs OP its happened to me & it is hurtful. Sometimes friendships are not for ever but just for a certain part of your life xx

And vent as much as you want

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