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Help explain non binary

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Educationneeded · 17/04/2021 17:09

Hi, thread was inspired by the other about coming out as GC. I have name changed as I’m not ready to be outed so just incase.

I am GC, although only have expressed my views to close friends and family. My younger sister is due to go up to high school in September and six months ago came out as non binary. We all believe this decision was heavily influenced by TikTok and the wokeness on there.

My parents don’t really understand. My Dad just rolls his eyes but my Mum wants to learn however doesn’t know much on the subject and has asked me to talk to my sister. I have no idea how to even approach the topic with her. Anyone have any guidance? Anything I can tell or show my Mum? I’ve read a lot on trans and women’s right but not much on non binary and don’t really know where to start with this minefield. I guess I’d like to educate myself too.

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midgedude · 28/04/2021 17:20

If there are opposites then I guess there is only 2 in which case are you saying none binary doesn't exist?

Letsgetreadytocrumble · 28/04/2021 17:17

It doesn't mean that their gender identity is disordered, only that for some reason, their body produced the opposite one to the one that is normally produced.

Their body produced the opposite what?

Letsgetreadytocrumble · 28/04/2021 17:16

It's like diagnosing a migraine. The doctor could do all kinds of scans and tests that might show up certain anomalies or not, but actually, they just go by what you tell them, and prescribe accordingly.

But a migraine is an illness/medical condition. We are told that being trans is not an illness so its not a good comparison.

Trans is also always compared with being gay, but you don't 'diagnose' homosexuality and you certainly don't 'prescribe' anything for it. It's just a descriptor for what one likes.

ArabellaScott · 28/04/2021 17:08

You are arguing the 'brain in the wrong body', I take it, Shizuku.

ArabellaScott · 28/04/2021 17:07

It doesn't mean that their gender identity is disordered, only that for some reason, their body produced the opposite one to the one that is normally produced.

so, it's their body that's disordered?

Winederlust · 28/04/2021 16:47

*face

Winederlust · 28/04/2021 16:47

Anorexia is disordered thinking. Gender identity is perfectly natural and normal. The problem for trans people is that their gender identity doesn't match the sex they were assigned at birth. It doesn't mean that their gender identity is disordered, only that for some reason, their body produced the opposite one to the one that is normally produced.

I just can't get over that people come out with this stuff with a straight fave, and even believe it to be true.

Also, going back to to the OP, how do you square this hypothesis with non-binary? It makes ZERO sense.

SirVixofVixHall · 28/04/2021 14:32

Shizuku “When those boys who were raised as girls, without knowing they were really boys, spontaneously stated they felt they were boys, that’s gender identity “
Er what now ? That is SEX.

Wrongsideofhistorymyarse · 28/04/2021 14:03

Well of course - I'm trans so I'm inherently evil.

Don't be daft Shizuku.

MarshaBradyo · 28/04/2021 13:45

And I appreciate the non use of cis. As I do find it offensive, as do many on here.

MarshaBradyo · 28/04/2021 13:44

How about a compromise - I won't refer to people who aren't trans as "cis", if you won't refer to trans people as the sex they were assigned at birth?

I wouldn’t say assigned but observed at birth. Embryos are XX or XY (and rare cases of triple) and this is observed at birth or can be determined very early on.

But no I won’t use the sex based term if not welcome.

But I will use woman / female for me and fight against the erasure of these sex based words. Also uphold sex based rights.

I will also use the preferred pronoun but I won’t be forced to declare them.

I won’t tell dc they can change sex but will say that some identify differently.

I think I’ve covered what I think, albeit very quickly.

Helleofabore · 28/04/2021 13:28

Well of course - I'm trans so I'm inherently evil.

Really? You are stating that you are evil due to being trans? Or are you labelling all trans people as evil?

Or are you are making a show of again putting words into poster's mouths with your usual all or nothing arguments?

I follow quite a few different trans people on social media and have conversations with them. I, for one, don't associate the two as synonymous.

I don't think you will find anyone on this board who does think the two are linked in anyway. And I don't believe people have said this. I have noticed you use this hyperbole lately though.

acatcalledjohn · 28/04/2021 13:23

And no, same sexism my arse.

Sophoclesthefox · 28/04/2021 13:23

Absolutely, notbad

acatcalledjohn · 28/04/2021 13:23

You are deflecting. Young transitioners are subject to the same sexism as girls who don't happen to be trans because no one can tell they are trans.

Such a shame that they are physically harmed for life by preventing puberty, and then further at risk of medical misdiagnoses because of physical differences between males and females.

Not to mention that there is no evidence that physically transitioning fixes dysmorphia. So in essence you have a load of butchered bodies with mental health issues.

But that's ok. Because, progression?

Helleofabore · 28/04/2021 13:22

I would class being trans as a DSD, and expect that will become an official position at some point.

I am pretty sure that you will be eternally disappointed then.

Differences of sex development is not anything to do with being trans. And having a DSD is a medical condition. You keep telling us that being trans is not a medical condition. Considering there are clear diagnosis parameters for DSD and seemingly nothing concrete for the other. And apparently a patient does not have to have gender dysphoria to be trans, so what even are you diagnosing.

I think this really does reflect disordered thinking.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 28/04/2021 13:04

It sounds like you are making an argument for compelled speech.

Not at all. Just evenhandedness. There are some arguably useful terms which the feminists here can't use, as they are recognised as inflammatory and not conducive to civil discussion. And the same applies to some genderist terms.

NotBadConsidering · 28/04/2021 12:50

It's like diagnosing a migraine. The doctor could do all kinds of scans and tests that might show up certain anomalies or not, but actually, they just go by what you tell them, and prescribe accordingly.

So it’s not like CAIS then. It’s like something else.

Well of course - I'm trans so I'm inherently evil.

I had no idea you are trans. And I described your behaviour as offensive, not your identity. Which it is. Daily. Lack of empathy, understanding, appropriation, aggressive in your posts, dismissive. I don’t think that’s because you’re trans, because I didn’t know, I think that’s just you.

I have long advocated for a biological marker of someone’s gender identity in comparison to their sex. I think all of the campaign efforts should be put towards this, get millions of dollars and pounds put into it. Don’t you think it would be fantastic Shizuku, to finally have a test to back up your basis for a biological explanation of gender identity mismatch? You say you’re trans, would you take such a test?

Do you think there would be a rush of people desperate to take such a test? Would people like Danielle Muscato, Alex Drummond, Eddie Izzard be rushing out for it? Would Izzard’s markers fluctuate depending on which mode Eddie was in? Or whether Eddie had an acting job that day or not?

I’m sure, given your current commitment to explaining a biological model by misusing science, having some actual science to back you up would be fantastic, don’t you think? Let’s campaign for that.

Shizuku · 28/04/2021 12:38

@NotBadConsidering

Think of it like CAIS where someone with testes and XY cromosomes is born with a vulva. That vulva is not disordered - it's a normal healthy vulva, but it's the opposite genital configuration to the one typically associated with XY chromosomes.

CAIS can be diagnosed with objective measurements of karyotype - XY - the presence of testes visible on a scan, and high testosterone levels.

How do you diagnose a trans person’s identity being one thing and their body producing “the opposite one to the one that is normally produced”? You can’t. It’s a ridiculously offensive comparison.

Your appropriation of DSDs is another chalk line on the board of the list of your offensive behaviours.

"How do you diagnose a trans person’s identity being one thing and their body producing “the opposite one to the one that is normally produced”? You can’t."

It's like diagnosing a migraine. The doctor could do all kinds of scans and tests that might show up certain anomalies or not, but actually, they just go by what you tell them, and prescribe accordingly.

"Your appropriation of DSDs is another chalk line on the board of the list of your offensive behaviours."

Well of course - I'm trans so I'm inherently evil.

NotBadConsidering · 28/04/2021 12:26

Think of it like CAIS where someone with testes and XY cromosomes is born with a vulva. That vulva is not disordered - it's a normal healthy vulva, but it's the opposite genital configuration to the one typically associated with XY chromosomes.

CAIS can be diagnosed with objective measurements of karyotype - XY - the presence of testes visible on a scan, and high testosterone levels.

How do you diagnose a trans person’s identity being one thing and their body producing “the opposite one to the one that is normally produced”? You can’t. It’s a ridiculously offensive comparison.

Your appropriation of DSDs is another chalk line on the board of the list of your offensive behaviours.

Shizuku · 28/04/2021 12:23

@midgedude

To be precise

DSD are not a mismatch between mental image and body

Anorexia and trans are

Sorry, to be more precise - being trans and having a DSD both involve a mismatch between some sex characteristics. I would class being trans as a DSD, and expect that will become an official position at some point.
Shizuku · 28/04/2021 12:21

@midgedude

To be precise

DSD are not a mismatch between mental image and body

Anorexia and trans are

They both involve a mismatch between some sex characteristics.
Shizuku · 28/04/2021 12:20

@midgedude

Sorry but you do talk such rubbish
That's not a very good argument, but you do you I guess.
midgedude · 28/04/2021 12:20

To be precise

DSD are not a mismatch between mental image and body

Anorexia and trans are

midgedude · 28/04/2021 12:16

Sorry but you do talk such rubbish

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